What age should you start dating women?

Introduction

In this section, the speaker talks about his experience growing up and feeling left out of the dating scene.

Puberty and Dating Scene

• The speaker didn't hit puberty until he was 16-17 years old.

• He felt awkward in high school because he believed he wasn't invited to the dating scene.

• The speaker comes from a brown Muslim family, which made him feel like he couldn't get a girlfriend.

Feeling Left Out

• The speaker's best friend asked him if he wanted a girlfriend, which made him feel left out.

• People in his school were having sex at age 13 and 14, which made him feel like he was missing out.

• The speaker didn't realize people were having sex until he was just under 18 years old.

Need for Experience

• The speaker had thoughts that it could be beneficial to experience relationships with women.

• He believed that if he kept waiting to pass his studies and develop himself, he wouldn't have any experience with women.

• The speaker thought that if he didn't gain experience with women now, it would be difficult when it came to being with someone special later on.

University Life

In this section, the speaker talks about how things changed for him when he went to university.

First Relationship

• After going to university and working on himself physically and mentally, the speaker got into his first real relationship with someone he truly loved.

Breakup & Recovery

• The relationship didn't work out, and the speaker went through a heartbreaking and depressing breakup.

• After about a month of feeling sorry for himself, the speaker started to be more social, make more friends, go out to parties and nightclubs, and hook up with girls.

Practice with Women

• The speaker slept with a lot of girls during this time but emphasizes that they were not high quality.

• He explains that the reason why he wanted practice was so that he could eventually have children with someone special.

Why Pursuing Girls is a Mistake

In this section, the speaker discusses why pursuing girls at a young age can be detrimental to personal growth and success.

The Importance of Self-Improvement

• It's important to focus on self-improvement and growth instead of pursuing girls.

• Integrating women into your life as you grow up is important, but it shouldn't be the sole focus.

• Pursuing girls at a young age can be one of the biggest mistakes you make in your life.

Personal Experience

• The speaker has experience pursuing girls and believes it was a mistake.

• Making mistakes is necessary for passing wisdom onto others.

The Impact on Brain Power

• Even texting just one girl can sap 40% of your brain power that could be used for self-improvement.

• Being open to dating, even in small ways like having a Tinder account or looking at girls on Instagram, can have a huge impact on brain power.

The Importance of Focusing on Goals

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of dedicating as many thoughts as possible to one or two big goals in order to achieve success.

Dedicate Thoughts to Goals

• To be successful, pick one or two big goals and dedicate as many thoughts as possible to them.

• It's not about the time spent physically doing something, but rather the thousands of thoughts that are sapped away from focusing on goals.

• Declaring a period where you're not open to girls can help you regain brain power and excel in your goals.

Delayed Gratification and Self-Improvement

In this section, the speaker discusses the fundamental principles of self-improvement and delayed gratification. He argues that practicing with lower quality women will result in lower quality skills.

Delayed Gratification

• Self-improvement is about delaying a bigger reward for our future selves instead of indulging in immediate gratification.

• Relentlessly focus on better girls that we could get in the future instead of cashing out our current life in SMV.

Practicing with Lower Quality Women

• Practicing and getting experience with girls means those skills will be off lower quality.

• Experience gained right now is specifically with lower quality women who are degenerates.

The Toxicity of Dating Apps

In this section, the speaker discusses how dating apps can be toxic and how they can negatively impact one's ability to attract a high-quality partner in the future.

Dumbing Yourself Down

• To attract certain types of women on dating apps, you need to play a game where you act like you don't care about them.

• You shouldn't tell them about your goals or how you actually feel.

• Act like you don't even like or respect her. Don't make her feel like part of a team.

• Don't reply to their messages.

Practice Makes Perfect?

• Practicing with these types of girls will give us experience in dating in the wrong way.

• This practice won't improve our skills for attracting high-quality partners in the future.

Looking Ahead

• We need to think 50,000 steps into the future and not just focus on getting some girls right now.

• Becoming successful is as simple as looking further into the future than all of the mediocre people around us.

The Consequences of Our Actions

• Practicing toxic traits will only attract a certain type of woman who dominates social media and online dating.

• If we continue practicing playing football when we should be practicing basketball, we'll look stupid when it comes time to meet our future wife.

The Danger of Practicing with Low Quality Women

In this section, the speaker discusses the dangers of practicing dating and relationships with low quality women.

The Kind of Woman You Want to Meet

• A good woman is secure, loving, and warm.

• A good woman will push you towards your goals and support you through setbacks.

• Meeting a woman like this is unlikely through social media or online dating.

The Issue with Going Down the Degenerate Path

• Experience in cold-hearted pickup game does not translate into finding a good wife.

• Sleeping with low quality women will not improve your chances of finding a better wife.

• Acting like a "fuckboy" becomes natural and attracts a certain type of woman while unattracting another kind.

Sacrificing Your Future Relationship

• Going down the degenerate path undermines your future relationship.

• Sleeping with low quality women will not lead to finding a better wife.

• Practicing dating and sleeping around can eat away at you later in life.

Falling in Love with Practice Girls

• Bonding and attachment can happen even when practicing dating.

• Falling in love with someone who was supposed to be practice is one of the most painful experiences.

• Forming an attachment that regulates your nervous system can happen even if you know she's not your future wife.

The Importance of Being Selective in Dating

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of being selective in dating and avoiding casual relationships.

Seeking Practices as Coping Mechanisms

• Seeking experiences with women may not be necessary for personal growth.

• Experiences with lower quality girls will not help in finding a future wife.

• Pursuing casual sex can lead to degeneracy and is not beneficial for personal development.

