Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones | TED

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones | TED

Professional Trouble Maker

In this section, the speaker introduces herself as a professional troublemaker whose role is to critique and push for positive change in the world. She emphasizes the importance of leaving the world better than it was found.

Embracing Change and Speaking Up

  • The speaker discusses her approach to effecting change by being the first to speak up, likening it to being a domino that sets off a chain reaction. She highlights the significance of taking difficult actions in the hope that others will follow suit.
  • Contrary to popular belief, she reveals that individuals like her are not fearless but rather compelled to speak truth to power due to a lack of people willing to initiate change. She stresses the importance of addressing fear and taking necessary actions despite it.

Pursuing Purpose Despite Challenges

  • The speaker shares her journey from aspiring to be a doctor to eventually embracing writing as her purpose. She reflects on overcoming challenges and fears, such as transitioning from a corporate job to becoming a full-time writer.
  • Overcoming self-doubt and fear, she acknowledges the power fear holds over individuals' pursuit of their purpose. By deciding not to let fear dictate her life, she embarks on a journey of personal growth and self-discovery.

Embracing Fear and Taking Risks

This section delves into how confronting fear can lead to personal growth and empowerment through taking risks and stepping out of one's comfort zone.

Confronting Fear Through Action

  • The speaker recounts her decision in 2015, turning 30, as the year of "Do it anyway," where she actively pursued activities that scared her. This included taking solo vacations, engaging in adventurous activities like ziplining and swimming with dolphins underwater.
  • Despite initial apprehension, she embraces writing fully by publishing her book while also challenging herself by skydiving—an experience that parallels speaking truth against powerful entities.

Embracing Discomfort for Growth

  • Reflecting on moments of discomfort during skydiving, she draws parallels between taking risks personally and professionally. She emphasizes the necessity of pushing past comfort zones for meaningful progress and impact.
  • The speaker underscores the importance of speaking uncomfortable truths when necessary, highlighting how maintaining comfort often perpetuates existing norms. By advocating for honesty and integrity, she stresses the value of disrupting established systems for collective well-being.

Empowering Others Through Truth

This section focuses on empowering individuals through truth-telling, disrupting norms in powerful spaces, and fostering collaboration for positive change.

Advocating for Collective Empowerment

  • The speaker asserts that everyone has a responsibility to disrupt unjust systems by speaking truth in influential settings. By amplifying voices that struggle to be heard or acknowledged, individuals can collectively challenge existing power dynamics.

Being the Domino

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of being someone else's help when needed and shares personal experiences where she had to speak up against discriminatory practices despite potential consequences.

Understanding the Importance of Helping Others

  • Emphasizes that by being someone else's help, we make it easier to seek help when needed.

Speaking Up Against Discriminatory Practices

  • Recounts a situation where she faced pay inequality at a conference based on race and gender.
  • Describes how speaking out publicly about the pay disparity initiated a conversation about discriminatory practices.

Initiating Change

The speaker reflects on instances where her actions led to significant conversations and movements, emphasizing the power of individual voices in sparking change.

Igniting Conversations Through Actions

  • Credits Tarana Burke for starting the "Me Too" movement by speaking out against assault.

Authenticity and Truth

Here, the speaker delves into the significance of authenticity, truth-telling, and self-expression in effecting change and challenging societal norms.

Embracing Authenticity for Impact

  • Stresses the revolutionary nature of being oneself in a world that often expects conformity.

Speaking Truth to Power

The speaker discusses the importance of speaking truthfully with conviction and love as a means to drive positive change in society.

Guiding Principles for Speaking Up

  • Outlines three key questions before speaking up: sincerity, defensibility, and love.
Channel: TED
Video description

Luvvie Ajayi Jones isn't afraid to speak her mind or to be the one dissenting voice in a crowd, and neither should you. "Your silence serves no one," says the writer, activist and self-proclaimed professional troublemaker. In this bright, uplifting talk, Ajayi Jones shares three questions to ask yourself if you're teetering on the edge of speaking up or quieting down -- and encourages all of us to get a little more comfortable with being uncomfortable. Check out more TED Talks: http://www.ted.com The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. Follow TED on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/TED