How to Talk to Anyone with Ease and Confidence
Vanessa Van Edwards on the Science of Conversation
In this video, Vanessa Van Edwards shares tips on how to make dazzling conversation with anyone. She explains that there is a science behind having a good conversation and that it can be used in any situation, whether it's professional networking events or social parties.
Setting Your Intention
- The best conversations and conversationalists always set the intention for the conversation.
- Setting an intention helps guide your conversation and ward against awkward lulls or pauses.
- Before you meet someone or go to an event, think about what you want to bring from or to the event.
Approach
- Research shows that our first impression happens when we first see someone, not hear them.
- The best conversationalists start their conversation on the approach.
- Set yourself up right by having nice open body language, visible hands, shoulders down and back, and a smile as your opening line.
Conversation Sparks
- Conversation sparks are nonverbal cues that engage curiosity and interest in others.
- Across cultures, genders, and races, everyone raises their eyebrows when they are super engaged in a conversation.
Getting to Know Your In-Laws
In this section, Vanessa shares tips on how to get to know your in-laws better and end conversations politely.
Tips for Getting to Know Your In-Laws
- Ask questions about their likes and hobbies to find mutual interests.
- Look for a spark or eyebrow raise when you hit upon a shared interest.
Ending Conversations Politely
- Use a future mention to shift the focus from present to future before ending the conversation.
- Pivot out towards the room and have an open body language if you want someone to approach you at a party.
- Avoid being on your cell phone as it signals that you are not open for conversation.
Conclusion
In this section, Vanessa concludes by inviting viewers to check out more of her content.
Final Thoughts
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- Check out Vanessa's other videos on human lie detection and body language 101.