How She Built Her Confidence, and Then an Empire with Krissy Cela | E57

Name: How She Built Her Confidence, and Then an Empire with Krissy Cela | E57
Uploaded: 2020-11-23T06:00:05.000Z
Duration: 3 h 30 min 58 s

Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

The podcast aims to provide honesty and authenticity, sharing success stories that are not glamorized or oversimplified. The guest for this episode is Chrissy Chella, an entrepreneur with a remarkable story.

Honesty as the Motivation

The podcast was started to provide much-needed honesty in the world.

Success stories are often glamorized and oversimplified, but this podcast aims to offer raw and unfiltered honesty.

Introduction of Chrissy Chella

Chrissy Chella is an underrated entrepreneur running multiple multi-million pound businesses.

She is known as one of the UK's top fitness creators and athletes.

Her book will be released in January.

Uncovering Chrissy Chella's Story

The host did some research on Chrissy Chella and discovered her remarkable entrepreneurial journey. He discusses the perception people may have based on her social media presence.

Perception vs Reality

Despite initial judgments based on social media, Chrissy Chella is a successful entrepreneur with multiple businesses.

People tend to form conclusions quickly based on appearances, but these judgments are often wrong.

Overcoming Stereotypes as a Woman Entrepreneur

The conversation delves into the stereotypes faced by women entrepreneurs, particularly regarding physical appearance.

Unfair Judgments Based on Appearance

People assume that Chrissy's success is solely due to her physical appearance or provocative content on social media.

However, she emphasizes that her achievements go beyond external factors like looks or body image.

Building successful businesses requires more than just being attractive; it's about delivering a meaningful message and making a positive impact.

Frustration with Unfair Judgment

Chrissy expresses her frustration with being judged as a woman and feeling the need to constantly justify herself.

Double Standards for Women

Chrissy questions why women are often subjected to more judgment and scrutiny compared to men.

She finds it draining to have to explain herself and feels that external factors like appearance should not define her worth or success.

The Truth Behind Chrissy's Success

The host explores the reasons behind Chrissy's success, highlighting her exceptional business ventures.

Beyond Physical Appearance

Even if people assume that Chrissy's success is solely due to her looks, they would be missing the truth.

Her businesses are phenomenal, and she has achieved remarkable results through hard work and dedication.

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Being True to Yourself

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of being honest and transparent about who you are. They discuss how they have always been true to themselves and believe that others should accept them as they are.

Importance of Authenticity

The speaker believes in being 100% honest and transparent about their identity.

They do not try to be someone else or fit in with others.

Moving countries made them feel like they didn't have a sense of home, but having a platform allowed them to build a global community for women who have faced abuse, mental disorders, and other challenges.

Genuine Success

The speaker is compared to Joe Wicks, who is known for his genuine nature.

Being authentic and sharing the real aspects of life resonates with people.

Admitting imperfections can be seen as a strength rather than weakness.

Being Your Best Self

Trying to be someone else will eventually lead to cracks in the facade.

Upholding an image for others' perceptions is not sustainable.

It's important to focus on what you think about yourself rather than seeking validation from others.

Overcoming Insecurities

In this section, the speaker shares personal experiences of insecurity and how they overcame them. They discuss trying to please others and feeling inadequate due to external factors.

Seeking Validation

The speaker recalls trying hard to please their partner at a young age but being cheated on.

They also tried fitting in at school but felt insecure about their appearance, particularly having a mustache as a Mediterranean person.

Embracing Self-Acceptance

Experiences of heartbreak and insecurity led the speaker to realize that constantly trying to be something else for someone else would never bring happiness.

Over time, they learned not to care about others' opinions and fully embraced their true self.

The speaker's journey from insecurity to self-confidence has made them resilient and difficult to break.

From Mustache to Self-Confidence

In this section, the speaker continues discussing their experience with having a mustache and how it shaped their self-esteem. They reflect on the impact of those experiences on their current identity.

Overcoming Bullying

The speaker reveals that they had a mustache growing up, which became a target for bullying by other girls.

They felt isolated and ate lunch alone in a toilet for six months due to lack of friends.

Building Resilience

These experiences contributed to the speaker's ability to withstand challenges and not easily be broken.

Over time, they developed a strong sense of self and learned not to let external factors define their worth.

Journey Towards Confidence

In this section, the speaker discusses the journey towards building confidence and embracing one's true identity. They highlight the importance of being authentic and unapologetic.

Embracing Imperfections

The speaker emphasizes that everyone has imperfections but being genuine is key.

Sharing personal stories, like having a mustache, helps connect with others who may have similar struggles.

Unapologetic Authenticity

Being unapologetically oneself is empowering and allows for personal growth.

The speaker encourages people to embrace their true selves rather than trying to please everyone else.

Timestamps are provided at the beginning of each section.

Overcoming Anger and Hatred

The speaker reflects on a time when personal issues caused them to feel angry and hated by others. They share their journey of wanting to change and escape from this negative mindset.

Realizing the Need for Change

The speaker recalls a time when personal issues in their life made them feel isolated and filled with anger.

They express a desire to no longer be that person, especially after experiencing betrayal in a relationship.

A moment of realization occurs while on a train, where they understand the importance of doing things for themselves rather than seeking validation from others.

Initial Resistance and Change of Mind

The speaker discusses their initial resistance towards taking action and how they eventually changed their mindset.

Fear and Resistance

After signing up for the gym, the speaker admits to not returning for two months due to fear.

They were scared of trying something new and doubted their abilities.

Negative self-talk played a role in holding them back initially.

Changing Perspective

Eventually, the speaker changed their mind and decided to commit to their fitness journey.

They became addicted to the feeling of completing workouts and started learning about proper training techniques.

Finding Therapy at the Gym

The speaker explains how going to the gym became therapeutic for them, providing an escape from depression, anger, and negativity in life.

