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7 STAGES of Trauma Bond, NOT LOVE
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7 STAGES of Trauma Bond, NOT LOVE

Understanding Trauma Bonding in Relationships

The video discusses the concept of trauma bonding in relationships, highlighting its toxic nature and providing insights into the stages involved in trauma bonding.

Trauma Bonding Explained

  • Trauma bonding is often mistaken for love and occurs in abusive relationships where victims form emotional bonds with abusers.
  • Understanding the seven stages of trauma bonding is crucial for breaking free from destructive cycles and avoiding heartbreak in future relationships.

Stages of Trauma Bonding

  • Love Bomb Stage: Initial phase characterized by intense connection, shared interests, overwhelming affection, attention, gifts, and appreciation.
  • Devalue Stage: Transition to criticism, coldness, impatience, and acts of cruelty after moments of love and kindness.
  • Discard Stage: Emotional withdrawal leading to isolation from important people in one's life to deepen the trauma bond.

Breaking Free from Trauma Bonding

This section delves into the process of breaking free from trauma bonding, emphasizing self-care, empowerment, and seeking support.

Liberation Process

  • Toxic individuals aim to isolate victims emotionally by reducing contact with friends and family.
  • Hoover Stage: Abusers attempt to draw victims back using false promises during moments of reprieve.

Overcoming Cognitive Dissonance

  • Victims often blame themselves for relationship issues and rationalize abusers' behavior due to cognitive dissonance.

Journey Towards Healing

  • Recognizing self-worth and deserving better leads to a turning point towards self-love and empowerment.
  • Breaking free involves acknowledging abuse patterns, seeking help, having courage to leave toxic relationships.

Embracing Healing Process

  • Healing stage focuses on reclaiming identity, nurturing self-esteem, surrounding oneself with positivity for growth.
Video description

Ever felt like you couldn't break away from someone, even if you knew they weren't good for you? That's what we call a 'trauma bond' or 'trauma bonding'. It's when you get really attached to someone, even if they're not treating you right. In this video, we'll talk about the 7 stages of this bond, so you can understand why it happens and how to deal with it. We'll also look at how this bond connects to codependency, especially in relationships with narcissists or people with NPD. Our goal is to help you see the difference between real love and a toxic attachment. If you've ever felt stuck in a bad relationship, this video is here to give you some friendly advice on how to break free and find healthier connections. #traumabond #trauma #narcissist #npd NOTE TO SEO: ADD POP UP CARD FOR “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP SIGNS” IN THE The Cognitive Dissonance Stage POINT NOTE TO SEO: ADD “4 Reasons Why You Can't Leave a Toxic Relationship" IN THE OUTRO AS END SCREEN VIDEO. Writer: Chloe Avenesa Editor: Kelly Soong Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice Over: Brandon https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCroqbsyeRdmBT8-zlTHtWsQ Thumbnail Artist: Krisha Que Animator: FLEURI Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Carnes, P. (1997). The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Health Communications. Festinger, L. (1957). A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. Stanford University Press. Firestone, L. (2013). The Fantasy Bond: Structure of Psychological Defenses. Routledge. Freeman, R. (2016). Neurobiology and the 'Bond'. The National Domestic Violence Hotline. Herman, J. (1992). Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books. Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking. Weitzman, S. (2000). Not To People Like Us: Hidden Abuse In Upscale Marriages. Basic Books.