YNK Podcast #112 - False Friends
Becoming a Paralegal
In this section, the speaker talks about how recent circumstances have led him to morph into a paralegal. He also mentions receiving an offer from a fan who went to law school and worked in a legal job.
Morphing into a Paralegal
- Due to recent circumstances, the speaker has morphed into a paralegal.
- A fan reached out offering legal intern services.
Previous Life as a Lawyer
The speaker talks about his previous life as a lawyer and how he has been knee-deep in legal work for the past few weeks due to recent circumstances.
Previous Life as a Lawyer
- The speaker reveals that he was previously a lawyer.
- He has been heavily involved in legal work for the past few weeks.
Hurtful Situation
In this section, the speaker briefly mentions that the situation is extremely hurtful.
Hurtful Situation
- The situation is extremely hurtful.
Doing Business with Friends
The speaker talks about his approach to doing business with friends and how it aligns with his company's motto "For the Homies."
Doing Business with Friends
- The speaker's approach to doing business is centered around doing it with friends.
- His company's motto is "For the Homies."
- He believes in making decisions out of love rather than just following common business practices.
- He wants everyone who went on this journey together to feel fulfilled both financially and personally.
Trusting People vs. Checking Balances
In this section, the speaker talks about his approach to trusting people and how he balances it with checks and balances.
Trusting People vs. Checking Balances
- The speaker believes in creating a culture where everyone can trust each other.
- He acknowledges that there is a level of blind trust involved in doing business with friends.
- He doesn't want to be the only one who benefits financially while his friends don't.
- He will make sure to have stricter checks and balances going forward.
Lesson Learned
In this section, the speaker talks about the lesson he learned from recent events.
Lesson Learned
- The speaker acknowledges that cliches exist for a reason.
- He admits that he did not subscribe to the idea of not doing business with friends but has learned his lesson.
- He will continue to trust people but will also be more cautious going forward.
Moving Forward
In this section, the speaker talks about moving forward from recent events.
Moving Forward
- The speaker is looking forward to taking steps towards resolving the situation.
- It's going to be a process, but he's in a good position.
- He's talking with lawyers and new business management day by day, which causes his emotions to go up and down.
- This experience will be an ongoing lesson of patience and trust in the universe.
The Importance of Rapport with Fans
In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of having a good rapport with fans and how it has contributed to his success as an independent musician.
Building Rapport with Fans
- Independent artists need to have an incredible rapport with their fans.
- Consistent hard work, accountability, responsibility, and transparency are key in building a strong relationship with fans.
- The speaker will never stop being transparent and will not be silent on issues that may affect his relationship with his fans.
Thousands of Complaints Buried
In this section, the speaker talks about thousands of complaints he received from fans who bought merchandise from his companies but did not receive them.
Ignored Complaints
- Thousands of complaints were buried purposely.
- Fans were ignored or blocked when they reached out for help after spending money on merchandise that took months to arrive or did not arrive at all.
Deeper Issues Uncovered
- The issues uncovered go far beyond not delivering orders on time.
- This person who's been in the nucleus or around me for this long has been poisoning my relationship with the people that make me go.
Healing Relationships and Moving Forward
In this section, the speaker talks about healing relationships and moving forward by sharing the truth about what happened.
Necessary Step in Healing Process
- Undoing what has been done is a necessary step in healing relationships.
- Sharing the truth will be uplifting and liberating for him once everything is said and done.
Authenticity and Accountability
- The speaker's authenticity and accountability are what his fans gravitate towards.
- The speaker resented himself a little bit because he knew better, but he was trying to take care of his guys.
Realizing the Truth
In this section, the speaker talks about how he feels after realizing that someone close to him was doing something terrible. He discusses his priorities and how he wants to see the best in people.
Tough Pill to Swallow
- The speaker talks about how it is tough to realize that someone close was doing something terrible.
- He mentions that he prided himself on keeping the gang together and staying solid with the guys, which may have blurred his vision on some things.
Seeing the Best in People
- The speaker talks about how he prefers seeing the best in people rather than being overly cautious.