Escaping Mental Drainage

Prior to starting at the gym, the speaker felt constantly tired both physically and mentally.

Going to the gym provided an opportunity for mental escape from their reality.

It became a form of therapy that allowed them to release negative emotions.

Catalysts for Success

The speaker reflects on how feelings of insecurity and inadequacy served as catalysts for their success.

Inadequacy and Pressure

The speaker shares their experience of feeling inadequate in their environment, surrounded by wealthier individuals.

They felt pressure to prove themselves and escape from a life they didn't want.

Setting Goals

The speaker wrote in their diary about achieving financial success and specific milestones like owning a luxury car.

These goals were driven by the desire to overcome feelings of inadequacy.

Escaping Pressure through Channeling Energy

The speaker discusses how the pressure they felt motivated them to channel their energy into something positive.

Potential Paths

The speaker's friend predicted that they would either become a millionaire or end up in prison due to the intense pressure they felt.

This realization pushed them to find an outlet for escaping their circumstances.

Writing in a Diary

The speaker used a diary as a means of documenting their aspirations and plans for success.

It served as a reminder of what they wanted to achieve and helped them stay focused on their goals.

The Importance of Self-Belief and Confidence

In this section, Chrissy discusses the role of self-belief and confidence in her personal journey. She shares how her ex-fiancé played a significant role in her story and how her growing confidence attracted positive experiences.

Building Confidence through Instagram

Chrissy started Instagram with 50,000 followers to document her exercise routines.

Despite initially feeling unsure about it, she received positive feedback from people who loved her content.

This experience gave Chrissy a sense of purpose and belief that she could achieve something by helping women.

Believing in Oneself

Chrissy expressed to her ex-fiancé that she felt they were going to achieve something meaningful by empowering women.

Although he didn't fully understand at the time, Chrissy's unwavering belief in herself was unshakable.

Her self-belief came from persevering in the gym and developing discipline and consistency.

The Domino Effect of Discipline

Training at the gym helped Chrissy build discipline, habits, and consistency.

These qualities transferred into other aspects of her life, such as excelling academically at university.

By being present and focused on herself, she attracted positive experiences and opportunities.

The Impact on Relationships

Without building confidence through fitness, Chrissy believes she wouldn't have been ready for a relationship with her ex-fiancé.

She emphasizes that one attracts what they believe about themselves; negative self-perception leads to attracting negativity.

Prior to meeting him, there were unsuccessful dates due to seeking happiness in others rather than focusing on herself.

Finding Happiness Within

In this section, Chrissy reflects on the misconception that romantic relationships are the answer to finding happiness. She emphasizes the importance of self-love and personal growth before seeking a partner.

The Illusion of Romantic Solutions

Many people mistakenly believe that a romantic relationship will fill the void or bring happiness.

Chrissy acknowledges that finding someone who inspires, motivates, and pushes you is remarkable, but it's not the ultimate solution.

Self-Hatred and Dependency

If one has deep self-hatred, they will never be satisfied in a relationship because they constantly rely on their partner for happiness.

This dependency creates an unstable dynamic and prevents personal growth.

The Most Important Relationship

Chrissy highlights that the most crucial relationship is with oneself.

Before seeking a life partner, individuals need to work on their own thoughts, emotions, and self-perception.

Building a strong foundation within oneself is essential for healthy relationships.

The Evolution of Chrissy's Relationship

In this section, Chrissy discusses her evolving relationship with her ex-fiancé Jack. They built a business together but eventually realized that their situation wasn't making them both happy. They made the mature decision to part ways amicably.

Growing Apart

Chrissy mentions that she and Jack grew apart over time.

This evolution in their relationship led them to reevaluate their situation and make changes for their individual happiness.

Monogamy and Relationships

The podcast has explored monogamy as a topic recently.

Chrissy reflects on how relationships require constant evaluation and communication to ensure both partners' happiness.

Importance of Personal Growth

Despite ending their romantic relationship, Chrissy continues to work with Jack in their business.

Their ability to separate romantically while maintaining a professional partnership showcases maturity and personal growth.

Thoughts on Monogamy and Growing Apart

In this section, the speaker discusses their thoughts on monogamy and how they grew apart from someone they were almost engaged to. They also mention the challenges of working together in a relationship.

The speaker believes that it is possible for people to meet and grow apart over time due to personal growth.

They share that when they were with their previous partner, they believed that person was their soulmate and never questioned the relationship.

Behind the scenes, there were challenges such as lawsuits against them related to their business venture.

The pressure of running a company together added strain to their relationship, leading to resentment and blaming each other.

The speaker acknowledges that finding someone who can fill the shoes of their previous partner will be difficult but remains open to possibilities.

Challenges of Working and Being Romantically Involved

This section focuses on the difficulties of working with a romantic partner and how it affected the speaker's relationship.

Working with a romantic partner adds extra pressure because work becomes a significant topic of conversation even outside of work hours.

The speaker emphasizes that both they and their ex-partner were entrepreneurs and co-founders, which further intensified the challenges they faced.

Despite having immense respect and love for each other, working together ultimately did not work out for them.

The speaker reflects on how initially, they thought their ex-partner was "the one" but circumstances changed over time.

Relationship Dynamics After Breakup

In this section, the speaker discusses how their relationship dynamics changed after breaking up with their ex-partner.

Even after breaking up, the speaker continues to see and speak with their ex-partner every day due to working together.

The speaker acknowledges that it is challenging to forget about someone when they are constantly present in their life.

They mention that both they and their ex-partner have expressed uncertainty about finding someone similar to each other.

The speaker reveals that if they had not started their business venture together, they might have been married by now.

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The Flair and Spark in Relationships

In this section, the speaker reflects on the importance of having a spark and flair in relationships. They mention that while they see their partner as a best friend, they also understand the common advice to marry one's best friend.

Importance of Flair and Spark

To be in a relationship, there needs to be a certain flair and spark.

