When You Feel Nervous, Use This Trick To Look Confident

Tips to Look and Feel More Confident

In this video, the speaker shares tips on how to look and feel more confident in situations where you might have previously felt nervous. The speaker uses clips of Tom Holland to illustrate his points.

Handling Mistakes in Conversation

• Tom Holland handles his mistakes in conversation by expanding instead of shrinking.

• Reacting positively when you accidentally say something stupid shows that you're unfazed, which makes you look confident.

• Tom calls himself out for his mistake immediately after realizing it.

Body Language

• People cue into your body language so much that when giving contradictory words and body language, they will almost always trust what they see over what they hear.

• Even though Tom says he's nervous, he still comes across as confident and likable because of his body language.

Mind-Body Connection

• You can shift the way you feel simply by changing your body language. For example, imagine feeling nervous moments before a big event; you can shift that nervousness towards excitement simply by making yourself smile.

• A forced smile can make you look nervous or uncomfortable. Smile beforehand before an important phone call or in a car on the way to a date. Throw on some happy music and plaster a smile on your face; it'll put you in a better mood and kill some nerves.

Positive Energy

• Coming in with positive energy will help things go better too. There's a reason salespeople have been teaching "smile before you dial" for decades.

Thoughtful Communication

In this section, Tom Holland shares tips on how to communicate thoughtfully and avoid awkwardness in conversations.

Pausing Before Answering

• When pausing to think about a question, look up and away rather than down. This makes it seem like you're thinking without any feelings of awkwardness.

• Pausing before answering a question can also help make your response funnier.

Being Vulnerable

• Many people incorrectly think that admitting vulnerable emotions shows weakness so they lie or get defensive.

• If you don't feel comfortable sharing vulnerable things about yourself, then humor is a great first tool for charismatically sharing.

• Admitting vulnerable emotions with a positive attitude earns respect because you're sharing something many people would be scared to share.

Charismatic Storytelling

• Once you've mastered the tips above, you no longer have to be afraid of being emotional, embarrassed, or awkward around others. Instead, use past embarrassing moments as inspiration for charismatic storytelling.

• Telling embarrassing stories is a great way to showcase your own confidence.

Acting Out Characters in Your Stories

In this section, Tom Holland shares tips on how to act out characters in your stories when telling them.

Acting Out Past Self

• The easiest thing is to act out your past self since that should be easy since you're always acting like you anyway.

• Acting out the bumbling nervousness of the past can be endearing and relatable.

Acting Out Emotions

In this section, the speaker explains how acting out emotions can make stories more interesting and engaging.

Reenacting Emotions

• Reenacting emotions felt during a story can make it funnier and more engaging.

• Any emotion works, not just nervousness.

• Tom acts out excitement and surprise in an example.

Changing Body Language

• Changing body language or voice can make a story more interesting.

• Even a bad impression can make people laugh if committed to it.

Surprised Pause

• A surprised pause is an easy way to add emotion to a story.

Defending Friends

In this section, the speaker discusses how defending friends can help increase charisma.

Defending Friends

• Tom casually defends his friends when someone tries to elevate him above them.

• This habit makes him look confident in himself and endears him to others long-term.

Charisma University Program

In this section, the speaker introduces their program for improving confidence and charisma.

Charisma University Program

• The program teaches skills such as starting conversations and building connections with others.

• Members have reported significant improvements in their social lives after completing the program.

Benefits of Charisma University

In this section, the speaker talks about how Charisma University has helped people improve their lives and relationships.

Improved Self-Love and Relationships

• People have reported improvements in their lives after taking the course.

• The course has helped them love themselves and others better.

• They have been able to create and develop amazing external relationships.

Testimonial from a Course Graduate

• A man who joined after a breakup thanked the speaker for creating Charisma University.

• He thought he would become a smooth talker but ended up feeling confident in himself.

• He feels liberated after completing the course.

Money-back Guarantee

In this section, the speaker talks about the money-back guarantee that comes with Charisma University.

60-Day Money-back Guarantee

• The course comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee.

• Members can get a full refund for any reason at all within 60 days of joining.

• This is to ensure that every member truly feels like they're getting massive value from the course.

Refund Process

• If members are not satisfied with the course, they can get their full investment back.

• To learn more about the refund process, click on the link provided on screen or below in the description.

Conclusion

In this section, the speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to join Charisma University and thanking them for watching.

Joining Charisma University

• Thousands of members have gone through this course and gotten a ton out of it.

• The speaker encourages viewers to join and experience similar benefits.

Thank You for Watching

• The speaker thanks viewers for watching and hopes they enjoyed the video.