The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life!

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Understanding Relationship Dynamics

The State of Marriage

Women are reported to be more unhappily married than men, with 80% of relationship problems being brought up by women.

A significant 69% of all relationship problems are deemed unsolvable, suggesting that relying on problem resolution as a measure of relationship success is misleading.

Insights from Renowned Researchers

Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman have studied love for over 50 years and created the "Love Lab," which has followed 3,000 couples to identify successful versus unsuccessful relationship behaviors.

They emphasize the importance of cuddling; 96% of non-cuddlers report poor sex lives.

Impact of Kissing and Conflict Behaviors

Men who kiss their wives goodbye tend to live four years longer than those who do not.

During conflicts, four key negative behaviors predict relationship failure: criticism, defensiveness, contempt (the worst predictor), and stonewalling.

The Journey into Love Research

Personal Motivations Behind the Research

Dr. Julie Gottman highlights that love can heal societal issues like violence and conflict, aiming to teach people how to cultivate calm and compassionate relationships.

Dr. John Gottman shares his initial curiosity about why some couples succeed while others fail in relationships, stemming from his own experiences with relationship failures.

Collaboration for Change

The collaboration between John and Julie began when they decided to combine clinical insights with statistical findings from John's research to create practical theories for sustaining love.

Masters of Relationships: Insights from Research

The Importance of Studying Successful Relationships

Researchers spent over a decade studying gay and lesbian couples, identifying key differences between successful and struggling relationships.

The central question was whether it was possible to transform failing relationships into successful ones, exploring the correlation versus causation in their findings.

Research Contributions and Findings

The researchers have published around 200 research papers and authored approximately 52 books on relationship dynamics.

A significant study involved over 40,000 couples, with longitudinal studies tracking groups for up to 20 years, marking a pioneering effort in relationship research.

Love's Impact on Health

Love is often undervalued compared to other life aspects; however, its correlation with physical health outcomes is critical.

Social epidemiology emerged as a field highlighting that quality relationships significantly predict longevity and overall health.

Community and Longevity

Studies show that social connections contribute more to longevity than diet or cholesterol levels; community ties are essential for better health outcomes.

Individuals with strong social networks tend to live longer and experience higher life satisfaction compared to those who are socially isolated.

Intentional Relationship Building

Emphasizing the need for intentional investment in relationships akin to physical fitness routines due to increasing societal loneliness.

Statistics reveal that individuals from divorced families may live significantly shorter lives, underscoring the importance of stable relationships.

The Love Lab: A Unique Research Environment

The "Love Lab," named by the BBC during a documentary, provided an apartment-like setting where couples were observed continuously while physiological data was collected.

Understanding Relationship Dynamics

Analyzing Physiological and Emotional Responses

The study involved videotaping couples while monitoring physiological measures, allowing for detailed analysis of their interactions.

Researchers examined verbal communication, body language, facial expressions, and emotional responses to understand relationship dynamics.

Findings highlighted the importance of friendship in relationships, linking it to increased passion and longevity in partnerships.

Misconceptions About Relationships

A common misconception is that maintaining a good relationship requires significant effort; however, small gestures can be impactful.

Criticism often fails to resolve conflicts; instead, recognizing bids for connection is crucial for relationship success.

Successful couples respond positively to small bids for connection (e.g., sharing observations), fostering deeper friendships.

Importance of Connection Bids

Couples who turn towards each other's bids for connection 85% of the time tend to have successful long-term relationships.

In contrast, couples who ignore these bids are more likely to experience dissatisfaction and divorce (33%).

Personal Reflections on Connection

One participant reflects on their struggle with acknowledging their partner's attempts at connection due to work distractions.

Another participant shares how their upbringing influenced their ability to concentrate and respond during interactions.

Strategies for Improving Connection

Effective relationships involve stopping everything when a partner expresses a need or concern; active listening is essential.

Keeping a notebook handy can help partners stay engaged during important conversations about feelings or issues.

Communication in Relationships: Understanding Connection and Timing

Importance of Timing in Conversations

The speaker emphasizes the need for partners to signal when they require important conversations, highlighting that these moments are not frequent but significant.

One partner discusses how they ask for attention when the other is busy, indicating a mutual understanding of timing and availability.