The speaker mentions that over time, this initial feeling may fade, but it is still important.

They compare their partner to a best friend but acknowledge the advice to marry one's best friend.

Reevaluating Relationship Perspectives

In this section, the speaker questions their understanding of relationships. They express uncertainty about whether they have misunderstood relationships and emphasize that competition should not be present in a healthy relationship.

Questioning Relationship Perspectives

The speaker wonders if they have misunderstood relationships.

They express uncertainty about their current perspective on relationships.

Competition should not exist within a relationship.

Genuine Connection with Jack

Here, the speaker reflects on their connection with Jack. They describe him as genuine and someone who always prioritizes them. However, they are still unsure why they are not together.

Genuine Connection with Jack

Jack is described as genuine and always caring for the speaker.

Despite this strong connection, the speaker does not know why they are not together.

Misconceptions About Leaving Jack

The speaker addresses misconceptions about leaving Jack. They clarify that it was not for financial gain or to pursue a relationship with someone else.

Misconceptions About Leaving Jack

People assumed the speaker left Jack for financial gain or to be with someone else.

The speaker clarifies that they do not have a rich Arab man as a boyfriend.

They express that they are unaware of Jack's current dating status.

Imagining Life Without Jack

The speaker contemplates life without Jack and expresses their inability to imagine it. They emphasize the importance of his presence in their life.

Imagining Life Without Jack

The speaker cannot fathom a life without Jack.

They would be heartbroken if he were to leave their business and move away.

The speaker acknowledges the special bond between business partners.

Importance of Business Partner

Here, the speaker discusses the significance of a business partner in one's life. They compare it to a romantic partner and reflect on their own experience with their business partner.

Importance of Business Partner

A business partner can hold a significant place in one's life, sometimes even more than a romantic partner.

The speaker recalls questioning their purpose when considering what would happen if their business partner were no longer there.

Learning About Oneself Through Separation

In this section, the speaker reflects on how separating from Jack has taught them more about themselves than being together did. They express no regrets about ending the relationship but acknowledge feeling some type of way if he were with someone else.

Learning About Oneself Through Separation

The speaker has learned more about themselves since parting ways with Jack.

They do not regret ending the relationship but admit they would feel some jealousy if he were with someone else.

Reflecting on past experiences, they emphasize personal growth through separation.

Possibility of Reconciliation

The speaker discusses the possibility of getting back together with Jack. They mention that while anything is possible, they would want him to be happy even if it meant being with someone else.

Possibility of Reconciliation

The speaker believes that anything is possible but cannot provide a definitive answer about reconciling with Jack.

They express their desire for Jack's happiness, even if it means being with someone else.

Personal growth and learning from the separation are emphasized.

Being Happy for Jack's Future Relationship

Here, the speaker expresses their willingness to be happy for Jack in his future relationship. They acknowledge feeling some type of way but ultimately want him to find genuine happiness.

Being Happy for Jack's Future Relationship

The speaker states that they would be happy for Jack if he found someone who genuinely made him happy.

They admit feeling some jealousy but emphasize wanting him to be treated well.

It is possible to feel conflicting emotions when wanting someone's happiness while also experiencing personal feelings.

Hopeful Outlook on Jack's Future

In this section, the speaker expresses optimism about Jack finding a genuine partner. They deny smiling when discussing this topic and reiterate their honesty throughout the conversation.

Hopeful Outlook on Jack's Future

The speaker believes that Jack will find someone who is genuinely compatible with him.

They deny smiling or feeling any particular way when expressing this belief.

Honesty and sincerity are emphasized throughout the conversation.

Describing Insecure Men and Dealing with Success

In this section, the speaker discusses her experience with insecure men who are intimidated by her success and self-made nature. She shares a personal story about a past relationship and reflects on how she handled it.

Insecurity of Some Men

The speaker mentions that she knows some individuals who would hate the idea of dating someone as self-made and successful as her because they are insecure.

These insecure men seek to control their partners and would not appreciate someone like the speaker who cannot be controlled through material gifts or other means.

Personal Experience

The speaker recalls a time when she was speaking to a guy after a breakup, and he expressed his insecurities about her going to Los Angeles for work.

Despite feeling initially affected by his comments, the speaker realizes that his insecurity is not her problem but rather his own issue.

She emphasizes that she had an amazing time in LA, met incredible people, and had successful campaigns.

Intimidation by Success

The speaker acknowledges that at the beginning of her success journey, some men were intimidated by her achievements.

She mentions being 26 years old at the time and killing it in her career, which made certain individuals feel inadequate.

The speaker believes that society plays a role in making men uncomfortable talking about their own success compared to women.

Focus on What Matters

The speaker admits to being awkward when discussing her success and reveals that she doesn't even check her bank accounts regularly.

Her focus is on staying tunnel-visioned towards achieving her goals rather than getting caught up in financial numbers or societal expectations.

She shares how she used to be obsessed with Instagram followers and likes but has since shifted her focus to the impact she has on others.

Not Driven by Material Possessions

The speaker clarifies that she doesn't care about having a fancy car or a luxurious house.

Her priorities lie elsewhere, and material possessions do not define her success or happiness.

Finding Fulfillment Beyond Numbers

In this section, the speaker discusses how she finds fulfillment in her work beyond numbers and statistics. She emphasizes the importance of making a positive impact on others and staying focused on her vision.

Impactful Comments and Messages

The speaker mentions receiving numerous comments and direct messages from people who express how her content has helped them gain confidence.

She finds fulfillment in these messages rather than focusing solely on numerical metrics like followers or likes.

Staying Focused on Vision

The speaker explains that she remains focused on something greater than just achieving financial milestones.

While she believes that financial success will come naturally, it is not the primary driving force behind her work.

She prioritizes making a positive difference in people's lives and maintaining focus on her vision.

