Rien ne nous arrive par hasard | Nadalette La Fonta Six | TEDxChampsElyseesWomen

Introduction

In this talk, the speaker shares her experience of being a "Wonder Woman" and how she learned to listen to herself.

Being Mrs. Perfect

• The speaker introduces herself as a "Wonder Woman" or Mrs. Perfect.

• She describes Mrs. Perfect as someone who carries many responsibilities and is always on the go.

Learning to Listen

• The speaker shares an anecdote about her boss asking why she wasn't afraid of him.

• This question leads her to reflect on why Wonder Woman is called Wonder Woman.

• The speaker talks about the little voice inside that asks if you're happy with what you do and if you're really satisfied.

Childhood and Beliefs

The speaker talks about her childhood and how it shaped her beliefs.

Imperfect Family

• The speaker was born into a family that was far from ideal.

• She explains that she had a 50% chance of ending up in a bin at birth, which gave her an acute sense of survival.

Beliefs

• The speaker shares the beliefs she structured and built herself around, such as not feeling pain and being all-powerful.

• These beliefs framed her role as Wonder Woman during the glamour years of the 80's.

Keys to Happiness

The speaker talks about the two keys to happiness that she learned during her career.

Financial Independence

• The first key to happiness is financial independence, which allowed the speaker to leave her family.

Conformity

• The second key to happiness is conformity to social and professional models.

• This often means giving up on teenage dreams and brushing them under the carpet.

The Importance of Listening to Your Body

In this section, the speaker talks about her experience with scoliosis and how she neglected her body while focusing on other aspects of her life.

Neglecting Her Body

• The speaker had scoliosis in her teens that went untreated.

• She partied a lot and didn't take care of her body.

• She continued to work hard and live life without paying attention to her physical health.

Facing Reality

• The speaker's scoliosis worsened over time until it became a serious problem.

• She underwent a ten-hour surgery called an "arthrodesis" to correct the issue.

• The recovery process was difficult, but the speaker had no choice but to accept it.

Life-Changing News

• After waking up from surgery, the medical team informed the speaker that she had been left paraplegic due to damage to her bone marrow.

• This news completely changed the course of the speaker's life.

From Independence to Dependency

In this section, the speaker talks about her experience of going from being independent and hyperactive to becoming dependent on others due to an illness. She also discusses how her body was treated as an object during her hospital stay.

Becoming Dependent

• The speaker went from being independent to dependent due to an illness.

• She became incapable of even reading or writing.

• Her body was treated as an object that was given injections, washed, probed, auscultated, and pinched.

Limited Access

• From her hospital bed, the speaker had only access to what her hands could reach.

• This wasn't much.

Loss of Identity

• For nine months, the speaker was no longer anybody.

• She was nothing: no longer a mum, no longer a woman, no longer a lover, no longer a manager - no longer anything!

• Her family had to mourn a loss - she lost her former self and they lost the mother and woman they knew.

Acceptance in Adversity

In this section, the speaker talks about how important it is to respect oneself and any adversity one may face. She also discusses how mourning is essential in dealing with loss and how acceptance is necessary for transformation.

Respecting Adversity

• It's important to respect any ordeal one may be confronted with such as divorce, unemployment, frustration, death or illness.

• What is essential in adversity is that the only benchmark is the individual - how he or she deals with it and feels, but above all, what he or she makes of it.

Mourning

• Mourning is extremely important in adversity.

• Mourning is synonymous with anger, sadness, denial, and negotiation.

• We go through these phases time and again until we finally accept.

Acceptance

• Acceptance is neither abandonment nor flight. It means that you need to accept for the transformation to occur.

• You must respect yourself as well as the adversity you face.

Regeneration Through Belief

In this section, the speaker talks about how her ordeal became an initiation for her regeneration. She discusses how her beliefs were limiting until she gave herself love and respect.

Regeneration

• The speaker's ordeal became an initiation for her regeneration.

• Her damned character never allowed her to believe that she would not walk again.

• She partnered with her body after surgery and began the verticalization protocol until she could stand straight.

• She was hooked to parallel bars and learned how to get by obstacles before wobbling around using a walking aid and later walking canes.

Limiting Beliefs

• The speaker reached a point where she thought "Nope. That's not possible! I can't let my life be stolen again."

• As she listened to herself and respected her voice, at that moment, her limiting beliefs ceased to be limiting.

• Your beliefs or your identity are like a medallion - on one side they give power over your life, and on the other side, they become limiting, blocking and enslaving.

• The speaker's beliefs were limiting due to her feeling of being all-powerful, stubbornness, fear of life and fear of dying.

Self-Love

• The speaker gave herself love, respect, tenderness, time, attention and light.

• Turning the other side of the medallion, those same beliefs exploded in all their splendor!

All Became Possible

In this section, the speaker talks about how she was able to open up new possibilities for herself by aligning her heart, body, and spirit.

Aligning Heart, Body and Spirit

• The speaker explains that she was able to open up new possibilities for herself by aligning her heart, body, and spirit.

• She mentions that her heart had to surrender for her to find herself and that her body also had to surrender.

• The speaker reveals that she is now a writer as she always wanted to be.

Writing Her First Book

In this section, the speaker talks about writing her first book after undergoing surgery.

"Le roseau penchant"

• The speaker wrote her first book called "Le roseau penchant" which means "The bent reed".

• She mentions that the book came out exactly three years after her surgery.

• The speaker believes in destiny and thinks it's not a coincidence that the book came out on the same day as her surgery.

Overcoming Disability

In this section, the speaker talks about how she overcame disability and how everyone has the ability to transmute their ordeals.

Overcoming Disability

• The speaker acknowledges having a disability but emphasizes that it does not define who she is.

• Life is slower and different for her now, but she conveys and shares her experiences with others.

• The speaker believes that everyone has the ability to transmute their ordeals.

Conclusion

In this section, the speaker concludes by inviting the audience to decide on their beliefs' solar phase.

Final Thoughts

• The speaker invites the audience to decide on their beliefs' solar phase.

• No further bullet points are available in this section.