Daytime Approach & Dating: Long term Sticking Points

Introduction

In this section, Mr. Forrest introduces the topic of dating and shares his personal experience with it.

Dating Journey

• Mr. Forrest talks about how everyone goes through difficult periods in their dating journey.

• He emphasizes that one should have the mindset that life is a process of deepening knowledge and that there will never be a destination where you know everything.

• He compares the journey of acquiring skills in any area of life to an athlete's journey towards acquiring skills in sports.

Sticking Point

In this section, Mr. Forrest talks about his current sticking point in dating and how it has become a hostage to his success.

Segueing from Successful Dates

• Mr. Forrest talks about how he has been successful in approaching and going on dates but struggles with segueing back to his place or bedroom.

• He explains that becoming a hostage to one's success can prevent them from admitting they still need to learn more.

Personal Experience

In this section, Mr. Forrest shares his personal experience with dating and how he learned from it.

Learning from Personal Experience

• Mr. Forrest shares his recent experience with a girl he went on a date with.

• He describes her as glamorous but constantly making herself up and looking at her phone.

• After the first date, she became difficult to schedule another date with due to constant rescheduling and changing plans.

Acquiring Skills

In this section, Mr. Forrest discusses the importance of acquiring skills in any area of life.

Different Sets of Problems

• Mr. Forrest explains that depending on where one is in their journey towards acquiring skills, they will face different sets of problems.

• He gives an example of an athlete who is just starting out versus one who has been competing for years.

Ultimate Goal

In this section, Mr. Forrest talks about the ultimate goal of dating and life.

Living with Freedom

• Mr. Forrest explains that the ultimate goal is to live in a place of as much freedom in all areas of life as possible.

• He emphasizes that everyone is on a different stage of their journey towards acquiring skills and should not be judged based on where they are currently at.

Personal Stories

In this section, Mr. Forrest shares personal stories related to dating and life.

Sharing Personal Stories

• Mr. Forrest explains that he likes to share personal stories because he only talks about things he has experienced himself.

• He also mentions that his stories are good and entertaining.

Learning New Skills

In this section, the speaker talks about how learning new skills can be a fresh and challenging experience. He also advises that if a girl is constantly messaging and flaking, it's best to move on.

Applying Yourself to Learning New Skills

• Learning new skills can be a fresh and difficult challenge.

• It's important to apply yourself to learning new skills.

Dealing with Flaky Girls

• If a girl is constantly messaging and flaking, it's best to move on.

• However, if she has been out on a date and is engaged in other activities like her career, then it may be worth continuing to pursue her.

Judging Interest Based on Actions

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of looking at what people do rather than what they say. He shares an example of a girl who was genuinely interested despite being flaky.

Judging Interest Based on Actions

• Look at what people do, not what they say.

• A girl who is constantly messaging and responding is likely interested.

• The speaker woke up to four missed calls from a girl who was going to be two hours late for their date but was genuinely interested.

Strategies for Dealing with Flaky Girls

In this section, the speaker shares his strategies for dealing with a particularly flaky girl he had been pursuing. He advises that having other options helps maintain perspective when dealing with such situations.

Having Perspective When Pursuing Flaky Girls

• Having other options helps maintain perspective when pursuing flaky girls.

• The most effective way to deal with such situations is by going out and approaching more girls.

Strategies for Dealing with Flaky Girls

• The speaker made sure he had something else to do when scheduling a date with the flaky girl.

• He started to work out strategies for dealing with her, such as not wasting any time and doing other things while waiting for her.

• He also decided to play her own game by ignoring her messages and flaking on their scheduled date.

Conclusion

In this section, the speaker concludes his discussion on pursuing flaky girls.

Concluding Thoughts

• Pursuing flaky girls can be challenging but having perspective and other options helps.

• Sometimes it's best to move on if a girl is constantly messaging and flaking.

• It's important to look at what people do rather than what they say when judging interest.

How to Plan a Successful Date

In this section, the speaker shares his experience of planning a successful date with a girl he had been out with once or twice before. He suggests a trick for experienced day gamers who are having trouble scheduling dates.

Planning the Date

• The speaker suggests going large and inviting the girl out for a trip to Istanbul for the weekend.

• He recommends making it something that you want to do and discovering interesting Airbnb locations.

• The speaker invites her out for a cup of tea on Saturday afternoon and plans a long weekend adventure in the country.

The Date

• She shows up two hours late, but the speaker has scheduled his day such that he had forgotten about the date.

• They go to an absolutely smashing restaurant and have dinner together.

• After dinner, they find a private little balcony area in this fantastic old house converted restaurant overlooking a garden where they have coffee, smokes, and dessert.

Overcoming Limitations

• The speaker talks about overcoming limitations when it comes to sex. He is not interested in sex for sex's sake but wants to overcome his limitations.

Feeling Insecure in Relationships

The speaker discusses the importance of feeling competent and accomplished in relationships, particularly for men. He shares his personal experience of feeling insecure and lacking confidence in this area.

Importance of Feeling Competent in Relationships

• Feeling competent and accomplished is important in relationships.

• Men, in particular, do not want to feel insecure or lacking confidence.

• Lack of confidence can lead to inner challenges.

Personal Experience with Insecurity

• Speaker has experienced insecurity with girls he is genuinely interested in having a relationship with.

• Repeated failures can pile up and affect one's ability to perform well.

• Speaker reflects on his past experiences and seeks advice from others.

Dealing with Insecurity

• Speaker takes time away from the situation to reflect on what he wants to do.

• He decides to roll off a bit instead of pushing too hard.

• Speaker engages in other activities like playing on his phone while spending time with the girl.

Conclusion

• The speaker advises taking things slow and enjoying the moment rather than rushing into things.

• There is plenty of time for future opportunities.

Overcoming Sticking Points

In this section, the speaker talks about his experience with a woman and how he overcame his sticking point in taking things from the gut to the bedroom. He emphasizes the importance of feeling in control and not feeling limited.

Moving Things Forward

• The speaker and the woman fooled around in the bedroom but did not have sex.

• The woman suggested coming back after seeing her friend, but it was already late, and the speaker did not want to ruin his Monday.

• The speaker acknowledges that some guys may think he missed an opportunity by not having sex, but he felt that being there was enough for him.

Importance of Feeling in Control

• The speaker believes that having sex creates a bond with a girl, which can lead to complications if they are not compatible.

• He emphasizes that there are no absolute rules when it comes to relationships and encourages men to feel on top of their situation.

• The speaker shares his epiphany that a man does not want to feel limited and should take action to fix any sticking points.

Age is Just a Number

• The speaker believes that challenges as one gets older have more to do with aged thinking than physical health or age itself.

• He encourages older men not to use age as an excuse and suggests sharing their sticking points with trusted people.

• The speaker mentions that one-third of girls are into older men, so there is no excuse for older men who want to improve their dating lives.

Final Thoughts

• The speaker believes that keeping one's mind young is essential to overcoming sticking points and challenges.

• He encourages men to take practical steps to improve their dating lives, such as taking courses or sharing their sticking points with others.

• The speaker plugs a course running in June and September for those interested in improving their dating lives.