Personal Indifference to Material Success

The speaker admits that she does not strive for material success or possessions like fancy cars or houses.

Her lack of interest in such things is not an attempt to be humble but rather genuine indifference towards them.

She reiterates that what truly matters to her is the impact she has on others through her work.

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Communication and Support

The speaker discusses the challenges of providing advice and support to individuals who reach out for help, particularly when dealing with sensitive situations. They emphasize the importance of listening and acknowledging rather than trying to solve someone's problems.

Providing Support

It can be challenging to know what to say when people seek advice, especially in situations where the speaker feels unqualified.

While it is important not to try and solve someone's problems, the value lies in listening and acknowledging their struggles.

The speaker shares an example of a viral video on depression that resulted in numerous messages from individuals in distress.

Some people may turn to strangers for support because they feel it is a safe space where they can be heard.

Limitations and Responsibilities

The speaker acknowledges that they are not qualified to provide specific answers or mental health advice.

Instead, their role is to be a friend and offer a sense of belonging by making individuals feel heard and part of a community.

Customer Support Approach

The speaker explains their approach to handling customer support inquiries within their business. They prioritize ensuring that every person is heard and valued.

Personal Connection with Community

The speaker highlights the importance of personal connection with their community, referring to them as "familia" or family.

While they cannot fix someone's problems or offer professional advice, they aim to listen and provide friendship.

Customer Support Team

The speaker mentions having a dedicated customer support team for various platforms like email, social media, etc., despite not receiving overwhelming amounts of inquiries.

Their goal is for every individual reaching out for support to feel heard and acknowledged.

Balancing Personal Life with Work

The speaker reflects on the challenges of balancing personal life and work commitments, particularly when it comes to maintaining a healthy diet.

Neglecting Nutrition

The speaker admits to neglecting their nutrition due to a busy schedule and various commitments.

They mention Huel as a sponsor that has helped them maintain nutritional balance despite their unpredictable lifestyle.

Benefits of Huel

The speaker praises Huel for providing complete nutrition and supporting their busy lifestyle.

They encourage listeners who struggle with neglecting their diet to try Huel as a convenient solution.

Podcast Partnership with Huel

The speaker expresses gratitude for the partnership between their podcast and Huel, discussing how it will enhance the production and content quality.

Scaling Up the Podcast

With the support of Huel as a partner, the speaker plans to elevate the podcast's production value, guest selection, and overall investment in content creation.

They anticipate taking the podcast to new heights in terms of quality and reach.

Question: Are You Hard to Date?

The speaker mentions an unanswered question they had planned to ask before starting the conversation. They express curiosity about similarities between themselves and others on their respective journeys.

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Falling in and out of love

In this section, the speaker discusses their tendency to fall hard in love but also fall out of love just as intensely. They express frustration with this aspect of themselves and admit to being defensive in relationships.

Love and self-defense

The speaker admits to falling hard in love and becoming head over heels for someone.

However, they also experience intense feelings of falling out of love for the same person.

They express frustration with this pattern and dislike this aspect of themselves.

The speaker acknowledges being defensive in relationships, especially when they don't receive the same level of love back.

Being defensive and difficult to date

In this section, the speaker reflects on their defensiveness in relationships and explores why they might be difficult to date.

Defensiveness and self-reflection

The speaker admits to being defensive in relationships.

They question what they are defending themselves from but don't have a clear answer.

When asked if they are difficult to date, they respond affirmatively.

The speaker ponders whether their motivation, drive, and passion make them incompatible with someone who lacks these qualities.

Motivation, ambition, and compatibility

In this section, the speaker discusses their motivation, ambition, and how it affects their compatibility with others.

Drive and compatibility

Both the speaker and the interviewer acknowledge being motivated, inspired, and driven individuals.

The speaker gets frustrated when they see someone lacking passion or not putting effort into something.

They wonder if having a partner with a similar level of drive would make them more compatible.

The idea of needing someone more low-key is considered as it might bring a sense of calmness.

Overthinking relationships and taking a step back

In this section, the speaker reflects on overthinking relationships and suggests the importance of taking a step back to relax.

Overthinking and relaxation

The speaker admits to overthinking relationships frequently.

They suggest that sometimes it's beneficial to take a step back and relax instead of constantly analyzing things.

The speaker emphasizes the need for someone who is genuinely there, willing to listen, take care, and put effort into the relationship.

They acknowledge being difficult to date but also express freedom in admitting it.

Being switched on and accepting others' choices

In this section, the speaker discusses their neurotic and obsessive nature when it comes to work but emphasizes acceptance of others' choices in life.

Switched on and acceptance

The speaker describes themselves as neurotic, obsessive, and constantly switched on in various aspects of life except relationships.

They believe in allowing individuals to live their lives as they choose without trying to change or control them.

Feeling frustrated when someone around them lacks motivation or drive makes them question their compatibility.

The speaker acknowledges feeling lazy at times but understands the importance of not imposing their own values onto others.

Wanting ambition in a partner but accepting differences

In this section, the speaker discusses their desire for ambition in a partner while recognizing the need to accept differences.

Ambition and acceptance

The speaker expresses frustration when someone doesn't share their level of ambition or passion.

They admit going crazy in their head when confronted with different perspectives on life during conversations with partners.

The realization that they shouldn't push their own values onto others and the need to accept people as they are is emphasized.

Personal background and memories

In this section, the speaker briefly shares personal background information and a childhood memory.

Personal background and childhood memory

The speaker mentions their parents' hard work ethic and immigration experience.

They recall a specific memory of being separated from their family at a young age during immigration, causing distress.

The memory includes being in a turquoise-colored prison room.

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The Strain of Gambling Addiction on Family

In this section, the speaker discusses the impact of her father's gambling addiction on her family, particularly her mother. She reflects on the strain it caused and how it affected their financial stability and overall well-being.

