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How to Actually Change Your Life This Year

In this episode, the host discusses how to change your life and achieve your goals. She shares her own experiences and provides practical tips for self-motivation and personal growth.

Tips for Changing Your Life

• The host emphasizes the importance of feeling inspired and motivated before embarking on a journey of personal transformation.

• Many people ask the question of how to go after their goals and create their dream life. The host acknowledges that pursuing unconventional careers or putting oneself out there can be challenging but rewarding.

• The host shares that she has successfully changed her own life by believing in herself and taking specific actions. She believes these tips can apply to various situations, whether it's becoming a content creator, starting a business, or simply being more productive.

• The host offers a variety of practical ways to take control of one's life and achieve desired goals. These tips are designed to be easily implemented into daily routines.

• The host acknowledges the overwhelming amount of self-help information available online but assures listeners that she has condensed it into actionable steps for realistic progress.

• January is traditionally seen as a time for self-reflection and goal-setting, but the host suggests regular check-ins every three months to maintain focus throughout the year.

Importance of Self-Reflection

• The host mentions Trinity's advice about revisiting goals beyond just January. She encourages listeners to engage in self-reflection and goal reassessment, particularly during the current season (Spring).

• The host shares her personal experience of forgetting her original intentions and needing to refer back to her vision board. Regular self-reflection helps maintain clarity and intentionality.

• The host contemplates whether to include a recap of her own experiences at the beginning of each episode. She asks for listener feedback on whether they find it valuable or prefer to dive straight into the main topic.

Personal Update

• The host mentions feeling hectic but grateful due to upcoming plans for Coachella. She acknowledges the additional workload of managing a YouTube channel and now a podcast.

• The host expresses excitement about attending Coachella with friends but acknowledges the need for extensive pre-filming and preparation before leaving.

• The host shares that she has been dedicating time to workout and eat well in preparation for the trip, as it makes her feel more confident and energized.

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Focusing on Personal Well-being

The speaker discusses their efforts to prioritize personal well-being, including avoiding eating out and getting good sleep. They mention wanting to look good for an upcoming event.

Taking Care of Appearance

• The speaker mentions trying not to eat out and get good sleep to improve their appearance.

• They express a desire to look good for an upcoming event.

Success of the Podcast

The speaker expresses excitement about the success of their podcast, mentioning its ranking in Spotify's top 100 and charting in various categories.

Podcast Achievements

• The podcast is performing better than expected, ranking in Spotify's top 100 and charting in the UK.

• It is also charting in the self-help and personal stories categories.

• Apple may highlight the podcast soon.

• The speaker finds motivation in reading listeners' direct messages (DMs).

Purpose of Helping Others

The speaker emphasizes that they do the podcast not only for themselves but also to help and teach others. They express gratitude towards their audience for supporting them.

Motivation from Helping Others

• The speaker finds it meaningful to have a purpose beyond themselves, which is helping and teaching others.

• They feel inspired by knowing that their work is positively impacting listeners.

• Expresses gratitude towards the audience for their support.

Empowering Listeners

The speaker encourages listeners to take control of their lives, emphasizing that they are the creators of their own stories. They acknowledge privilege but offer tips applicable to different situations.

Taking Control of Life

• Listeners are reminded that they hold the power to shape their own lives.

• Acknowledges privilege but offers advice applicable regardless of one's situation.

Taking Responsibility for Life

The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's life and not waiting for external factors to change. They discuss the role of habits in shaping one's current situation.

Importance of Responsibility

• Taking full responsibility for one's life is crucial.

• Waiting for others or circumstances to change is not productive.

• Current life situations are often a result of habits and daily choices.

Self-Compassion and Shadow Work

The speaker encourages self-compassion when reflecting on one's current situation. They mention the importance of shadow work, which they define as being aware of and consciously making changes to avoid falling into negative patterns.

Self-Compassion and Reflection

• Encourages self-compassion when evaluating one's life situation.

• Reflecting on personal happiness can be challenging but necessary.

Shadow Work

• Defines shadow work as being aware of negative patterns and consciously making changes to avoid them.

• Expresses interest in creating a dedicated episode on shadow work.

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Understanding the Shadow Self

In this section, the speaker discusses the concept of the shadow self and its importance in personal growth and self-awareness.

The Shadow Self

• The shadow self refers to hidden aspects of ourselves that we repress or find uncomfortable to deal with.

• These hidden aspects can include deep-rooted feelings like jealousy or unresolved traumas from the past.