Acknowledgment that both partners may not always be available to talk at the same time, leading to a need for patience and understanding.

Expressing Needs Softly

One partner reflects on their struggle with expressing that it’s not a good time to talk, suggesting that their delivery might lack softness.

A suggested phrase is shared: expressing love while also stating the need for time to finish tasks can help convey respect and care.

Bids for Connection

The concept of "bids for connection" is introduced; it's crucial for partners to recognize these bids as expressions of love and desire for connection.

Discussion about how ignoring or dismissing bids can lead to emotional hurt, causing one partner to withdraw over time.

Consequences of Ignoring Bids

The impact of habitual dismissal of bids leads individuals to feel rejected, which can create emotional distance between partners.

This emotional distance may result in loneliness or even infidelity if connections continue to be missed.

Metaphor of Emotional Vulnerability

A metaphor comparing relationships to a sea anemone illustrates how rejection causes individuals to close off emotionally, making future connections harder.

Dynamics of Avoidant vs. Anxious Attachment Styles

One partner shares personal insights about feeling pressured when missing bids, noting an increase in attempts at connection afterward due to attachment styles.

Attunement Framework Explained

The concept of attunement is likened to musical instruments being in sync; creating rituals helps maintain this harmony within relationships.

Empathy and Relationship Dynamics

The Importance of Empathy in Relationships

Empathy is highlighted as a crucial tool for creating connections between partners, especially when one expresses feelings of anger or frustration.

Attuning to a partner's emotions involves asking open-ended questions to understand their burdens better, such as the feeling of taking on a "second shift" after work.

Differentiating between blame and expressing personal feelings is essential; blaming statements often lead to defensiveness rather than constructive dialogue.

Effective Communication Strategies

When addressing issues, individuals should focus on describing their feelings about situations instead of criticizing their partner's character or actions.

A positive approach includes stating what one would appreciate from their partner, which can foster motivation and cooperation rather than resentment.

Common Pitfalls in Couples Therapy

Traditional couples therapy often fails due to therapists lacking proper assessment tools and not addressing criticism effectively during sessions.

Many therapists do not guide couples away from negative communication patterns that hinder understanding and connection.

Principles for Successful Relationships

Understanding the principles of successful relationships involves recognizing what good relationships look like based on research findings.

Understanding Relationship Dynamics

Importance of Partner Communication

Engaging in meaningful conversations with partners is crucial to understanding their values, priorities, needs, and feelings, which can evolve over time.

Expressing fondness and admiration is essential for maintaining love; lack of verbal or physical expressions may lead to uncertainty about feelings after years together.

Managing Conflict and Supporting Dreams

Managing conflict effectively is vital; additionally, honoring each other's dreams—hopes and aspirations—is important even if they differ significantly.

Creating shared meaning involves discussing personal philosophies and life purposes with your partner to strengthen the relationship's foundation.

Building Trust and Commitment

Trust develops over time by consistently being there for one another during various life situations (e.g., sickness, celebrations).

Commitment signifies a lifelong journey together; partners should communicate that they are dedicated to the relationship long-term.

The Role of Aligned Dreams in Relationships

It’s a myth that partners must have aligned dreams; compatibility does not require identical aspirations or interests.

Conflicting dreams can pose challenges; for instance, if one partner desires to live in Australia while the other prefers America, it may lead to significant issues without compromise.

Examples of Incompatible Dreams

A couple faced an irreconcilable situation where one partner wanted to stay in Switzerland for their autistic son’s support system while the other worked in Uganda. This led them to break up but with clarity on their reasons.

Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems

Research indicates that 69% of problems within relationships are perpetual—issues that cannot be solved but can be adapted to over time.

Partners often find differences attractive initially but may become sources of irritation later on if not accepted or managed properly.

Coping with Perpetual Problems

Once committed, individuals inherit unresolved issues that will persist throughout the relationship. Adaptation and humor are key strategies for coping.

Personal Example of a Perpetual Problem

An example from personal experience highlights differing cleanliness standards between partners: one is tidy while the other is messy. This difference requires negotiation and communication over time.

Resolution Strategies

Pathways to Dealing with Perpetual Problems

Understanding Perpetual Problems

The speaker discusses the nature of perpetual problems, suggesting that acceptance is key to managing them. They introduce a method for compromise known as the "bagel" or "donut" method, which varies by culture.

