This video is a FREE therapy ❤️listen to it carefully......
The Impact of Expectations on Happiness
The Story of Two Brahmins
- The speaker asserts that the video will significantly reduce a major sorrow in life, introducing a story about two Brahmins who rely on alms for food.
- In their village, a wealthy merchant fulfills a wish by hosting a feast (bhandaara), inviting everyone, including the two Brahmins.
- One Brahmin is excited about the feast as it means they won't have to beg for food; he anticipates enjoying a lavish meal without effort.
- The second Brahmin focuses on receiving money from the merchant, expecting at least ₹11 as his share due to the merchant's wealth.
Expectations and Reality
- At the feast, while one Brahmin enjoys the meal gratefully, the other is preoccupied with thoughts of money and feels disappointed when he receives only ₹5 instead of ₹11.
- The first Brahmin expresses gratitude for both food and money, while the second feels resentment towards the merchant for not giving more despite his wealth.
Lessons Learned
- The speaker emphasizes that expectations lead to suffering; when we expect something in return for our actions or kindness, we often end up disappointed.
- This expectation can stem from personal relationships or materialistic desires. When others do not reciprocate as anticipated, it leads to unhappiness.
Understanding Individual Differences
- Each person has unique perspectives and behaviors; thus, expecting them to respond similarly to our actions can result in disappointment.
- Our own efforts may not yield expected results because we tie our happiness to specific outcomes based on our expectations.
Moving Beyond Expectations
- The speaker reflects on personal experiences where holding onto expectations caused prolonged suffering and frustration over perceived injustices from others.
- Realizing that there is no guaranteed exchange system in relationships helped shift their perspective away from expecting reciprocity based solely on their good deeds.
Embracing Acceptance
- Now, they advocate for acting without expectations—focusing instead on one's own actions and responsibilities rather than anticipating how others should behave in return.
- This approach fosters peace of mind by eliminating disappointment tied to unmet expectations.
Understanding Expectations and Karma in Life
The Burden of Expectations
- The speaker expresses a sense of detachment from expectations, suggesting that letting go can lead to less disappointment.
- Emphasizes the importance of viewing actions as duties or "dharma," rather than expecting rewards or recognition for them.
- Highlights that suffering often stems from high expectations, urging listeners not to expect anything from others or even themselves.
Living in the Present
- Stresses the uncertainty of life, noting that one cannot predict what will happen next; thus, it's crucial to focus on present actions.
- Encourages individuals to perform their duties without attachment to outcomes, reinforcing the idea that control lies only in one's actions.
Relationships and Expectations
- Discusses how relationships are often burdened by mutual expectations, which can lead to disappointment if not met.
- Advises against tying personal desires directly to expected results; instead, one should act with love and let outcomes unfold naturally.
Embracing Action Over Results
- Urges listeners not to shy away from dreaming big but emphasizes focusing on the effort put into achieving those dreams rather than fixating on immediate results.
- Concludes with a reminder that enjoying life is paramount; one should not expect reciprocation for kindness or love as it is ultimately an individual's own responsibility.