Helpful Hats Project : Shana | The Hopeaholics Podcast #54

Name: Helpful Hats Project : Shana | The Hopeaholics Podcast #54
Uploaded: 2023-07-05T22:57:19.000Z
Duration: 3 h 38 min 14 s

Introduction and Funny Reels

The speaker mentions the growth of their content and highlights a couple of funny reels that have gained popularity, particularly one related to Brokeback Mountain.

Funny Reels

The speaker mentions having a couple of really funny reels.

One of the reels related to Brokeback Mountain has almost a million views.

The speaker frequently checks the views because it is performing well.

Watching an Episode

The speaker asks if the listener watched a particular episode.

Watching an Episode

The speaker asks if the listener watched a specific episode but does not provide further details.

Commenting on Perfection

The speaker makes a comment about something being almost perfect.

Commenting on Perfection

The speaker states that something is "almost perfect" without providing further context.

Joking about Getting Undressed in Locker Rooms

The speakers joke about getting undressed in men's locker rooms.

Joking about Locker Rooms

One of the speakers jokes about seeing the other person naked in men's locker rooms.

They mention getting closer or more comfortable with each other due to this fact.

Background Music Playing

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Laughter

Laughter occurs during this part of the transcript. No relevant information is provided.

Discussing Studio Decorations

The speakers discuss the decorations in the studio, particularly a custom spray-painted artwork featuring mushrooms.

Studio Decorations

The speakers comment on the studio's custom spray-painted decorations.

They notice and appreciate an artwork featuring mushrooms with glasses.

Talking about Physical Appearance

The speakers discuss their physical appearance and how they look in person compared to on camera.

Physical Appearance

One of the speakers mentions that they look more muscular in person than on camera.

They joke about needing a different lens to capture their muscles accurately.

Drinking Shots and Discussing Sponsorship

The speakers talk about drinking shots and potentially getting a sponsorship from a brand called "Rain."

Drinking Shots and Sponsorship

One of the speakers mentions finishing a shot.

They discuss drinking "Rain" every day as part of an attempt to secure a sponsorship.

There is mention of another liquid called "Liquid Death," which resembles beer but is marketed as water.

Discussing "Liquid Death"

The speakers discuss a beverage called "Liquid Death" that looks like beer but is marketed as water.

Discussing "Liquid Death"

One speaker describes "Liquid Death" as water but with packaging resembling beer.

They find it amusing and slightly concerning due to its appearance.

Commenting on Studio Decorations Again

The speakers continue discussing the studio decorations, specifically focusing on mushroom-themed artwork.

Studio Decorations (Continued)

The speakers comment again on the mushroom-themed artwork in the studio.

They find it interesting or peculiar, particularly the mushrooms with accessories like glasses.

Joking about Looking Buff

The speakers joke about their physical appearance and looking muscular.

Joking about Physical Appearance

One speaker compliments the other on looking buff in person compared to on camera.

They discuss how cameras are supposed to add weight but seem to have the opposite effect for them.

Discussing Workout Routines

The speakers talk about their workout routines and difficulties in maintaining consistency.

Workout Routines

The speakers discuss their attempts at working out regularly.

One speaker mentions taking three days off during a symposium, which disrupted their routine.

They joke about not being able to convince someone else (possibly referring to a partner) to work out consistently.

6m 7s Talking About Injuries and Medication

The speakers discuss injuries, medical treatment, and pain medication.

Injuries and Medication

One speaker mentions having a broken foot from practicing Muay Thai.

They mention seeking medical advice and potentially needing an MRI if the injury doesn't improve within ten days.

Pain medication is briefly mentioned, with one speaker stating they were not offered any opiates but prescribed naproxen sodium (Aleve).

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Considering Muay Thai and Jiu Jitsu

The speaker discusses their interest in trying out martial arts, specifically Muay Thai and Jiu Jitsu. They express hesitation towards Jiu Jitsu due to the physical contact involved.

Exploring Martial Arts Options

The speaker recently returned to training after a three-month break.

They express interest in trying out Muay Thai but are hesitant about Jiu Jitsu due to the close physical contact involved.

The speaker mentions not wanting to engage in ground grappling with sweaty individuals.

High Impact of Jiu Jitsu

The speaker further explains their reluctance towards practicing Jiu Jitsu, highlighting the high impact nature of the sport and their preference for striking-based martial arts like Muay Thai.

Concerns about High Impact

The speaker emphasizes that they do not want to engage in high impact activities like rolling on the ground with others.

They mention witnessing uncomfortable situations involving close contact between individuals during grappling sessions.

The speaker expresses openness to trying MMA but considers Jiu Jitsu a different animal due to its focus on groundwork.

Less Impact with BJJ

The speaker discusses the potential benefits of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ) compared to other martial arts, particularly its lower impact nature. They also touch upon the effectiveness of BJJ techniques in self-defense scenarios.

Benefits of BJJ

BJJ is considered a lower impact martial art compared to striking-based disciplines like Muay Thai.

Proficiency in BJJ can enable an individual to effectively take down opponents regardless of size or strength.

