how I manage to start a conversation with anyone

Starting Conversations with Random Strangers

In this section, the speaker discusses a five-step process for starting conversations with random strangers and creating long-term friendships. The first step involves considering proximity and eye contact when selecting people to approach.

Step 1: Proximity and Eye Contact

• Approach people who are within one or two meters of you to ensure they can hear you without yelling.

• Start conversations with individuals who make brief eye contact, as it indicates their acknowledgement of your presence.

Step 2: Ask Where They're From

• After making eye contact, ask the person where they are from.

• This question works well in diverse cities or places where people come from different backgrounds.

• If everyone is from the same ethnic background, adjust the question to ask about their part of town.

Step 3: Share Knowledge or Ask Questions

• Share something you know about their background or ask them a question related to it.

• Show genuine interest in learning more about their culture or experiences.

• Use examples like mentioning rumors about their country or sharing interesting facts you've heard.

Step 4: Branch Out the Conversation

• Once you've established a connection, branch out into other topics such as what they do, their thoughts on the current location, or current events.

• This step is crucial for building rapport and can last anywhere from a minute to an hour.

Step 5: Invite Them Out and Remember Their Name

• If you enjoy talking to the person and think you'll have a good time hanging out with them, invite them for drinks or a meal.

• When you see them again, mention their name once to show that you remembered it.

This five-step process provides guidance on how to start conversations with anyone and potentially develop long-lasting friendships.