The 1% DO THIS To Achieve Anything They Want! (START DOING THIS) | Patrick Bet David
Clarity and Asking Questions
In this section, Patrick Bet-David talks about the importance of asking questions to gain clarity in life.
Importance of Asking Questions
- If you don't ask yourself tough questions, the world will determine who you need to be.
- Clarity comes from asking tough questions that make you emotional and reflective.
- Indirectly, everyone imposes their belief system on others.
- Haters highlight your weaknesses.
Introduction to Patrick Bet-David
This section provides an introduction to Patrick Bet-David and his achievements.
Introduction
- Founder and CEO of PHP, one of the top insurance firms in America.
- Built PHP into one of the fastest-growing companies in the financial marketplace with 200 agents across 84 offices in 49 states.
- Personal net worth of roughly $150 million after starting from scratch.
- Founder of Valuetainment, a YouTube channel with nearly 1.2 million subscribers that spreads the power of entrepreneurship through interviews with extraordinary people like Magic Johnson, Mark Cuban, and Steve Wozniak.
Bodybuilding and Arnold Schwarzenegger
In this section, Patrick Bet-David talks about his experience with bodybuilding and how Arnold Schwarzenegger inspired him.
Experience with Bodybuilding
- Started bodybuilding at age 14 because he was skinny and wanted muscles to attract girls.
- Applied a two-and-a-half-pound rule he learned from bodybuilding to business and other areas of life.
- Had posters of famous bodybuilders like Arnold Schwarzenegger on his walls while serving in the army.
Inspiration from Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Arnold represented an immigrant's story with a fire to prove a point and control the narrative.
Arnold Schwarzenegger's Influence
In this section, the speaker talks about how Arnold Schwarzenegger influenced his life and how he applied the discipline he learned from bodybuilding to other areas of his life.
Applying Bodybuilding Discipline to Business
- The speaker talks about how he was inspired by Arnold Schwarzenegger's success in bodybuilding and how he wanted to apply that same discipline to his own life.
- He discusses how lifting weights helped him develop discipline and push through difficult situations, which he later applied to business.
- The speaker explains that many bodybuilders struggle to translate their discipline into other areas of their lives, but Arnold was able to apply it successfully in every area of his life.
- He shares a quote from Arnold where someone said they didn't want to look like him, and Arnold replied "Don't worry, you won't." This quote highlights the hard work and dedication required for success.
Lessons Learned from Bodybuilding
- The speaker discusses how bodybuilding taught him the importance of focusing on areas that are often neglected, such as legs. He compares this lesson to business operations, which can be overlooked in favor of marketing or sales.
- He shares a personal experience where his wife had to intervene and bring attention to the need for investing in technology. This decision allowed them to scale their business more effectively.
- The speaker emphasizes the importance of small growth and beating your prior best in both bodybuilding and business. He also mentions a video called "Brick by Brick" that highlights the daily grind required for success.
Building Yourself Brick by Brick
In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of daily discipline and hard work in achieving success.
The Daily Grind
- The speaker talks about how people often focus on the end result, such as flashy cars or a big house, but they don't see the hard work and stress that went into achieving those things.
- He shares a story about Arnold Schwarzenegger's dedication to building his calves, which required years of hard work and dedication. This story highlights the importance of daily discipline and small growth in achieving success.
Overall, this transcript emphasizes the importance of discipline and hard work in achieving success. The speaker draws inspiration from Arnold Schwarzenegger's success in bodybuilding and applies those lessons to other areas of his life, particularly business. He also stresses the importance of focusing on neglected areas and investing in technology to scale effectively. Finally, he highlights the daily grind required for success and encourages viewers to focus on small growth rather than just the end result.
Nature vs Nurture
In this section, Patrick Bet-David discusses the extent to which people are born with certain traits versus how much of it is influenced by their environment and upbringing.
Malleability of Traits
- People can develop traits that they were not born with.
- Arnold Schwarzenegger's calves are an example of how someone can build a trait that they were not naturally gifted with.
Nature vs Nurture
- Parents tend to take credit for their children's successes and failures, but only about 20% of who we are is determined by our upbringing.
- The other 80% is determined by genetics and other factors present at birth.
- Life experiences also play a significant role in shaping who we are as individuals.
How Life Experiences Shape Us
In this section, Patrick Bet-David talks about how life experiences shape us as individuals and the different ways people react to them.
Three Responses to Life Experiences
- People respond to life experiences in one of three ways: fight, flight or freeze.
- These responses are shaped by past experiences and cannot be taught or learned from others.
Impact of Life Experiences
- Life experiences such as heartbreak, bullying, or humiliation can have a lasting impact on an individual's personality.
- These experiences can cause people to either suppress their emotions or become more assertive in standing up for themselves.