The Bagel Method Explained

In this method, individuals identify non-negotiable aspects of their position regarding an issue, akin to holding onto essential parts of their identity.

Participants also outline flexible areas where they can negotiate—these include logistical details like timing and costs. Sharing these insights fosters understanding between partners.

Navigating Gridlocked Conflicts

Gridlock occurs when partners are unwilling to budge on their positions, leading to ineffective dialogue and escalating tensions.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding each partner's perspective deeply rather than merely trying to win arguments.

Compassion Through Understanding

Without mutual understanding, conflicts can escalate into shouting matches or emotional withdrawal. Recognizing that partners may feel pressured to change can lead to resentment.

The introduction of six specific questions aims to facilitate deeper conversations about feelings and perceptions in order to break gridlock.

Key Questions for Resolution

These questions explore beliefs, values, personal history related to positions on issues, ideal outcomes, and life goals tied to those positions.

Engaging in this questioning process allows both partners insight into each other's core motivations and needs.

The Four Horsemen: Indicators of Conflict

Identifying Destructive Behaviors

Understanding the Four Horsemen of Relationship Conflict

The Discovery of the Four Horsemen

John and Bob Levenson discovered that successful couples maintain a positivity-to-negativity ratio of 5:1 or higher during conflicts, while unsuccessful couples average 8:1.

This ratio is calculated by comparing seconds spent displaying positive behaviors (interest, affection, validation) to those spent in negative interactions (anger, criticism).

Corrosive Negativity in Relationships

Not all negative interactions are equally damaging; criticism that starts with a sense of superiority is particularly harmful.

Constructive criticism often backfires when it leads to defensiveness or counterattacks instead of fostering understanding.

The Role of Contempt

Contempt emerges as the most significant predictor of relationship breakdown, characterized by feelings of superiority over one's partner.

Examples include name-calling and sarcasm, which can be humorous but often cross into hurtful territory.

Stonewalling: A Common Male Response

Stonewalling is predominantly exhibited by men (85%); they tend to shut down during conflicts without providing feedback cues like nodding or vocal affirmations.

Physiological responses during stonewalling indicate heightened stress levels rather than mere disagreement.

Understanding Gender Differences in Conflict Responses

Men may express anger more readily due to physiological arousal differences; they secrete vasopressin while women produce oxytocin, leading to different emotional responses.

Men’s evolutionary role as protectors contributes to their tendency for aggression and shutting down during conflict situations.

The Concept of Flooding in Arguments

Flooding refers to entering a fight-or-flight state triggered by stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline when feeling attacked or unsafe.

Understanding Emotional Flooding in Relationships

The Impact of Overlearned Habits

Emotional flooding can impair listening and problem-solving abilities, leading to a focus solely on survival cues rather than creative solutions.

Gender Differences in Conflict Avoidance

Men are often perceived as more avoidant in arguments; this may stem from difficulties in expressing emotions or physiological reactions during conflicts.

Communication Dynamics During Arguments

Women frequently initiate discussions about relationship issues, but both genders can experience emotional flooding that hinders effective communication.

Managing Flooding During Disagreements

It is advised to take breaks during heated arguments. Going to sleep angry is debated, with suggestions for brief separations instead.

St. Paul's advice against going to bed wrathful is critiqued; practical strategies include taking timeouts and returning when calmer.

Steps for Taking a Break Effectively

When feeling flooded, communicate the need for a break clearly without placing blame. Specify when to resume the conversation.

Engage in soothing activities during the break (e.g., reading or exercising), avoiding thoughts about the argument to prevent continued flooding.

Relationship Satisfaction and Gender Perspectives

Research indicates women report higher levels of unhappiness in marriages compared to men, who may perceive relationships as satisfactory without recognizing underlying issues.

A personal anecdote highlights how unaddressed issues might lead men to believe everything is fine until problems are raised by their partners.

The Role of Women in Relationship Maintenance

Women face greater societal challenges, including higher rates of depression and safety concerns, which may influence their approach to relationship dynamics.

Women's tendency to bring up relationship problems (80% of the time according to research) reflects societal conditioning towards nurturing and maintaining connections.