- He mentions that he won't let this change who he is and won't carry any poison around with him.
Compassion for Self
In this section, the speaker discusses how he switched over to having compassion for himself instead of beating himself up. He also talks about a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson that resonated with him.
Having Compassion for Self
- The speaker mentions that he beat himself up for a few days but then switched over to having compassion for himself.
- He talks about zooming out and feeling bad for himself because of being in an extremely toxic relationship.
Quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson
- The speaker talks about a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson that resonated with him.
- He explains that Emerson defines success as getting the admiration of children and leaving things better than you found them, including enduring false friends.
Being a Giver
In this section, the speaker talks about being a giver and how it can attract takers who may take advantage of your kindness. He also discusses his spiritual growth and how it helped him realize what was going on in his life.
Enduring False Friends
- The speaker talks about enduring false friends as part of being a successful man.
- He mentions that being a giver comes with the knowledge that there will be people who take advantage of your kindness.
Spiritual Growth
- The speaker talks about his spiritual growth and how it helped him realize what was going on in his life.
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Attracting Positivity
In this section, the speaker talks about how he attracts positivity and looks at the positive in everyone. He also discusses how this outlook can be seen as "woo-woo" to people who are focused on practical matters.
Attracting Positivity
- The speaker attracts positivity and looks at the positive in everyone.
- This outlook can be seen as "woo-woo" to people who are focused on practical matters.
Trust and Negligence
In this section, the speaker talks about trust and negligence. He discusses how getting above tangible linear stuff on this human plane is important but it does not go with a lot of what they preach about.
Trust and Negligence
- Getting above tangible linear stuff on this human plane is important but it does not go with a lot of what they preach about.
- The speaker reflects on whether his recent experiences have dragged him back down into practical matters.
- The speaker admits that there was legitimate negligence on his part for not putting his foot down earlier when he knew something was wrong.
- Blind trust was a factor in allowing things to go on too long, but the speaker will never let that happen again.
Compassion and Best Intentions
In this section, the speaker talks about compassion and best intentions. He reflects on whether he is really looking out for other people and being the best version of himself.
Compassion and Best Intentions
- The speaker reflects on whether he is really looking out for other people and being the best version of himself.
- The speaker asserts that he has no malintentions for anybody, including the person who caused him problems.
- The success of Stevenson Ranch is built upon the rapport with fans that the speaker cultivated and nourished. He never half-assed one experience with any of these fans.
Accountability
In this section, the speaker talks about accountability. He discusses how his success is built on accountability and how he can take solace in that.
Accountability
- The speaker discusses how his success is built on accountability.
- The speaker refuses to play the victim and acknowledges that there are worse things that could happen to people.
The Importance of Clean Energy
In this section, the speaker talks about how his clean energy is important to him and how it affects his life.
Clean Energy
- The speaker believes that his energy is clean and he feels good about where it comes from.
- He thinks that time will be honest and the truth will come out publicly.
- The speaker's number one goal is repairing what's been done and repairing the damage to the fans and consumer base.
- He believes that the relationship between them and their fans is what matters most, not just money.
- The speaker sees this as a great learning experience and an opportunity to handle it with grace.
Making Music Out of Pain
In this section, the speaker talks about how he channels his pain into music.
Channeling Pain into Music
- The speaker talks about how he has been putting all his energy into making an album called "The Lows".
- He says that feeling betrayed or lonely is a common experience for humans, but he wants to channel that energy into his music.
- The only energy missing in his collection of music was pain, which he now has an opportunity to channel into his work.
Lessons Learned from Life Experiences
In this section, the speaker talks about learning lessons from life experiences.
Learning Lessons from Life Experiences
- The speaker shares a parable called "The Chinese Farmer" which teaches not to judge things as good or bad because you don't know where it's going to lead.
- He talks about how the farmer's horses running away was seen as a terrible thing, but it led to him getting more horses. The lesson is that you never know what's good or bad.
The Parable of Good or Bad
In this section, the speaker talks about a parable that he loves and thinks about often. He shares how it reminds him not to judge situations as good or bad, but rather to be open to whatever comes his way.