Waiting for the Second Marshmallow

• Waiting for the right person is important to make the best decision when choosing a partner.

• Choosing the right partner is crucial because it affects one's ability to develop oneself, become successful, and build wealth.

• Building oneself up while waiting for the right person leads to meeting high-quality women who have great personalities and come from stable families.

How to Level Up Your Sex Life

In this section, the speaker discusses how improving oneself can lead to a better sex life and relationship.

Becoming a Superior Man

• Improving oneself can lead to meeting an awesome woman who is prettier than current options.

• Fear of a dead sex life in marriage is common but can be avoided by polarizing women.

• Polarizing women is simple and husbands who fail to do so become chumps.

• Following advice from resources like this book will lead to more and better sex in marriage.

Training Your Future Wife

• A good relationship does not require sacrifice, as training your future wife can improve sexual experiences.

• Girls get good at giving head because other guys have trained them, so you can train your future wife too.

• Acknowledging that practice with low-quality girls is just instant gratification rather than productive self-improvement.

Rejecting False Cope

• Rejecting the false cope of practicing with random girls for self-improvement leads down the wrong path.

• Degeneracy is bad for men and leads them astray from their goals.

Controlling Lust

In this section, the speaker talks about how to control lust and urges.

Practicing Control

• The speaker suggests imagining breathing deeply and spreading the energy throughout the body.

• He recommends going on YouTube to learn how to deal with urges.

• If necessary, he suggests fapping once a week with no porn and just using imagination.

Practice with High-Quality Women

• The speaker advises practicing with high-quality women who are beautiful and have a great foundation for marriage and children.

• He emphasizes that every woman is unique, so it's important not to have preconceived experiences from other women before meeting the one that matters.

• When you meet a woman who genuinely has a strong masculine father, submissive feminine mother, is religious, and waiting for marriage, then reconsider getting married.

Improving Dating Life

• The speaker believes there will be a moment when you genuinely know it's right to marry a woman.

• This doesn't mean you won't improve your dating life; it just means you won't improve it for improvement's sake.

Building a Strong Relationship with High-Quality Women

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of building a strong relationship with high-quality women and why it is better to focus on self-improvement rather than instant gratification.

Learning About Attachment Styles and Love Together

• The speaker suggests that couples should read books on attachment styles and love together.

• This will help them understand each other's needs and build a stronger relationship.

• Couples can learn about the type of people they are, how they love, and what they need from each other.

Why Focus on High-Quality Women?

• The speaker argues that it is better to focus on high-quality women rather than random girls.

• Practicing and experiencing with one's wife can help build a lasting relationship.

• Self-improvement allows men to out-climb every woman, including those who are also on self-improvement journeys themselves.

• Low-quality women cannot match the rate of growth of men who are ruthlessly improving themselves.

Instant Gratification vs. Delayed Gratification

• The speaker discusses the marshmallow study as an example of delayed gratification being more beneficial in the long run.

• Instant gratification has never served anyone well, especially when it comes to important aspects of life such as relationships.

• Men should focus on building strong relationships with high-quality women instead of settling for instant gratification with low-quality women.

The Importance of Mental Health

• The highest quality women have high standards because they want the best mental health in their partners.

• Success and alpha male traits are not enough; there is a level of man above those guys who have success and girls.

The One Percent Man

In this section, the speaker talks about the different levels of men and how there is a level of man that isn't really on the internet these days.

The Two Levels of Men

• There are two levels of men:

• The one percent guy who indulges in women, private jets, and girls.

• The guy who doesn't indulge in women and has such high standards that he keeps thinking that no girl is good enough.

Highest Quality Women

• To be the highest quality girl, you need to have a strong masculine father figure who is still married to your mother.

• This requires a strong father figure to nurture his daughter into not being a degenerate in this modern world.

• When you're the top one percent man and sit in front of him, he can see through you if you've been with many girls. He's looking for a godly man who has literally been waiting for the second marshmallow view.

Ideal Relationship

• With an ideal relationship, both partners should know and accept each other's past experiences, values, etc.

• When you get to this depth of openness, that's when you'll get the best relationship possible.

The Consequences of Our Actions

In this section, the speaker discusses how our actions in dating can have long-term consequences for ourselves and our future children.

Dating and Future Children

• Practicing and messing around with women can lead to a higher body count for your future daughter.

• Your son may end up having poor posture while indulging in futuristic porn.

• Distracting yourself with degeneracy will compound in your bloodline.

Importance of Dating Decisions

• Our decisions in dating are important not only for what happens in dating but also for how much it can distract us from personal growth.

• Until you meet a high-quality woman who is not a distraction, stay focused on growing yourself.

Navigating Life

• Permanently be in a full state of hard work and growth, which includes taking walks, journaling, and reading.

• Don't date within a glance; don't have sex with women who aren't going to be your future wife.

• Brutal facts: tattoos, guys around her, bad friends - these are signs that she's not eligible to be your wife.

Holding Yourself to High Standards

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of holding oneself to high standards and waiting for the right person to come along.

Importance of Self-Improvement

• The speaker stresses that it's important to hold oneself to high standards.

• He advises against dating and instead suggests focusing on self-improvement.

• The speaker believes that women will find you if you tend to yourself and become high value enough.

• He suggests living a vibrant life with male friends or going on hikes, which can naturally lead to meeting women.

Filtering Out Low-Quality Women

• The speaker recommends filtering out low-quality women by having high standards.

• He shares that three guys asked him about this topic recently during a group call.

Doing Hard Work When You Don't Feel Like It

In this section, the speaker encourages doing hard work even when you don't feel like it.

Importance of Hard Work

• The speaker emphasizes the importance of doing hard work even when you don't feel like it.