Empathy and Communication Challenges

Understanding that partners play crucial roles in addressing relationship issues fosters empathy; misinterpretation can arise from individual backgrounds affecting perceptions.

Understanding Conflict in Relationships

The Nature of Conflict

A couple discusses how communication styles can lead to conflict, with the husband helping his wife identify specific aspects of his personality that frustrate her.

The husband acknowledges his authoritative tone, which works in court but not in personal relationships. He remains open and non-defensive during this discussion.

Key Insights on Relationship Success

The speaker emphasizes that successful long-term relationships depend on how well couples resolve conflicts, noting that 69% of problems are perpetual and won't be solved.

Understanding a partner's perspective before attempting to resolve issues is crucial for effective conflict management.

Misconceptions About Conflict

There is a common myth that frequent conflict indicates a bad relationship; however, couples who fight constructively can deepen their understanding of each other.

Conflicts often reveal underlying dreams, family histories, and life purposes, providing deeper insights into partners' motivations and feelings.

Mastering Conflict Management

The speaker suggests focusing on conflict management rather than resolution. Taking notes during discussions helps process emotions logically.

Writing down concerns allows individuals to calm down and engage more thoughtfully in conversations about important issues.

Effective Communication Techniques

Note-taking shifts focus from emotional reactions to intellectual processing, facilitating better understanding between partners.

Taking notes makes partners feel valued and heard, reinforcing the importance of their feelings during discussions.

Repair Attempts in Arguments

Partners often check if they are understood during arguments; this highlights the need for clear communication and validation of feelings.

Most people struggle with effective repair attempts after an argument begins; initial responses often dictate the trajectory of the discussion.

Understanding Relationship Repairs

The Importance of Emotional Repair in Conversations

Emphasizes the need for rational evaluation of options during conflicts, highlighting that emotional repairs can help redirect conversations.

Discusses how early emotional repair attempts are more effective in restoring relationships during disagreements.

Notes that successful repairs require acceptance from both parties; one must express a desire for gentler communication while the other must be willing to accept it.

Steps for Post-Argument Repair

Introduces a five-step method for processing and repairing communication after a regrettable incident when both partners are calmer.

Step 1: Each partner identifies and vocalizes their emotions experienced during the incident, using a printed list as guidance.

Detailed Steps in the Repair Process

Step 2: Partners narrate their perspectives on the incident while the other takes notes, ensuring accurate understanding through summarization and validation of feelings expressed.

Step 3: Partners identify any enduring vulnerabilities triggered by past experiences that may have influenced their reactions during the argument.

Taking Responsibility and Moving Forward

Step 4: Each partner acknowledges their contributions to the conflict, articulating regrets and offering apologies only after understanding each other's perspectives fully.

Step 5: Partners suggest actionable changes they can make to prevent similar issues in future interactions.

Meta-Cognition in Conflict Resolution

Discusses how stepping back to analyze situations can help diffuse tension; however, caution is advised against blaming or analyzing one's partner's feelings directly.

Insights on Intimacy and Relationships

Explores research on intimacy, particularly focusing on kissing within relationships and its significance based on findings from various studies.

Understanding the Importance of Touch in Relationships

The Role of Touch and Affection

A fulfilling sex life is linked to daily expressions of love, such as saying "I love you," giving compliments, and engaging in physical touch like cuddling. Only 4% of non-cuddlers reported a great sex life.

Public displays of affection and romantic gestures are crucial for connection; research indicates that these elements contribute significantly to relationship satisfaction.

Kissing and Its Impact on Longevity

Not all cultures practice kissing, but in those that do, it serves as an important gateway to eroticism. A German study found men who kiss their wives goodbye live about four years longer than those who don't.

The "six-second kiss" is recommended for its potential benefits; it promotes oxytocin secretion, fostering psychological safety and bonding between partners.

Sexual Preferences and Relationship Dynamics

Couples exhibit a wide range of sexual preferences; some may prefer minimal sexual activity while others desire frequent intimacy. Both scenarios can lead to successful relationships if both partners are content.

Conflicts often arise when one partner feels deprived of touch or affection due to differing needs for intimacy, leading to misunderstandings about sexual frequency versus emotional connection.

Communication About Intimacy Needs

Miscommunication regarding intimacy can occur when one partner views cuddling as too infantile while the other craves physical contact. This disconnect can create tension within the relationship.