Effects of Gambling Addiction

The speaker expresses love for her father but acknowledges that his gambling addiction caused a lot of strain on her mother.

Her mother had to work hard to support the family, save money, and provide for them while dealing with the consequences of her husband's gambling habits.

The speaker mentions that in her culture, leaving one's partner is not common, so despite the difficulties, her mother stayed with her father out of love.

Despite his behavior, her mother believed in him and continued to support and nurture him. Together, they grew stronger as a couple.

Value of Hard Work and Ambition

In this section, the speaker discusses how she and the interviewer share similar traits when it comes to valuing hard work and ambition. They both attribute these values to their childhood experiences.

Childhood Influence on Values

Both speakers come from backgrounds where hard work and ambition were highly valued due to challenging circumstances.

The speaker shares that she was born in Africa but moved to the UK. Her father had a good job, but her mother had a gambling addiction and constantly started businesses that failed.

Money was a constant problem in their household, leading the speaker to value hard work and ambition as a means to overcome their financial struggles.

As immigrants, they both understand the importance of these values in achieving success.

Differences in Cultural Upbringing

In this section, the speaker discusses the cultural differences she experienced when comparing her Mediterranean upbringing to that of her English partners. She highlights how these differences affected her understanding and expectations in relationships.

Cultural Differences in Relationships

The speaker describes her Mediterranean household as loud, proud, and focused on togetherness. Her mother would go out of her way to make guests feel welcome and at home.

However, when she visited the families of her English partners, she noticed differences in meal times and overall dynamics. It made her question and struggle to understand these cultural disparities.

The speaker's father had a preference for her marrying an Albanian man, but she emphasizes that love is more important than cultural background for her.

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Cultural Differences and Relationship Concerns

In this section, the speaker discusses the challenges of being in a relationship with someone from a different culture and expresses concerns about finding the right person within societal expectations.

Cultural Differences and Pressure to Settle Down

The speaker mentions that it would have been easier to be with someone from her own Albanian culture due to shared values and upbringing.

However, she acknowledges that her current partner's culture is completely different, which requires finding a middle ground or balance.

The speaker expresses fear about not meeting the right person within societal expectations. As a woman, she feels pressured to settle down before a certain age.

Balancing Entrepreneurship and Relationships

In this section, the speaker reflects on how being an entrepreneur affects her ability to form and maintain healthy relationships.

Being Busy as an Entrepreneur

The speaker dismisses the idea that being too busy as an entrepreneur prevents her from being aware of potential relationships.

She explains that even when physically present with someone, her mind is constantly occupied with thoughts about her businesses and what needs to be done.

This constant preoccupation can make someone feel lonely even when they are sitting next to each other.

Difficulty in Understanding an Entrepreneur's Mindset

In this section, the speaker highlights the challenges of being understood by others due to their entrepreneurial mindset.

Loneliness and Misunderstanding

The speaker shares that it can be difficult for someone with a nine-to-five job to understand the constant mental presence required as an entrepreneur.

They express feeling guilty for always thinking about their companies even when spending time with loved ones.

The speaker emphasizes that their aim is not for others to fully understand them but rather to understand that they don't understand, as they consider themselves difficult to comprehend.

Sacrifices and Pressure of Entrepreneurship

In this section, the speaker discusses the sacrifices and pressures faced by entrepreneurs in their personal lives.

Sacrifices and Pressure

The speaker reveals that being an entrepreneur often means sacrificing time for relationships, friendships, and personal well-being.

They mention feeling constant pressure to do better and be more successful, which can be mentally and physically draining.

The speaker emphasizes that the glamorous perception of entrepreneurship is far from reality, as it involves hard work, self-criticism, and limited time for personal life.

Fulfillment in Making a Difference

In this section, the speaker explains why they continue to pursue entrepreneurship despite its challenges.

Making a Difference

The speaker expresses fulfillment in witnessing transformations in others' lives through their businesses.

They find motivation in seeing individuals overcome mental health disorders or eating disorders and thrive.

Despite the difficulties faced as an entrepreneur, the positive impact on others keeps them going.

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The Importance of Goals

In this section, the speaker discusses her perspective on goals and how they relate to personal satisfaction and fulfillment.

Setting Tangible Goals

The speaker reflects on societal expectations of achieving certain milestones in life, such as education and career success.

She shares that she does not have specific goals related to financial status or awards.

While she has achieved one of her two personal goals (which remains undisclosed), she emphasizes that tangible goals may not always lead to lasting satisfaction.

Challenges in Building a Tech Business

As a woman in the tech industry, the speaker highlights the unexpected complications that arise when developing an app.

She mentions a lawsuit to regain control of her app from previous developers and the challenges faced during the transition to new servers.

Despite initially having limited knowledge about technology, she expresses pride in learning tech language and overcoming obstacles.

Worst Day in Business

In this section, the speaker recalls a particularly challenging day while building her business and shares its impact on her mental well-being.

App Shutdown and Financial Losses

The speaker describes a day when her app experienced a complete shutdown after transitioning to new servers.

This resulted in significant financial losses, including losing 10,000 subscribers within one day.

She expresses frustration at the anti-climactic nature of achieving materialistic goals like owning a luxury car or million-dollar house.

Emotional Toll and Personal Struggles

The app shutdown deeply affected the speaker's emotional state, leading to weight loss, sleep deprivation, and difficulty functioning.

She reveals that during this time, she also went through a breakup with someone she planned to marry.

Despite these challenges, she continued producing content for her audience while feeling lost and uncertain about her future.

Battling Mental Health Issues

In this section, the speaker opens up about her personal struggles with mental health and the impact it has had on her life.

Dark Places and Depression

The speaker acknowledges that her Instagram presence may portray a picture-perfect image, but she has experienced profound darkness.

She emphasizes that she wouldn't wish those dark places on anyone, even someone she may resent.

These experiences have led her to contemplate giving up and returning to her law degree due to overwhelming stress.

