BEKARLIK | Harbi Hayatlar | Röportaj Adam

Introduction

The speaker introduces the topic of marriage and being single. He talks about his personal experience with marriage and how he is currently single.

Being Single

• The speaker mentions that he is currently single at 40 years old.

• He talks about how being single can be enjoyable and that he personally enjoys it.

• The speaker mentions that he was previously married but had some issues with his ex-wife.

Marriage Statistics

The speaker discusses statistics related to marriage in Istanbul, Turkey.

Marriage Rates

• The number of people getting married in Istanbul has decreased by approximately 8% over the past 5 years.

• There are many people who are victims of alimony payments in Istanbul.

Personal Experience with Marriage

The speaker shares his personal experience with marriage and divorce.

Divorce Experience

• The speaker mentions that he had some problems with his ex-wife which led to their divorce.

• He talks about how their issues were publicized on the internet for everyone to see.

• Despite his negative experience, the speaker acknowledges that being single can also be enjoyable.

Other People's Experiences with Marriage

The speaker discusses other people's experiences with marriage and relationships.

Social Worker's Perspective

• A social worker named Volkan Öge believes that some people may have addiction problems such as gambling or alcoholism which can lead to problems in a relationship.

Playboys vs. Relationships

• Some men may act like playboys on social media but struggle to communicate face-to-face with women they meet in person.

• One man believes that love kills relationships while another thinks it is important to get married once and then get divorced if necessary.

Marriage and Relationships

The speaker discusses the topic of marriage and relationships in more detail.

Marriage as an Investment

• Some people view marriage as an investment, similar to investing in the stock market.

• The speaker believes that it is important to get to know someone well before getting married.

Negative Aspects of Marriage

• Some people believe that marriage can bring out a person's true colors and lead to negative behaviors such as addiction or infidelity.

• Divorce can be a painful process for everyone involved, especially children.

Effects of Divorce

The speaker talks about the effects of divorce on families and individuals.

Negative Effects of Divorce

• Divorce can be a difficult process for children, parents, and other family members.

• Lawyers and other professionals may become involved in the divorce process which can make things even more complicated.

Personal Life Update

The speaker gives an update on his personal life.

Current Relationships

• The speaker mentions that he has three long-term relationships but has not met any of them in person yet.

• He enjoys spending money and living life to the fullest.

Miscellaneous Topics

The speaker discusses various topics related to his personal life.

Borrowing Money

• The speaker asks someone if they can borrow 300 lira to pay their phone bill.

Car Enthusiast

• The speaker shows off his car and talks about how much he loves it.

Introduction

In this section, the speaker talks about his past and how he was selective with women. He also mentions that he is a single father and sometimes struggles with balancing both parental roles.

Selective with Women

• The speaker mentions that in his youth, he was very handsome and had many girls interested in him.

• However, he was selective and wanted someone special like his ex-wife.

• He reveals that he wanted to keep her virginity for himself but when no one bought it, she remained unmarried.

Struggles of Being a Single Parent

• The speaker talks about how being a single parent can be challenging because he has to play both the mother and father role.

• He shares an anecdote where one of his children complained about the food not having enough salt and then stormed off after being told to add salt themselves.

Disliking Parenthood

In this section, the speaker expresses his dislike for parenthood despite loving his children. He wishes that he did not have any children as it would make him happier.

Love for Children but Dislike for Parenthood

• The speaker clarifies that while he loves his children as individuals, he dislikes parenthood as a whole.

• He shares an example where one of his children came to complain about something another child did but didn't realize they were going to tell on them too.

• The speaker wishes that he did not have any children as it would make him happier.

Marriage and Financial Issues

In this section, the speaker talks about marriage programs and financial issues related to marriage.

Marriage Programs

• The speaker mentions that he has been on marriage programs before but nothing ever came out of them.

• He jokes about how people think love is easy but it's not.

Financial Issues Related to Marriage

• The speaker talks about how people think that getting married will solve their financial problems.

• He shares an anecdote where he used to pay his ex-wife's car payments and now pays her alimony.

• The speaker warns against relying on gold gifts from weddings as they may end up being used for debt or given away to friends.

Business and Personal Life

In this section, the speaker talks about business and personal life.

Business

• The speaker mentions that they have been trying to contact a certain customer who has been late with payments.

• They discuss different products such as white paint.

Personal Life

• The speaker expresses his desire to get married but not with just any woman.

• He jokes about how he would rather be hit by a car than marry someone he doesn't love.

• The speaker clarifies that he would never marry a woman who is already married.