• It represents our inner thoughts and emotions that we don't show to the world or even consciously think about.

Embracing the Shadow Self

• By acknowledging and embracing our shadow self, we can gain more self-awareness, self-acceptance, and personal growth.

• This process helps us identify triggers and patterns that may arise from our shadow self.

• Acknowledging limiting beliefs that stem from our shadow self is an important part of healing and moving forward.

Believing in Yourself for Personal Growth

This section focuses on the significance of believing in oneself for personal growth and achieving goals.

Developing a Growth Mindset

• Believing in oneself is crucial for personal growth.

• Having a growth mindset involves believing that you can achieve your goals and milestones.

• It may require overcoming limiting beliefs instilled during childhood or negative experiences.

Putting in Effort

• Belief alone is not enough; one must also put in the necessary work to achieve their goals.

• Meaningful accomplishments take time, effort, and perseverance.

Building Confidence

• Believing in yourself builds confidence as you realize your capabilities and accomplishments.

• Others will also be inspired by your confidence, leading to further support and encouragement.

Importance of Self-Belief for Success

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of self-belief for success and shares personal experiences.

Self-Belief as a Foundation

• Self-belief is essential as it forms the foundation for success.

• It requires having faith in oneself, even when others may doubt or discourage you.

Personal Experience

• The speaker shares their personal experience of believing in themselves and achieving success in their career.

• They highlight the importance of self-belief before seeking validation from others.

Independence and Confidence

• While support from others can be valuable, ultimately, one must rely on themselves and their own belief to succeed.

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Belief in oneself

In this section, the speaker discusses their strong belief in themselves and how it has helped them overcome doubts and achieve success.

Having a strong mindset

• The speaker had a strong belief in themselves from the beginning.

• They believed that if others can achieve something, they can too.

• People from their past often ask if they expected their success, but the speaker always believed in themselves.

Overcoming self-doubt

• The speaker shares an example of a friend who was hesitant to pursue her passion project due to self-doubt.

• The friend questioned why she should succeed when there are so many others who could be better.

• The speaker emphasizes that there is room for everyone and encourages a positive mindset.

Choosing to believe in oneself

• The speaker advises switching the mindset from "why me?" to "why not me?"

• Believing in oneself is essential for achieving goals and dreams.

• Hard work combined with self-belief can lead to success.

Everything is here to help us

In this section, the speaker discusses the power of choosing to believe that everything is here to help us. This mindset shift can lead to personal growth and positive change.

Victim mentality vs. opportunity for growth

• We have a choice between seeing ourselves as victims or as individuals given opportunities for change and growth.

• Embracing the belief that everything is here to help us allows us to see differently and expand our perspectives.

Choosing discomfort or believing in luck

• We can choose whether we want to stay stuck in discomfort or embrace the idea that we have a purpose.

• The speaker mentions the "lucky girl syndrome" where lucky things happen because of a positive mindset.

Affirming luck and gratitude

• Affirmations play a role in reinforcing a positive mindset.

• The speaker suggests affirming being the luckiest person in the world and expressing gratitude for good things that happen.

Signs and purpose

• The speaker mentions a friend who sees everything as signs and believes they have a purpose.

• While not everything may be a sign, having this mindset can bring positivity and motivation.

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Recognizing Signs and Making Changes

In this section, the speaker discusses the concept of signs and how they can be interpreted as messages from spirit guides. They emphasize the importance of believing that positive things happen for a reason. To make real changes in life, one must be open to putting themselves out there, embracing change, and being okay with failure and discomfort.

Embracing Change and Overcoming Fear

• Believing that everything happens for a reason is essential in making real changes in life.

• Being open to change and willing to step out of one's comfort zone is necessary for personal growth.

• Fear of failure or embarrassment often holds people back from trying new things.

• The speaker shares a personal experience from their gymnastics days where they fell repeatedly while attempting a challenging skill on the beam.

• Despite the embarrassment, they learned that as long as they kept trying, they wouldn't get in trouble with their coaches.

• Embracing failure and learning from it has been a valuable life skill for them.

Being Cringy and Authenticity in Social Media

• It is important to be okay with being cringy when pursuing goals in fields like social media.

• Putting oneself out there authentically can be scary due to fear of judgment or negative perception.

• Successful individuals at the top have likely experienced embarrassing moments or failures along their journey.

• Self-employed individuals need to put in extra effort, sometimes feeling like "tryhards," especially in competitive fields like social media.