Importance of Perseverance

Despite facing mental health challenges, the speaker found strength within herself to keep going.

She shares how she continued producing content and persevering through difficult times.

The speaker encourages others not to give up and highlights the importance of seeking support during mental health battles.

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Overcoming Dark Places and Mental Health Struggles

In this section, the speaker discusses their personal experience with dark places and mental health struggles. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing mental well-being over external success.

Coping with Dark Places

The speaker shares that they have experienced dark places in their life, but others may not believe it because they only see them as the successful person they are today.

They highlight that mental well-being is more important than material success or achievements.

Having money, businesses, and employees means nothing if one's mental state is not okay.

The speaker acknowledges going through difficult times but also emphasizes their ability to pick themselves up and keep moving forward.

Importance of Prioritizing Self-Care

The speaker advises everyone to prioritize their own well-being above all else.

They mention building a fitness empire but still finding themselves in dark places at times.

Despite achieving success, they express concerns about having a normal life, finding love, getting married, and having children.

They admit to overcomplicating things in their mind and struggling to switch off from work-related thoughts.

Fear of Sacrificing Personal Goals for Success

The speaker reflects on the fear that their current lifestyle and obsessive work habits may hinder them from attaining other personal goals such as relationships or family.

They mention feeling trapped in an ongoing cycle where quitting seems like the only way to find peace but would ultimately lead to self-disappointment.

Balancing Ambition and Personal Life

In this section, the speaker discusses the challenges of balancing ambition with personal life. They share insights into their rapid business growth and aspirations for more while acknowledging the need for self-adjustments.

Rapid Business Growth

The speaker talks about the rapid growth of their business, Tone and Scope, within a year.

They mention having a team of 22 people and an office in London.

Despite the success, they express that reaching certain milestones does not bring the expected relief or sense of accomplishment.

Striving for More

The speaker mentions discussing with someone named Sarah about reaching a point where they can relax and be satisfied with their achievements.

However, they admit to always wanting more and believing that there is still room for growth and improvement.

They emphasize the importance of making peace with the fact that ambition has no endpoint but also recognizing the need for self-adjustments.

Compromising Personal Goals

The speaker acknowledges their struggle with expecting others to be on their level in relationships.

They realize it is unfair to place such expectations on others and understand that personal growth requires self-criticism and adjustments.

Dealing with these challenges takes time, and finding a balance between planning for the future while not overthinking becomes crucial.

Finding Compromise in Life Goals

In this section, the speaker discusses compromising between personal goals and ambitions. They share uncertainties about marriage but express a desire for long-term partnership and having children.

Uncertainties About Marriage

The speaker expresses less concern about traditional marriage but emphasizes the importance of having a long-term partner.

They mention wanting to have children but also acknowledge uncertainties about how all these desires will align in their life.

Balancing Ambition and Personal Life

Both speakers agree that compromise is necessary when it comes to achieving personal goals while pursuing ambitious careers.

They admit to not having all the answers or knowing how to reach that compromise yet.

Despite uncertainties, they both recognize that life may require compromises, but finding peace within those compromises is essential.

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The Role of Law and Religion in Love

In this section, the speaker discusses their perspective on the involvement of law and religion in love. They express skepticism about the track record of these institutions when it comes to love and suggest that society should reconsider their role.

The speaker questions why the law or religion should be involved in matters of love, as they believe these institutions have not been successful in handling love.

They argue that each individual is unique, and therefore, the way people form romantic connections should also be unique.

The speaker shares personal experiences of rejecting societal norms, such as dropping out of school and questioning the concept of marriage.

They express doubts about whether a legal document like marriage is necessary for achieving their desired goals in a relationship.

A comment from someone who has been married for 45 years is mentioned, where they acknowledge that they could have achieved their relationship's success without marriage.

Challenging Societal Expectations

In this section, the speaker reflects on societal expectations regarding relationships and challenges them by emphasizing individuality.

The speaker uses an analogy of putting a triangle into a square to illustrate how individuals with different shapes may need to question societal expectations.

They mention their rejection of traditional education paths and navigating life based on personal beliefs rather than blindly accepting norms.

The concept of marriage is brought up again, with the speaker suggesting that it needs to be reconsidered for everyone.

Personal desires related to weddings are discussed, with an emphasis on simplicity and intimacy rather than grandeur or extravagance.

Personal Desires vs. Societal Expectations

This section focuses on contrasting personal desires with societal expectations regarding weddings and celebrations.

The speaker expresses a desire for a simple wedding on the beach with close friends and family, emphasizing the importance of personal connections over extravagant ceremonies.

They highlight the contradiction between their dislike of being the center of attention and their profession, which requires public visibility.

The speaker mentions a previous assistant who became their girlfriend but does not delve into further details.

Personal Preferences and Avoiding Fuss

In this section, the speaker discusses their aversion to attention and fuss while acknowledging the paradoxical nature of their profession.

The speaker asks their current assistant if they have ever been told not to make a fuss about birthdays or anniversaries due to already receiving significant attention in their role as founder and CEO.

They express discomfort with being the center of attention, despite their business relying on public visibility.

The speaker shares that they prefer intimate gatherings rather than large parties or events focused on themselves.

Craving Deep Connection

This section delves into the speaker's desire for deep emotional connection in relationships and how it surpasses any need for legal validation.

The speaker describes their dream wedding as an intimate gathering with around 20 to 30 people, including close friends, family, and even their dog.

They emphasize wanting to be fully present in moments with loved ones and share a deep understanding without needing external validation like marriage.

The importance of personal connection is highlighted as they express a longing for that feeling when looking at someone they love and feeling understood by them.

Fear of Death and Embracing Life

In this section, the topic shifts towards discussing fears related to death and embracing life fully.

Both speakers confirm that they are not scared of death but rather fear not fully living and experiencing all that life has to offer.