The Parable of Good or Bad
- The speaker shares a parable that he loves and thinks about often.
- He explains that the parable teaches us not to judge situations as good or bad because we never know what will come from them.
- The speaker says that he operates from a place of truth and alignment with his own truth, so he lets things take him wherever they are supposed to go without judging them as good or bad.
Finding Purpose in Idle Times
In this section, the speaker talks about a time in his life when he felt idle and unsure of his purpose. He shares how this time forced him to write his first movie and eventually led him to start a successful podcast.
Feeling Idle and Unsure
- The speaker talks about a time in his life when he felt idle and unsure of his purpose.
- He remembers walking dogs during this time because he had nothing else going on.
- Despite feeling lost during this time, the speaker was forced to write his first movie which gave him a sense of accomplishment.
Finding Purpose Through Creativity
- The speaker reflects on how writing his first movie eventually led him to start a successful podcast.
- He encourages listeners to remember that good things can come from difficult times and to stay open to new opportunities.
Companies That Arise During Difficult Times
In this section, the speaker talks about how companies often arise during difficult times. He shares examples of companies that emerged during the 2008 economic crash and during quarantine.
Companies That Emerge During Difficult Times
- The speaker talks about how companies often emerge during difficult times.
- He gives examples of companies that emerged during the 2008 economic crash, such as Uber and Airbnb.
- The speaker also mentions how his own subscription model was created during quarantine and has added value to his life and businesses.
Being Open to Anything, Attached to Nothing
In this section, the speaker talks about being open to anything and attached to nothing. He shares how checking in with your heart chakra can help you stay open even when things get tough.
Being Open and Unattached
- The speaker encourages listeners to be open to anything and attached to nothing.
- He explains that it's important not to close your heart when things get tough.
- The speaker suggests checking in with your heart chakra as a way of staying open even when things are difficult.
The Concept of Highs, Lows, and In-Betweens
In this section, the speaker discusses how humans are organisms that try to protect themselves from danger. They explain how blocking negativity can also block opportunities and discuss the concept of highs, lows, and in-betweens as a universal truth.
The Beauty of the Concept
- Blocking negativity can also block opportunities.
- The concept of highs, lows, and in-betweens is a universal truth.
- It is relatable because it reflects the human experience of going through peaks and valleys.
- Even mundane times have opportunities.
Handling Trauma with Grace
In this section, the speaker talks about handling trauma with grace. They discuss their personal experience with trauma and how they worked through their emotions without letting it control them.
Working Through Emotions
- This was the first time they had something traumatic happen without having a meltdown or letting it control them.
- They worked through their emotions instead of turning to alcohol or external attention-seeking behaviors.
- Handling situations with grace is what makes someone a man/woman.
- Understanding that the truth will come to light is important.
Protecting One's Name
In this section, the speaker talks about protecting their name after feeling violated by someone who threw dirt on it. They prioritize setting the truth free over money.
Prioritizing Truth Over Money
- Protecting one's name is important after feeling violated.
- Setting the truth free is their number one priority, even if it means losing money.
- Fans know them well enough to know that they did not do what they were accused of.
- The accused person was rude and condescending to fans, which upset the speaker.
The Narcissistic Artist
In this section, the speaker discusses a person who has a deep level of narcissism and how they forgot that they were not the talent. The speaker found out that this person did none of the art and was just pretending to be talented.
The Facade
- The person had a deep level of narcissism and forgot that they were not the talent.
- Majority of the work created under this person's name was done by someone else.
- Speaker respected the efforts put forth on the skill set that he brought but it wasn't even real because he wasn't doing it.
Red Flags Ignored
- There were many red flags about how this person talked to people, but speaker didn't address them more.
- Speaker feels like he let himself down by not addressing those red flags more.
Appreciating People Behind the Scenes
In this section, the speaker talks about how people behind the scenes aren't supposed to get attention and praise. He also emphasizes treating other people with respect and appreciation.
Praise for People Behind the Scenes
- People behind the scenes aren't supposed to get attention and praise.
- It doesn't make sense for people on the sidelines to get praise when others have built something.