Given their age, the speaker contemplates opting for techniques that require less physical impact.

Shooting Instead of Taking Down

The speaker suggests that, considering their age, they would prefer to use firearms for self-defense rather than relying on physical takedowns. They also mention the popularity of Jiu Jitsu among motivational figures.

Self-Defense Approach

The speaker humorously suggests shooting opponents instead of physically taking them down.

They express interest in trying out Jiu Jitsu due to its popularity among motivational figures they follow.

The speaker aims to stand out and excel rather than being just another person practicing martial arts.

Growth on Social Media

The conversation shifts towards social media growth and the success of the individual's online content. They discuss the rapid increase in followers and engagement on their platforms.

Social Media Success

The speaker acknowledges significant growth in their social media following, with a substantial increase in followers overnight.

They attribute this growth to the creation of funny and entertaining content, particularly reels.

Mention is made of a specific reel that gained almost a million views.

Brokeback Mountain Episode

The discussion turns towards an episode related to "Brokeback Mountain" and the comedic talent of a particular individual involved. The speaker expresses admiration for her quick wit.

Comedic Talent

The speaker praises the comedic skills of an individual involved in an episode related to "Brokeback Mountain."

They find her hilarious and admire her ability to deliver quick jokes.

Reference is made to this person's persistence in bringing up "Brokeback Mountain" during conversations.

Locker Room Etiquette

A lighthearted conversation about locker room behavior ensues, with the speaker sharing their experience with nudity in men's locker rooms. Different cultural norms regarding nudity are discussed.

Nudity in Locker Rooms

The speaker mentions having seen someone naked, indicating a level of comfort with nudity in men's locker rooms.

They share their experience of freely undressing and walking around naked in such environments.

Cultural differences regarding locker room behavior are highlighted, with the speaker mentioning that nudity is more accepted where they come from.

Steaming and Cold Plunges

The conversation shifts towards discussing alternative wellness practices, specifically steaming and cold plunges. The potential benefits of these activities for detoxification and cardiovascular health are mentioned.

Alternative Wellness Practices

The speaker shares their recent interest in steaming as an alternative to using hot tubs or saunas.

They describe the process of steaming and its potential benefits for detoxifying the body.

Cold plunges are also mentioned as a practice that can reduce the risk of heart attacks when combined with heat therapy.

Heat Therapy and Infrared Sauna

The speaker elaborates on the heat therapy available at their facility, including infrared saunas. They discuss the benefits of sweating and detoxification through heat exposure.

Heat Therapy Options

The speaker mentions having access to a sequence of different heat therapies at their facility.

They highlight the use of infrared saunas, which provide a good sweat at temperatures reaching 156 degrees Fahrenheit (69 degrees Celsius).

Sweating is considered beneficial for detoxification purposes.

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New Section

The conversation starts with a discussion about names and social media handles.

Names and Social Media Handles

The conversation goes off track as they discuss names and social media handles. Link to Timestamp

Chad's Instagram handle is @chadortiz. Link to Timestamp

There is confusion about the spelling of Chad's name, but it is clarified as "Chadic." Link to Timestamp

They talk about different variations of the name "Chad" on social media. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The discussion continues with a focus on social media accounts and connections.

Social Media Accounts

Chad mentions having multiple variations of his name on social media. Link to Timestamp

He wants to get the username with one "T," but someone else already has it. Link to Timestamp

Luke is currently the only friend Chad has on his Instagram account. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The conversation shifts towards discussing recovery from addiction.

Recovery from Addiction

It is revealed that Chad is in recovery for almost seven years. His sobriety date is June 14th. Link to Timestamp

They briefly discuss their respective recovery journeys and congratulate each other on their milestones. Link to Timestamp

Chad expresses his enjoyment of life in recovery and emphasizes the importance of finding one's own groove in life. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The conversation takes a lighthearted turn as they discuss headphones and rap.

Headphones and Rap

They talk about Chad's position in relation to the microphone and how he can hear himself in the headphones. Link to Timestamp

There is a playful moment where Chad jokes about rapping, but it turns out he doesn't actually rap. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The discussion moves towards their backgrounds and hometowns.

Background and Hometown

Chad reveals that he is from Pennsylvania, specifically a small town called Scranton. Link to Timestamp

They briefly mention Dwight Schrute from "The Office" being associated with Scranton. Link to Timestamp

Chad expresses his support for bringing communities together to fight addiction. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The conversation delves into the issue of addiction and their goals for change.

Fighting Addiction

They discuss the prevalence of meth rings and fentanyl in Pennsylvania. Chad expresses his support for combating addiction. Link to Timestamp

Chad mentions having upcoming meetings with people from Washington, D.C., where they plan to address specific issues related to addiction. Link to Timestamp

They talk about the challenges of addressing addiction, including the international origins of drugs like fentanyl. Chad emphasizes the importance of unity in tackling this issue. Link to Timestamp

New Section

The speakers discuss the current political climate and express their desire for unity and happiness. They also talk about the potential for a crisis to bring people together.

Political Climate and Unity

The speakers express their frustration with the current political parties.