Becoming Who You Want To Be
In this section, Patrick Bet-David discusses the importance of focusing on who you want to become rather than who you currently are.
Importance of Mindset
- It doesn't matter who you are today; what matters is who you want to become.
- Having the right mindset is crucial in achieving your goals.
The Price of Success
- Achieving success requires sacrifice and hard work.
- You must be willing to pay the price for success, whether it's sacrificing time with loved ones or putting in long hours at work.
Understanding Malleability
In this section, the speaker discusses the concept of malleability and how much a person can change. He emphasizes that while DNA plays a role in shaping who we are, events, conversations, and certain individuals can completely change our lives.
The Role of DNA
- A part of who we are is determined by our DNA.
- We cannot break free from our DNA but we can understand it to know how to change.
Modeling vs. Imitation
- Trying to model someone else too much leads to imitation.
- It's important to find your own method of delivering your message.
Tools for Change
- Clarity and asking questions are powerful tools for change.
- Asking tough questions that make you emotional or reflect deeply can lead to clarity.
- Clarity gives confidence and helps you answer questions about your identity.
The Importance of Conversations
In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of having conversations with others, especially with those closest to us. He also talks about how asking questions can help us gain clarity about ourselves and our decisions.
Making Decisions Together
- Having conversations with those closest to us can completely change our lives.
- Few people put in the time needed to make comfortable decisions together.
The Power of Questions
- Asking questions is a powerful tool for gaining clarity.
- Not asking yourself questions means letting others determine who you need to be.
- Tough questions that make you emotional or reflect deeply can lead to clarity.
Identity
- The speaker asks the audience when was the last time they thought about their identity.
From Comedian to Artist to Quest Poverty
In this section, the speaker talks about his journey from being a comedian to an artist and then experiencing poverty. He also discusses how he adopted the identity of an artist and had an inferiority complex in high school.
Becoming an Artist
- The speaker consciously decided to become an artist when he went to college.
- He practiced stand-up comedy but realized that his only style of humor was self-deprecating, which made him think less of himself.
- He cheated his way into the top 10 of his graduating class and had an inferiority complex in high school.
- After realizing that he needed to take himself more seriously, he stopped making fun of himself and adopted the identity of an artist.
Identity Crisis and Poverty
- The speaker experienced artistic failures which led to an identity crisis.
- After graduating, he found himself in poverty as his parents were no longer supporting him. He started selling insurance door-to-door.
- This was before the internet, so there was no hope for him in terms of making a film with a budget of $100,000.
Understanding Identity
In this section, the speaker talks about how understanding identity is completely malleable. He shares personal experiences where he decided to adopt new identities and how it drove behavior.
Adopting New Identities
- The speaker shares how he decided one day that he wanted to start lifting weights and become someone who sticks through with what they say.
- He began working out all the time and realized that it was a demarcation line in the sand. He had decided to become someone who looks like Hugh Jackman.
- The speaker shares how telling people about his new identity gave him pressure to live up to it.
Leveraging Identity
- Understanding identity is a lever that can be pulled to drive behavior.
- The speaker talks about how the first identity we have is whatever identity we're trying to get attention for.
English Identity and Pressure
In this section, the speaker talks about identity and pressure. He discusses how identity is linked to asking questions and getting to the deeper part of who you want to be. The speaker also talks about the debate around declaring your intentions to the world and how it can create good or bad pressure.
Identity
- Identity is linked to asking questions until eventually getting to a point where you get to the deeper part of who you want to be.
- It's important to ask yourself what life you want to live and why it's important. This transition is when you go through it.
Pressure
- There's a debate around whether or not declaring your intentions to the world creates anxiety or good pressure.
- Declaring intention serves a purpose because it holds you accountable, which can be good pressure.
- Peer pressure can have a negative connotation, but if you have the right peer giving the right kind of pressure, it can lead to big things in your life.
- Visualizing your future can help put things into perspective and motivate you towards achieving your goals.
Conclusion
The speaker emphasizes that identity is linked with asking questions and getting deeper into who we want to be. Additionally, he believes that declaring our intentions can serve as good pressure that holds us accountable for our actions. Finally, visualizing our future selves can help us stay motivated towards achieving our goals.
The Power of Visualization
In this section, the speaker talks about the importance of visualization and imagination in achieving one's goals. He emphasizes that it is not enough to simply imagine a desired outcome, but to also consider the potential obstacles and challenges that may arise.
The Urgency of Visualization
- The speaker encourages listeners to visualize their desired outcomes in order to create urgency and motivation.
- He explains that by visualizing potential obstacles and challenges, individuals can better prepare themselves for any situation that may arise.
Going Deeper with Purpose
- The speaker stresses the importance of going deeper with purpose when visualizing one's goals.
