Curados para CURAR | Téte a Téte com a Pri | 1º Episódio Milene Soares | 2º Temporada

Introduction to the Session

Setting Expectations

• The speaker expresses excitement for the first session of the year, emphasizing anticipation for what will unfold.

• Encourages viewers to engage by liking and sharing the video, hinting at a special guest who has an impactful story.

Introduction of Guest

• The guest is introduced as part of a team involved in community work, highlighting her roles as a teacher and network leader.

• The speaker prompts the guest to share her personal journey, particularly how she became a psychologist.

Personal Journey and Challenges

Early Life Reflections

• The guest shares that her childhood was not ideal, contrasting societal expectations of a perfect upbringing with her reality.

• She reflects on how childhood experiences shape adult life, noting that significant events from youth can have lasting impacts.

Overcoming Trauma

• Discusses how past traumas can serve as tools for professional work today; emphasizes resilience through faith.

• The guest recounts moments of doubt during her growth due to childhood trauma and questions about faith.

Impact of Childhood Experiences

Processing Trauma

• She describes struggles with processing traumatic experiences from childhood and their effects on future perspectives.

• Emphasizes that understanding forgiveness and moving beyond past definitions is crucial for personal development.

Professional Development

• Her journey into psychology was influenced by personal experiences; she aims to help others facing similar challenges.

Specific Traumatic Events

Encounter with Abuse

• Shares a pivotal moment at age 9 involving sexual abuse, marking it as a defining experience in her life trajectory.

Long-term Effects

• Highlights that unresolved issues from childhood can lead to compounded problems later in life; stresses importance of addressing these early on.

Understanding Trauma and Healing

The Burden of Guilt and Fear

• The speaker reflects on the feelings of guilt associated with childhood trauma, questioning if their actions contributed to the situation.

• There is apprehension about sharing traumatic experiences with others, particularly concerning family reactions to distressing news.

• The speaker discusses years of repression regarding their trauma, highlighting how it affects personal development into adolescence and adulthood.

The Importance of Sharing

• They express concerns about expectations when revealing trauma; sometimes seeking help does not yield the anticipated support.

• The act of sharing becomes a crucial step in healing, as keeping emotions bottled up can lead to further psychological distress.

• Comparing the heart to a trash bin, they emphasize the necessity of clearing out emotional burdens to prevent decay and foster renewal.

Seeking Help and Overcoming Fear

• The speaker encourages those struggling with past traumas to confront their fears and seek help, regardless of age or time elapsed since the event.

• They affirm that healing from childhood or adolescent traumas is possible through open communication, which is often challenging due to human tendencies to repress feelings.

Trust and Confession

• Emphasizing trust in relationships, they note that sharing trauma should be done with someone reliable rather than indiscriminately.

• They reference biblical teachings on confession as a means for divine intervention in healing processes.

Personal Experiences with Trauma

• The speaker recounts their journey towards liberation from trauma through verbalization; this was pivotal for initiating healing.

• They discuss difficulties in forgiving individuals who were close yet caused harm, complicating trust issues within relationships.

Relationships Affected by Past Trauma

• Reflecting on how past experiences shape current relationships, they highlight challenges faced when interacting with men due to unresolved childhood issues.

• They share insights about entering romantic relationships while still carrying emotional baggage from previous traumas.

Growth Through Self-Awareness

• After six years of marriage filled with unresolved issues from both partners' past traumas, they stress the importance of self-awareness for healthy relationships.

Understanding Relationships and Personal Growth

The Role of God in Relationships

• Emphasizes the importance of being complete with God before entering a relationship, as both individuals should reflect God's image.

• Clarifies that two individuals come together for a purpose, rather than to fill a void in each other’s lives.

Challenges in Marriage

• Discusses the tumultuous nature of marriage, highlighting issues such as jealousy and emotional turmoil.

• Reveals struggles with drug involvement from one partner, leading to significant challenges over six years.

Emotional and Physical Struggles

• Describes the impact of emotional abuse within the relationship, noting that harm can be non-physical but still deeply damaging.

• Shares feelings of inadequacy and fear stemming from abusive words spoken by the partner.

Faith and Support Systems

• Expresses concerns about leaving an abusive relationship due to fears instilled by the partner's words and societal expectations from church communities.

• Reflects on maintaining faith despite questioning God's presence during difficult times.

Seeking Help Within Religious Context

• Mentions ongoing attendance at church while grappling with personal struggles; highlights a disconnect between religious activity and true spiritual fulfillment.

• Stresses that Jesus desires a daily relationship with believers rather than mere attendance at services.

Lack of Effective Support

• Describes attempts to seek help from pastors but feeling unsupported; emphasizes a lack of practical assistance beyond prayer.