- Speaker facilitated what was said earlier about appreciating people behind the scenes.
Treating Others with Respect
- How you treat other people is everything, especially those you don't know.
- People behind the camera aren't supposed to get praise and appreciation, but their job is to document other people to help them get praise and appreciation.
- Speaker preaches treating people with respect and appreciation, but he had a person next to him doing the opposite.
Giving Away the Keys
In this section, the speaker talks about giving away control of his business to someone he trusted and how it backfired on him.
Giving Control Away
- The speaker gave control of his business to someone he trusted.
- He moved this person to a city where they could take over.
- The speaker has no ego in letting this person be the face of the business.
- This person was able to take all the praise because they were everywhere in that city.
Playing It Straight
- There are many plays to make if you play it straight.
- Once you get established, making money becomes easier.
- All you have to do is play it smart and be a good person.
Profit Margins
In this section, the speaker talks about how their profit margins were much lower than expected due to someone mishandling their business.
Low Profit Margins
- The sector of business they are in typically has profit margins between 20% and 45%.
- Their profit margins were under 3%, which is significantly lower than expected.
- The speaker is not bluffing when they say they need to rectify the situation.
Moving Forward
- Despite everything that happened, the speaker believes something good will come out of it.
- They will not stoop down to anyone's level and will continue acting in alignment with their values.
Empowerment and Legacy
In this section, the speakers discuss the concept of empowerment and how it can lead to a person's downfall. They also talk about what matters most in life and the importance of being a good person.
Empowerment and Responsibility
- When you empower someone, that person now has a responsibility to not let it get the best of them.
- People in positions of interest or celebrities often let their fame get the best of them, changing their outlook on life.
- It is a hard lesson to learn that empowering someone can lead to their demise.
What Matters Most in Life
- A friend asked one speaker what matters most after accomplishing so much.
- The speaker replied that being a good person is what matters most.
- Legacy versus just being a good person is important, and making people feel good is his legacy.
Fame and Notoriety
- The speakers discuss how fame and notoriety do not matter as much as being a good person.
- Making smart business decisions is more important than becoming mega-famous.
- The speakers have made some bad business decisions but are proud of their accomplishments.
The Importance of Staying Grounded
In this section, the speaker talks about how staying grounded has been the secret to his success and how it is more important than any accolades he has received.
Staying Grounded
- Staying grounded has been the secret to the speaker's success.
- Being praised and receiving accolades is not as meaningful as being seen as a good person.
- The speaker believes that good people are what make life worth living.
- Living in alignment with one's values can lead to positive energy and flow.
Living in Truth
In this section, the speaker discusses how living in truth and alignment with one's values can lead to positive energy and better outcomes.
Living in Truth
- Living in truth and not hurting others can lead to positive energy and better outcomes.
- The speaker stopped engaging in low-frequency habits like drugs, alcohol, and random sex when he started living in truth.
- When living in truth, good things start flowing towards you.
Toxicity in the Environment
In this section, the speaker talks about how toxicity in the environment can affect one's growth and progress. He uses a metaphor of climbing mountains with a group of guys and having one person putting rocks in his backpack to make it heavier.
Effects of Toxicity
- The presence of toxicity in the environment can hinder growth and progress.
- Despite facing challenges caused by toxicity, it is possible to overcome them.
- Adversities caused by toxic environments can be viewed as opportunities for growth and development.
Staying Positive Amidst Challenges
In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of staying positive amidst challenges. He shares his personal experience of dealing with an arm injury that prevented him from becoming a professional baseball player.
Importance of Staying Positive
- It is important to stay positive amidst challenges.
- Having great people around you can help you stay positive during difficult times.
- One negative experience should not overshadow all the positive experiences one has had.
Dealing with Evolving Situations
In this section, the speaker talks about how situations can evolve over time and how it is important to deal with them accordingly. He also mentions that he has a clear line of communication with his consumer base.
Dealing with Evolving Situations
- Situations can evolve over time, and it is important to adapt accordingly.
- Having a clear line of communication with your consumer base can help you address evolving situations effectively.