- He suggests asking oneself questions about both positive and negative outcomes in order to create a sense of urgency and take necessary steps towards growth.
Clarity in Desires
In this section, the speaker discusses how having clarity about what one desires can lead to opportunities presenting themselves. He shares a personal story about how he described his ideal partner at 19 years old, and eventually met someone who fit all his criteria.
Clarity Leads to Opportunities
- The speaker shares his personal experience of describing his ideal partner at 19 years old.
- He explains that having clarity about what one desires can lead to opportunities presenting themselves.
Shutting Out External Noise
- The speaker emphasizes the importance of shutting out external noise when pursuing one's desires.
- He encourages listeners to be true to themselves and not care about what others think or impose their belief systems onto them.
Imposing Belief Systems
In this section, the speaker talks about how people can impose their belief systems onto others, and how this can be detrimental to personal growth. He shares a personal story about his parents' divorce and how it affected him.
Imposing Beliefs from Others
- The speaker shares his personal experience of being caught in the middle of his parents' divorce due to their different cultural backgrounds.
- He explains that people often impose their belief systems onto others, which can hinder personal growth.
Dealing with Haters
In this section, the speaker talks about how haters can highlight your weaknesses and how to deal with them.
Embracing Feedback
- Haters can point out your weaknesses.
- Use their feedback to improve yourself.
- Don't let their negativity bring you down.
Living a Big Life
- If you want to live a big life, you have to deal with criticism.
- Manage expectations by telling people up front what your plans are.
- Anticipate criticism and figure out ways to silence it.
The Most Hated Man in the World
In this section, the speaker talks about how hate is inevitable when you're successful and gives examples of some of the most hated men in history.
Hate Comes With Success
- The more successful you become, the more hate you will receive.
- Even presidents of countries have been the most hated men in the world at some point in time.
Managing Expectations
- You have a choice - live a small life or live a big life and deal with criticism.
- Tell people up front what your plans are to manage expectations.
Managing Expectations for Marriage
In this section, the speaker talks about managing expectations for marriage and dealing with family drama.
Setting Expectations for Having Kids
- When getting married, tell people up front if you don't plan on having kids for a while.
- Otherwise, people will constantly ask when you're going to have kids and why you haven't had any yet.
Dealing With Family Drama
- Manage family drama by setting expectations up front.
- The speaker shares an example of how he managed his parents' drama at his wedding by having them talk it out beforehand.
Prioritizing Relationships
In this section, the speaker talks about prioritizing relationships and setting expectations with family members.
Prioritizing Relationships
- When getting married, your spouse becomes your number one priority.
- This can be difficult for some family members to accept, but it's important to set expectations up front.
Setting Expectations With Family Members
- The speaker shares an example of how he set expectations with his mother about her role in his life after getting married.
- It's important to communicate clearly and manage expectations to avoid misunderstandings.
Managing Expectations and Questioning Traditions
In this section, the speaker discusses how managing expectations can minimize noise and how questioning traditions is important to develop one's own belief system.
Managing Expectations
- Managing expectations can minimize noise.
- The most irritating noise comes from people closest to you.
- It is important to lay down ground rules and tell people what's okay and what's not okay.
Questioning Traditions
- It is essential to question everything, including family traditions.
- One should question their beliefs and values, such as political affiliations or religious beliefs.
- Parents make mistakes, so it's crucial to question even core beliefs that seem untouchable.
- By questioning everything, one can develop a conviction in their values and principles.
Importance of Alignment and Keeping Your Word
In this section, Patrick Bet-David talks about the importance of alignment and keeping your word.
The Value of Truth
- Patrick's father taught him to not be afraid of the truth.
- When you are clear on what you stand for, don't be afraid of the truth.
- For Patrick, keeping his word is critical. He wants his word to have a lot of value.
- If he tells someone he will do something, it has to be end-of-the-world for it not to happen.
The Importance of Alignment
- Alignment is critical for Patrick.
- Living a happy life means that your beliefs and actions are aligned.
- Alignment is at the top of Patrick's priorities.
Impact on the World
In this section, Patrick Bet-David talks about his impact on the world.
Phases in Life
- Patrick has divided his life into four phases:
- First 20 years: Figuring out life
- Second 20 years: Business
- Third 20 years: Controlling the narrative media
- Fourth 20 years: Helping Iranian-Syrian community and other plans
Media Focus
- From ages 40 to 60, Patrick's focus will be on media.
- He wants to control the narrative through media.
Keyboard Activists vs. Human Nature
In this section, Tom Bilyeu discusses keyboard activists versus human nature with Jesus.
Keyboard Activists
- Many people are keyboard activists who tweet about how the world should be, but don't do anything about it.
- This is a common trait of human nature.