How To Talk About Sex With A Dismissive Avoidant | Understanding Attachment Styles
How to Talk About Sex with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
In this video, Tais Gibson talks about how to talk about sex with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. She highlights some key themes when there is a dismissive avoidant with other attachment styles.
Key Themes for Talking About Sex with a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
- State your opinion and feelings about your situation and experience in the situation rather than a judgment about the situation or the person.
- Try not to be critical as dismissive avoidants easily perceive things as criticism because they usually don't have a lot of positive emotional modeling.
- Use the sandwich approach where you say something you like and appreciate about your sex life, then say something that you feel like you want to work on or do more of, share it from your perspective, and then say something else encouraging or validating at the end.
- Try to avoid pressure. Don't pressure someone into the situation or keep at it just make sure you share that this is important and see your needs through.
Overall, it's important to communicate clearly and effectively without being critical or pressuring. Using validation and appreciation can help create a safe space for communication.
Key Points on Intimacy
In this section, the speaker provides key points on intimacy and suggests resources for a deeper dive into the topic.
Key Points:
- Intimacy involves communication of wounds that each attachment style has to work through.
- The Attachment Cells and Sex course is available for free for seven days by clicking the link in the description box below.
- The speaker is offering an eight-week program called Integrated Attachment Theory Coaching. This program teaches how to be a relationship coach or work one-on-one with people to reprogram and heal their attachment cells and traumas from childhood related to attachments. It includes over 35 hours of training with three months of follow-up webinars, teaching about building a business, working with clients, and obtaining certification.
Conclusion
In this section, the speaker concludes by summarizing what was covered in the video and promoting their coaching program.
Key Points:
- The speaker concludes by thanking viewers for watching and summarizes what was covered in the video.
- The Integrated Attachment Theory Coaching program is promoted as a resource for those interested in learning more about attachment theory coaching.