The speaker expresses a desire for exploration, freedom from constant work, and being present in the moment without distractions like phones or social media.

They acknowledge the importance of self-care and encourage others to prioritize their well-being.

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The Importance of Being Present

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of being present and how it relates to their experience with skipping.

Skipping as a Practice of Presence

Skipping requires being fully present in the moment.

It helps the speaker to focus solely on the rhythm and not think about anything else.

Being engrossed in skipping or training allows one to ignore the distractions of the world.

Regrets and Taking Time Off

The speaker admits feeling inadequate and insecure when observing someone skilled at skipping.

They express a desire to take time off for themselves but struggle with workaholic tendencies.

The idea of regretting not taking time off if they were to die next week is thought-provoking.

Deathbed Thinking

Reflecting on what truly matters in life can be achieved through "deathbed thinking."

A study conducted with palliative patients revealed common regrets people have at the end of their lives.

Putting oneself in that mindset can help evaluate if current actions align with what truly matters.

Personal Reflections

The speaker contemplates their own regrets, such as not having a better relationship with family members.

Sacrifices made for work are questioned, prompting self-reflection on whether changes need to be made.

Balancing Work and Personal Life

In this section, the speaker reflects on their work-life balance and acknowledges the need for personal time.

Struggles with Work-Life Balance

The speaker loves their job but acknowledges feeling overwhelmed by constant work commitments.

They express a desire to have better relationships with family members and spend more time doing things they love.

Perception of Time

The speaker views time as an entrepreneur's biggest asset, which makes them hesitant to consider certain activities as a waste of time.

Deathbed Regrets

The speaker mentions a study conducted with palliative patients, highlighting the importance of considering regrets from a deathbed perspective.

They personally reflect on potential regrets and acknowledge the need for change.

Taking Action

The speaker realizes the need to prioritize personal time and make changes in their life.

Despite this realization, they express uncertainty about whether they will actually take action or continue with their current routine.

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The Importance of Prioritizing Relationships

In this section, the speaker reflects on a personal experience and emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships over busyness.

Realization about Prioritizing Relationships

The speaker recalls a moment when they were with someone on their dying bed and realized that nothing else mattered at that point. They emphasize the significance of relationships in life.

The speaker shares an incident where their friend hesitated to reach out to them because they thought they were too busy. This made the speaker realize that people around them perceive them as being too occupied.

It is not that the speaker has explicitly told people not to call them, but rather, others assume it would be disruptive due to their perceived busyness. The speaker takes responsibility for creating this perception.

Value of Genuine Friendships

Reflecting on their own friendships, the speaker admits to having few close friends but values those deeply. They believe having a smaller circle of genuine friends is more important than having numerous acquaintances.

The number of friends one has does not determine superiority or worthiness as a person. The speaker expresses contentment with their current friendships and emphasizes quality over quantity.

As time passes, the number of friends may decrease naturally, but what matters most is having true friends who will protect and support each other unconditionally.

Struggles with Maintaining Friendships

In this section, the speaker discusses their struggles in making and maintaining friendships due to personal circumstances and lack of investment.

Challenges in Maintaining Friendships

The speaker admits to struggling with making and holding onto friendships over the past decade. They feel they haven't invested enough in their friendships.

Friendships, like other relationships, come and go. The speaker acknowledges this reality but finds it peculiar that they have built a virtual community online that understands them better than people in their own life.

Finding Connection Online

The speaker describes how they feel connected to their online community, even though they may not have met these individuals in person. They believe these virtual connections understand them on a deeper level.

Engaging with their online community through live workouts and reposting content from followers makes the speaker feel like they have friends for life. They consider this virtual tribe as their family and team.

Authenticity on Social Media

In this section, the speaker discusses their approach to social media and how they prioritize authenticity over external validation.

Genuine Connections on Social Media

The speaker explains how they forget about their large following when interacting with their online community. They don't hesitate to show themselves without makeup or imperfections because they consider their followers as friends who understand them.

Despite having millions of followers, the speaker feels fortunate to receive minimal negativity on social media. When faced with negative comments about personal insecurities, such as body image, the impact is limited due to the overall positive engagement from their audience.

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The Importance of Empathy and Understanding

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of not judging others and instead showing empathy and understanding towards them. They highlight that we don't know what someone else may be going through, and it's crucial to avoid being mean or defensive in response to their behavior.

Showing Empathy and Avoiding Judgment

It is important not to defend oneself when encountering someone who is being nasty or mean.

We should refrain from making assumptions about others' pain or struggles based on their behavior towards us.

Instead of reacting defensively, it is better to encourage the person to calm down and avoid engaging in negativity.

The Power of Community Support

In this section, the speaker expresses gratitude for the supportive community they have built. They describe it as something special that provides them with an unexplainable feeling. Additionally, they discuss their upcoming book release.

The Special Community Bond

The speaker feels blessed to have a supportive community that gives them a unique sense of belonging.

They consider their community as friends who provide emotional support.

Despite feeling lonely at times, they find solace in the connection they share with their community.

Upcoming Book Release - "Do This For You"

The speaker announces their upcoming book titled "Do This For You: How to Be a Strong Woman on the Inside and Out."

They express frustration with short-term fitness challenges and aim to teach readers how to develop sustainable habits, discipline, consistency, and longevity.

The book focuses on creating a strong foundation for fitness by understanding one's why (motivation) and developing sustainable habits.

Sustainable Fitness Approach

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of sustainable fitness practices and challenges the notion of quick fixes. They emphasize the need for discipline, consistency, and long-term commitment in achieving fitness goals.

Challenging Quick Fix Mentality

The speaker criticizes programs that promise big results with minimal effort or short timeframes.

They acknowledge that extreme measures like excessive cardio or strict diets may lead to temporary weight loss but are not sustainable in the long run.

Sustainable fitness requires nourishing and caring for one's body consistently, just like maintaining a healthy relationship.