Reflections on Personal Trauma and Relationships

The Impact of Betrayal and Substance Abuse

• The speaker discusses the denial experienced in 2018, highlighting a significant betrayal that was only confirmed after leaving home.

• Acknowledges the struggle with substance abuse, noting that the partner's drug use escalated to a point where it became evident during their relationship.

• Mentions prior knowledge about psychological aspects of addiction, indicating an understanding of the partner's struggles with drugs.

• Expresses concern about how conservative environments, such as church communities, would react to personal revelations regarding betrayal and addiction.

• Reflects on active involvement in church activities while grappling with personal turmoil, emphasizing a strong desire to serve others despite internal conflicts.

Emotional Turmoil and Family Dynamics

• Describes feelings of losing everything due to the toxic relationship while being deeply involved in community service at church.

• Shares emotional distress caused by betrayal, which served as a tipping point leading to deeper reflections on childhood trauma.

• Connects past traumas with current relationship choices, suggesting that unresolved issues influenced decisions made in adulthood.

• Discusses feelings of emotional deprivation stemming from childhood experiences and how this affected adult relationships.

• Highlights the conflict between reason and emotion when making decisions about love and attachment.

Forgiveness and Moving Forward

• Explores the complexity of forgiveness within relationships impacted by infidelity and substance abuse; notes it was easier than addressing childhood trauma.

• Emphasizes personal growth through understanding forgiveness as a means to liberate oneself rather than absolving another's guilt.

• Reflecting on actions taken post-separation, including confronting issues related to drug use within their former home environment.

• Discusses moments of clarity following separation that led to recognizing divine intervention amidst chaos in their life situation.

Understanding Forgiveness and Personal Growth

The Journey of Forgiveness

• The speaker discusses a transformative experience in changing churches, emphasizing the understanding of true evangelical principles, particularly the concept of forgiveness.

• A notable quote from a pastor highlights that one must either forgive or face emotional illness, underscoring the importance of forgiveness in personal well-being.

• The speaker reflects on the connection between being forgiven by God and forgiving others, noting that emotional pain can hinder spiritual completeness.

• They share a personal struggle with resentment and how it led to a realization of needing salvation due to their inability to let go of past grievances.

• The discussion transitions into self-reflection about recognizing one's flaws while also acknowledging the faults in others during this journey.

Discovering True Faith

• The speaker describes an awakening to their own sins, including feelings of bitterness and resentment, which needed healing for full access to God’s grace.

• They metaphorically describe releasing forgiveness as liberating oneself from a cage, allowing for personal growth and freedom.

Educational Pathway

• After experiencing personal transformation through faith, the speaker discusses their academic journey starting with social work but always having an interest in psychology.

• Despite initial challenges securing a place in psychology programs, they pursued social work before eventually transitioning back to their passion for psychology focused on adolescents.

Professional Development

• In 2014, they felt compelled to pursue psychology seriously after working with children and adolescents through social work experiences.

• They highlight the challenges faced while balancing two degrees (social work and psychology), emphasizing determination and hard work throughout this process.

Reflection on Life Changes

• The year 2021 is marked as significant; it involved confronting pride and repeating past mistakes leading to valuable lessons learned through hardship.

Reflections on Personal Growth and Faith

Experiencing Peace Amid Uncertainty

• The speaker reflects on a period from late 2021 to early 2022, describing an experience of profound peace that aligns with biblical teachings.

• Despite the uncertainties of 2022, the speaker felt assured that God would provide necessary support, emphasizing a deep reliance on faith.

Transition into a New Role

• The year 2022 is highlighted as transformative, marking a resurgence in the speaker's life linked to their new role at Compassion Club.

• This position integrates psychology and education while working with adolescents, showcasing how past concerns about loss have been addressed through this opportunity.

Biblical Insights and Personal Struggles

• A significant verse shared by Milena (Isaiah 49:15) illustrates feelings of abandonment but reassures that God does not forget us.

• The discussion touches upon personal traumas and the feeling of isolation despite being surrounded by people, reinforcing the importance of divine presence during tough times.

Embracing New Beginnings

• The speaker encourages viewing 2023 as a fresh start filled with potential for growth and prosperity, urging listeners to embrace new cycles in their lives.

• Gratitude is expressed for sharing stories that resonate with others' experiences, highlighting vulnerability as a means to connect and heal.

Advice for Healing and Support

• Milena shares insights on healing processes, stressing the importance of mentorship and community support in overcoming past struggles.

Questioning One's Journey and Faith

Reflection on Personal Journey

• The speaker expresses a deep certainty about their experiences, emphasizing the importance of details in their journey.

• They mention a love for discussing these experiences, indicating a desire to share insights gained over time.

• A reference is made to the year 2003, suggesting that significant realizations or events occurred during this period.

• The speaker acknowledges God as a miracle worker, highlighting faith as an integral part of their narrative.