Importance of Trying Again and Being Persistent

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the significance of persistence and resilience when facing challenges. They encourage viewers to keep trying even after failures or setbacks because success often comes after multiple attempts.

Embracing Failure and Trying Again

• It is crucial to be okay with failing and being willing to try again, even if it feels embarrassing or uncomfortable.

• Success often comes after multiple failures or slip-ups.

• Trying from different angles, perspectives, or with different approaches can lead to breakthroughs.

• The speaker encourages viewers to embrace failure, learn from it, and move forward without dwelling on past mistakes.

Belief in Oneself and Authenticity

• Being authentically oneself is essential for success in fields like social media.

• People who reach the top have believed in themselves regardless of external judgments.

• Self-employed individuals need to work hard and sometimes feel like they are trying too hard compared to their competition.

• Comparing oneself to others can hinder progress; focusing on personal growth and authenticity is key.

Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this final section, the speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of embracing change, being persistent, and staying true to oneself. They highlight that success often comes from believing in oneself and being authentic.

Embracing Change and Staying True to Oneself

• Embracing change is necessary for personal growth and making real changes in life.

• Being persistent despite setbacks or failures leads to eventual success.

• Staying true to oneself is crucial in competitive fields like social media.

• Comparing oneself to others can hinder progress; focus on personal growth instead.

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The importance of trying hard and setting goals to change your life.

Trying Hard and Believing in Yourself

• It's important to put effort into pursuing your passions and goals, even if it feels like others are only showing their highlight reels.

• Being a tryhard is not a bad thing; it shows that you have faith, belief, and potential in what you're doing.

• Pairing belief and mindset with hard work and dedication will ultimately lead you to where you want to be.

• Changing your life requires hard work, but the rewards are worth it.

Setting Goals and Intentions

• Setting goals and intentions is crucial for personal growth and success.

• Regardless of age or profession, everyone should regularly set goals for themselves.

• Setting goals gives purpose and drive, motivating you to be your best self.

• Vision boards can be an effective tool for visualizing your aspirations and reminding yourself of what you want to achieve.

Monthly Goals for Achieving Success

• Making monthly goals helps achieve long-term objectives by constantly refreshing them and providing satisfaction when crossed off.

• Ensure that your goals are achievable and attainable, starting with smaller milestones before reaching the ultimate long-term goal.

• Avoid overwhelming yourself with too many goals; they should inspire rather than taunt or cause anxiety.

Habit Stacking for Goal Achievement

• Reading the book "Atomic Habits" can provide inspiration on achieving goals through habit stacking.

• Habit stacking involves combining multiple habits into an autopilot sequence to make them easier to incorporate into your daily routine.

• For example, if your goal is to drink more water and go to the gym, you can associate drinking a full water bottle with driving to the gym.

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In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of creating a daily routine that works for oneself and encourages personal growth and change.

Creating a Personal Routine

• It is not necessary to follow a perfect routine found online; instead, focus on finding a routine that works for you .

• By slowly adding new habits into your life, you can inspire and motivate yourself to make positive changes .

• Acknowledge that nothing will change if you continue with negative habits and be open to trying different routines to find what works best for you .

Allowing Yourself to Evolve

• Don't be afraid to make big changes in your life, even if it means others may perceive you differently .

• You have the power to evolve, change perceptions of yourself, and create a new version of who you want to be .

Taking Control of Thoughts and Surroundings

• Remember that you are in control of your thoughts, self-talk, the content you consume, and the people you surround yourself with .

• Be cautious of negative thoughts and actively switch them to more positive ones for a happier mindset .

Continuous Improvement

• Strive to be 1% better every day in whatever area or activity you want to improve upon .

• Success comes from putting in countless hours of work towards your goals .

Believe in Yourself and Make Positive Changes

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of believing in oneself and actively making decisions and changes to achieve personal goals. They highlight that no one else will do the work for you, and success is attainable with effort and self-belief.

Taking Responsibility for Your Life

• The speaker encourages listeners to believe in themselves and actively make decisions and changes in their lives.

• It is emphasized that everyone has the potential to achieve what they want, but the difference lies in the effort put in and self-belief.

• Acknowledging one's past experiences or lack of support is important, but it should not hinder taking responsibility for one's life.

• Choosing to believe in oneself, surrounding oneself with positive influences, and adopting a positive mindset are key steps towards personal growth.

Embracing Positivity

• The speaker encourages choosing happy thoughts, surrounding oneself with uplifting people, and believing that good things are always happening.

• Listeners are invited to DM three affirmations about themselves as a way to reinforce positive self-perception.

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