Energy Ducking: The Fastest Way To Make Someone Dislike You

How to Avoid Boring Conversations

In this video, we will learn about five common mistakes that lead to boring conversations and what you can do instead to have an amazing conversation. The video uses clips from some of the best conversationalists covered on the channel so far.

Energy Ducking

• Energy ducking is when you come into a conversation with low enthusiasm to avoid standing out.

• Most people want to have fun, funny conversations, but they just aren't sure how.

• Be the first to initiate playfulness and avoid making a negative or positive impression while being able to read the other person's mood.

Assuming Interest

• Assuming interest leads to long stories that others don't care about.

• Create interest before launching into your story by starting with a story gap.

• A story gap is when you build interest in a story by hinting at how it ends without spoiling the punchline.

Giving Bland Answers

• Giving bland one-to-five-word answers stalls conversations.

• A bland answer doesn't set the other person up with anything to say back.

• Give detailed answers that set up follow-up questions.

Not Listening

• Not listening leads to missed opportunities for interesting conversation topics.

• Listen actively and ask follow-up questions based on what was said.

• Show genuine curiosity in what others are saying.

Being Judgmental

• Being judgmental shuts down conversations quickly.

• Avoid criticizing or judging others' opinions or beliefs.

• Instead, show empathy and try to understand their perspective.

How to Have Memorable Conversations

This video provides tips on how to have memorable conversations by avoiding common mistakes people make in conversation.

Kanye's Short Answers

• Kanye's short answers put all the pressure on Jimmy to carry the conversation.

• Great conversationalists get the other person excited to talk as well.

Stallone and Schwarzenegger

• Stallone elaborates his answer, which gives Jimmy more to respond to.

• Having a memorable conversation doesn't mean you have to do all the talking.

Default Boring Questions

• People often ask the same default boring questions.

• Try asking something that the other person will be excited to answer.

Fun Hypotheticals

• Ask fun hypotheticals that let people reflect on things they're proud of.

• Fantasy-style questions instantly make conversation more fun because it lets people imagine dream scenarios as they answer the question.

Passive Listening

• Being a passive listener can be boring and uncomfortable.

• Mirroring is repeating a pattern of behavior of the person you're talking to.

How to Never Be Boring in Conversation

In this section, the speaker talks about how to make people like you by making them feel smart or funny. He also emphasizes the importance of cultivating the ability to laugh freely and provides tips on how to do so.

Making People Like You

• Sometimes, making someone feel smart or funny can make them like you more.

Cultivating Laughter

• It's important to cultivate the ability to laugh freely whenever you find something funny.

• Laughing is a habit that gets easier the more you do it.

• A good practice is to watch something that makes you laugh before going out, as this primes you to be in a better state for laughter during conversation.

Charisma University Program

In this section, the speaker introduces his video program called Charisma University and shares some success stories from members who have gone through it.

About Charisma University

• Charisma University is a step-by-step guide that lays out exactly how to turn charisma advice into effortless unthinking habit.

• The program takes 20-30 minutes a day and comes with a daily action guide so users know exactly how to put what they're learning into practice.

• The program is sequential, with each day building upon the last. It also comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee for any reason whatsoever.

Success Stories

• One member got promoted early in their career because of their great social skills, quick thinking, and open self-assured demeanor learned from Charisma University.

• Another member was able to nail their first days at a new job thanks to the confidence, energy, smile, and positive mindset they learned from the program.

• A third member went from being socially awkward with few friends to the life of every event they attend and even found their dream partner after going through Charisma University.