Building Discipline and Habits

The key to achieving lasting results lies in consistent effort and discipline.

The speaker encourages readers to view fitness as a habit rather than a chore.

They highlight the importance of prioritizing health and understanding that it deserves consistent effort.

"Do This For You" - A Thinking Book

In this section, the speaker describes their book as a thought-provoking read that aims to inspire readers to prioritize their health. They also discuss their active wear line called "Honor Active."

Thought-Provoking Book

The speaker believes that reading their book will prompt readers to reflect on their why (motivation) for training.

They discourage extrinsic motivations tied to specific occasions or timelines, emphasizing the need for sustainable reasons behind fitness goals.

The book guides readers in developing sustainable habits by comparing them to everyday activities like brushing teeth.

Honor Active - More Than a Trend

The speaker introduces their active wear line called "Honor Active."

Their vision is for Honor Active to be more than just a trendy brand; they want it to be something customers repeatedly come back to.

Each collection within Honor Active has meaningful names, such as "Classic," reflecting its timeless appeal.

Other Projects and Closing Remarks

In this section, the speaker briefly mentions their other projects, including an active wear line launch. They emphasize the importance of prioritizing health and share a message of self-acceptance.

Other Projects - Active Wear Line

The speaker recently launched an active wear line called Honor Active.

They faced challenges during the process but are proud to have created a brand that customers will return to.

Prioritizing Health and Self-Acceptance

The speaker urges viewers to remember the significance of their health and not view fitness as a chore.

They express concern about society's focus on quick fixes and fad diets, emphasizing the need for self-care and understanding one's why (motivation).

It is okay to have bad days; self-acceptance is crucial in maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

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The Importance of Sustainability in Building a Brand

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of sustainability in building a brand that lasts. They mention how successful brands like Nike and Lululemon focus on creating trusted and loved products rather than following trends.

Building Sustainable Brands

Successful brands like Nike and Lululemon prioritize simplicity and trustworthiness over fancy features.

The speaker aims for their brand, Honor Active, to be sustainable and trusted by customers.

The goal is not to start trends but to create leggings that customers can trust and rely on.

Introducing Danielle Wilson as an Athlete for Toner Sculpt

In this section, the speaker introduces Danielle Wilson as a new athlete for Toner Sculpt. They discuss why they chose her and highlight her unique qualities.

Danielle Wilson's Role in Toner Sculpt

Danielle Wilson is a 200-pound African-American woman who stands at 5 foot 11.

She is not the typical fitness guru, but she embodies what the speaker wants for their brand.

Fitness is not just about appearance; it's about how it makes you feel alive.

Danielle trains like an athlete and inspires others with her dedication.

Despite other companies approaching her after the Black Lives Matter movement, she remains loyal to Toner Sculpt because of their shared values.

Representation and Changing Perceptions in Fitness

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of representation in fitness. They emphasize that fitness should not have one standard image but should cater to diverse individuals' mental and physical well-being.

Representation Matters

Fitness should challenge stereotypes and include individuals who don't fit the traditional fitness guru image.

The speaker believes that fitness is about helping people mentally and physically, as it has personally saved their life.

They mention the increased attention they received during the Black Lives Matter movement but emphasize the importance of genuine representation rather than opportunistic gestures.

Using Platforms to Inspire Change

In this section, the speaker discusses using platforms to inspire change and challenge perceptions. They share their perspective on leveraging opportunities for positive impact.

Leveraging Opportunities for Change

The speaker acknowledges receiving more opportunities during the Black Lives Matter movement.

They express a willingness to take advantage of these opportunities if they genuinely contribute to positive change.

Loyalty and representing values matter more than financial gain.

By being present, vocal, and ambitious, individuals like Danielle Wilson can inspire young girls' lives and challenge societal opinions.

The Future and Personal Happiness

In this section, the speaker reflects on personal happiness and future plans. They discuss upcoming business ventures but express uncertainty about their personal life.

Uncertainty in Personal Life

The speaker admits uncertainty about their personal life and future plans.

While there are exciting business prospects ahead, they are unsure about what lies ahead personally.

When asked if they are happy, they question which aspect of their life is being referred to.

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Focusing on Self-Reflection and Patience

The speaker reflects on the importance of being patient and kind to oneself, acknowledging the need for self-improvement.

Being Patient and Kinder to Oneself

The speaker acknowledges that they don't have all the answers regarding their future actions.

They express the need to be more patient with themselves and show self-kindness.

Additionally, they mention the importance of being less self-defensive.

Learning from the Conversation

The speaker expresses gratitude for the conversation, highlighting how it has been a learning experience for them.

Personal Growth through Conversations

The speaker appreciates the time given by the other person in having this fascinating conversation.

They mention that they have learned a lot about themselves during this exchange.

Reflecting on shared experiences as busy individuals running businesses while trying to fulfill personal needs, they acknowledge confusion and lack of answers.

Despite desiring control over everything, relinquishing control might be necessary for happiness.

Expressing Gratitude and Honesty

The speaker expresses gratitude towards the other person for their honesty and vulnerability, recognizing its impact on others.

Appreciation for Honesty

The speaker thanks the other person for their time and honesty throughout the conversation.

They acknowledge that few people are willing to be as honest as them, emphasizing vulnerability as a key factor in fostering growth.

The speaker extends gratitude on behalf of their community, entrepreneurs like themselves, and aspiring female entrepreneurs who look up to them.

They highlight that although being honest may come at a cost, it ultimately benefits many people.

Conclusion and Final Thanks

The speaker concludes the conversation by expressing their final thanks and appreciation.

Final Words of Gratitude

The speaker expresses their gratitude once again for the other person's contributions.

They acknowledge that the other person has made significant sacrifices in their endeavors.

The speaker emphasizes that the impact of the other person's work extends beyond themselves, benefiting the world as a whole.

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