Recognizing that everyday interactions (like kissing or touching) serve as foreplay can enhance overall intimacy and improve sexual experiences later.

The Connection Between Fun and Sexual Satisfaction

Positive actions in a relationship contribute to overall satisfaction; couples who stop having sex often also cease engaging in fun activities together, which diminishes their connection.

Research shows that many couples report a decline in fun within their relationships, indicating a need for shared adventures beyond just sexual encounters.

Familiarity vs. Novelty in Relationships

There’s a common belief that novelty fuels attraction while familiarity breeds comfort; however, research suggests emotional connection through familiarity leads to better long-term passion.

Women typically require more emotional prerequisites for eroticism compared to men. Psychological safety is essential for women’s receptiveness towards intimacy.

Emotional Safety's Role in Sexual Receptivity

Understanding Women's Safety Needs

The Impact of Historical Trauma on Women

Four women experience sexual molestation or assault by age 18, highlighting a significant issue in women's safety. Estimates suggest that the actual number may be closer to one in three or even 40% when including unreported cases.

The historical context of women being viewed as sex objects contributes to an ingrained need for safety, which men may not fully comprehend.

Emotional Connection and Psychological Safety

Awareness of emotional connection is crucial; trauma can be passed down generations, influencing women's perceptions and needs for safety.

Men are advised to create a sense of safety for their partners to foster arousal and intimacy.

Changing Attitudes Towards Sex

There is a noticeable shift towards less emotional connection in sexual encounters, with many individuals engaging in casual hookups devoid of deeper relationships.

This trend leads to feelings of emptiness post-hookup, as individuals report lacking emotional fulfillment from these experiences.

The Evolving Dynamics of Relationships

Factors Influencing Relationship Commitment

Many couples are opting out of long-term commitments due to witnessing parental divorces and changing societal norms regarding marriage.

Women's increasing participation in the workforce has led to shifts in traditional gender roles, complicating relationship dynamics.

Gender Roles and Societal Expectations

Studies indicate that men may feel emasculated by successful women, leading them to find such women less attractive despite societal expectations for men to provide financially.

The shrinking pool of eligible partners who meet traditional criteria (education and financial stability) poses challenges for modern dating.

Navigating Career Aspirations and Family Roles

Internal Conflicts Regarding Gender Roles

Both men and women face internal conflicts about their roles; women struggle between career ambitions and traditional expectations while men grapple with evolving definitions of masculinity.

Men's desire to be involved fathers clashes with work demands, creating tension around family responsibilities versus career obligations.

Progress Towards Equality

Despite progress toward gender equality in the workplace, outdated myths persist regarding men's value based on income levels.

Understanding Modern Masculinity and Relationships

The Challenge of Defining Masculine Roles

There is a growing challenge for men in understanding their roles in society, especially as expectations persist that they should still fulfill traditional responsibilities like paying bills.

Men are increasingly recognizing the importance of relationships, often lacking emotional support systems and close friendships outside of romantic partnerships.

The Importance of Social Connections

Both men and women need close connections; the belief that success alone leads to happiness is misleading. Loneliness is becoming an epidemic, highlighting the need for community engagement.

Women often seek partners who are sensitive and emotionally aware, contrasting with traditional views of masculinity that emphasize strength and achievement.

Navigating Emotional Expectations

There exists a contradiction where women desire both emotional sensitivity and physical strength in men, complicating how masculinity is perceived.

Strength can coexist with emotional expression; voicing emotions may require more courage than suppressing them. This duality reflects broader societal issues regarding safety and vulnerability.

Communication About Intimacy

Research indicates that couples who discuss their sex lives tend to have better sexual experiences. Open communication fosters intimacy.

Effective conversations about sex should be accepting and loving, focusing on what partners enjoy about each other while expressing desires for improvement.

Tools for Better Sexual Communication

A structured kit called "Got Sex" includes seven conversation prompts designed to facilitate discussions about preferences in sexual relationships.

Different fantasies exist between genders or orientations; understanding these differences can enhance intimacy when one partner has different desires from the other.

Addressing Fantasies in Relationships

When one partner isn't willing to engage in a fantasy desired by the other, verbal communication can help bridge gaps. Talking during intimate moments can improve overall satisfaction.

LinkedIn Campaigns and Zoe's Growth

LinkedIn Advertising Insights

The speaker emphasizes the effectiveness of paid media on LinkedIn, highlighting access to a vast audience of over a billion members, including 70 million decision-makers and 10 million C-level executives.

A promotional offer is presented for the DOAC community, providing a $100 credit for their first LinkedIn campaign by visiting linkedin.com/doac24.

Zoe's Advancements in Gut Health

The speaker discusses Zoe, an investment and podcast sponsor, noting its impressive growth in gut health science.

Zoe has significantly improved its gut health test capabilities from analyzing 30 bacteria types to now identifying 100 types due to recent scientific breakthroughs.

Understanding Betrayal in Relationships

The Impact of Betrayal

Research indicates that betrayal is central to failed relationships; it encompasses various forms beyond infidelity, such as emotional alliances against a partner.

Trust and commitment are identified as foundational elements in relationships that require healing when betrayal occurs.

Roleplay Scenarios: Signs of Relationship Failure

A roleplay illustrates negative communication patterns between couples destined to fail, showcasing criticism and contempt.

In contrast, positive interactions are demonstrated through supportive dialogue about challenges faced during activities like crossword puzzles.

Advice for Long-lasting Relationships

Key Takeaways for Relationship Longevity

The speaker shares personal insights on maintaining a long-term relationship after 37 years of marriage.

Dreams and Family Dynamics

Balancing Personal Aspirations with Family Life

The speaker expresses a desire to start a family while also cherishing the podcasting experience, highlighting the limited locations suitable for both.

Acknowledges that having children will change their current lifestyle, emphasizing the need for presence and togetherness in parenting.

Importance of Communication in Relationships

Discusses the significance of open conversations in long-term relationships, referencing their book "Eight Dates" as a guide for essential discussions.

Emphasizes that differing dreams within a relationship can be navigated through love and communication.

Strategies for Relationship Improvement

Advises on turning towards one's partner during interactions, suggesting an 85% engagement rate to foster connection.

Stresses avoiding blame during discussions; instead, focus on expressing personal feelings and needs positively.

Tools for Expressing Needs

Introduces the "Expressing Your Needs" card deck as a resource to facilitate weekly discussions about individual needs within the relationship.

Encourages clarity in communication by sharing specific needs each week to enhance mutual understanding and happiness.

Insights from Relationship Research

Shares findings from research indicating that accepting influence from one’s partner is crucial for empowerment in relationships.

Highlights the importance of clear communication regarding personal needs rather than expecting partners to intuitively understand them.

The Value of Reflection in Relationships

Annual Reflection Practices

Describes an annual tradition where they ask each other three reflective questions about their past year, fostering deeper understanding and growth.

Daily Expressions of Love

Notes that constant communication filled with love and gratitude is vital, despite busy schedules affecting date nights.

Personal Significance of Partners

Emotional Connection and Support

One partner describes the other as central to their life, bringing joy through companionship and shared experiences like grandparenthood.

Healing Through Partnership

Discussion on Love and Relationships

The Importance of the Book "Fight Right"

The author discusses the motivation behind writing "Fight Right," emphasizing the increasing polarization in society and how hatred has become a sanctioned expression of political views.

There is a call for better listening and love within families, suggesting that personal change can ripple out to create broader societal impacts.

Personal Reflections on Family Dynamics

Julie reflects on her childhood, wishing her father had spent more time at home and urging her mother to focus on positive reinforcement rather than criticism.

She describes her father's role as a cardiologist, often absent due to work commitments, while noting her mother's struggles with mental health issues.

Understanding Conflict in Relationships

Discussion reveals that Julie's mother had experienced severe trauma, which affected her ability to advocate for herself or engage in healthy conflict resolution.

J shares his appreciation for his parents but expresses concern over their parenting style towards his sister, highlighting the emotional impact it had on her.

The Role of Early Relationships

Both speakers acknowledge how their early family dynamics shaped their perspectives on love and relationships, influencing their professional paths.

They emphasize that understanding one's origin story is crucial in addressing current relationship challenges.

Acknowledgment of Pioneering Work

The host praises both guests for their contributions to the field of love and relationships, noting how influential their work has been among successful individuals across various disciplines.