They both want what's best for people, whether it's in terms of money or social well-being.

They find it ironic that a crisis could potentially bring people together.

They discuss the loss of friends and family members due to political differences.

The movement towards unity is something they both want to be a part of.

Excitement about the Movement

The speakers are excited about the growing movement towards unity.

They mention receiving followers on Instagram from influential people, which excites them.

They acknowledge that they can't keep up with every follower but appreciate the support.

There are upcoming plans and secrets that they will reveal in a few weeks.

Personal Backgrounds

One speaker lives in Corona while the other used to live in Newport Beach.

They discuss attending different high schools but share a connection through Redlands.

One speaker graduated in 1992 from Redlands High School while the other attended when Rev High School was not yet built.

Contrasting High Schools

One speaker had a graduating class of around 120 students, while the other had over 3,500 students at their high school.

They compare their experiences and note how different Canadian schools are compared to American ones.

Joking About Canadians

One speaker jokes about Canadians being weird because of the cold weather.

However, they quickly clarify that they actually love Canadians and appreciate their presence in California.

Hair on the Mic

One speaker notices that their beard hair is getting caught on the microphone and finds it gross.

Wife's Background

The speakers discuss one of their wives being from Pennsylvania.

They mention living in Corona due to its proximity to work and family.

Appreciation for Spouse

One speaker expresses gratitude for their wife, who has been supportive throughout their journey.

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Marriage and Family

The speaker discusses their marriage, the confusion around the dates due to legalizing same-sex marriage, and their role as a stay-at-home mom. They also mention how their children saved their life.

Getting Married and Confusion with Dates

Got married before it was legal

Had to navigate through changing laws

Confusion with dates and times

Role as a Stay-at-Home Mom

Currently a stay-at-home mom

Loves being in this role

Children Saving Their Life

Both children were adopted from birth

Adoption helped them overcome infertility struggles

Credits their little boy for saving their life

Coming up on seven years since adoption

Substance Abuse and Recovery Journey

The speaker talks about their substance abuse issues, including alcohol, cocaine, Adderall, and pills. They also discuss getting sober for the sake of their child.

Drug of Choice

Loved all substances: alcohol, cocaine, Adderall, pills

Did not smoke crack or Freebase drugs

Did not inject drugs due to fear of overdose

Getting Sober for the Child

Motivation to get sober came from having a child

Couldn't do it for themselves or their wife at that time

Recognized the need for a reason to start recovery

Finding Faith Through Children and Addiction Treatment

The speaker shares how having children jump-started their faith journey. They also discuss attending church and going through addiction treatment.

Faith Through Children

Would have found faith eventually but having children jump-started it

God showed up in the form of kids in their life

Church Attendance and Baptism

Explored different avenues like church attendance and baptism

Baptism was a turning point, felt new and better afterwards

Addiction Treatment and Higher Power

Treatment handed them the book and started going through the steps

Already had a higher power (God) before treatment

Had a strong motivation to fight for recovery

Navigating Faith as LGBTQ+ Individuals

The speaker discusses their journey of navigating faith as LGBTQ+ individuals. They talk about feeling unwelcome in religious settings due to their sexual orientation.

Religious Upbringing and Being Gay

Wife grew up in a religious home with strict beliefs

Being gay made them feel unwelcome in certain religious settings

Conflicting Avenues and Seeking Acceptance

Explored different avenues to find acceptance within Christianity

Struggled with conflicting messages about acceptance, love, and salvation

Personal Journey Towards Faith

Made the decision to seek something bigger than themselves

Started attending church alone, feeling broken but seeking healing

Support from Loved Ones During Recovery

The speaker acknowledges the support they received from their wife throughout their recovery journey.

Support from Spouse

Wife knew about their addiction struggles for 7 years before they sought help

Wife advised against going to rehab initially but supported them when they were ready

The Gray Areas of Addiction and Infertility

In this section, the speaker discusses the challenges of addiction and infertility, highlighting the absence of a clear rock bottom moment. They also touch upon their struggles with trying to conceive and the emotional toll it took on them.

The Hardest Part: No Clear Rock Bottom

Addiction and infertility can present unique challenges without a definitive rock bottom or breaking point.

The speaker shares their personal experience of working for the CIA while battling addiction to methamphetamines.

Despite not reaching a physical rock bottom, they felt spiritually broken and empty.

Struggles with Infertility

The speaker opens up about their desire to get pregnant and how it became a significant part of their life's purpose.

They tried various methods such as IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) multiple times but were unsuccessful.

Frustration grew with each failed attempt, leading to feelings of emptiness and despair.

Eventually, they shifted focus to adoption as an alternative path to parenthood.

Adoption Journey Begins

After deciding to pursue adoption, the speaker describes the stress that comes with navigating the adoption process.

They initially planned to stop drinking when they became pregnant but had to adjust their mindset due to infertility.

Matching with a birth mother added another layer of uncertainty and anxiety about whether they would actually receive a baby.

Overcoming Challenges in Adoption

In this section, the speaker shares their experiences during the adoption journey. They discuss both positive aspects and stressful moments encountered along the way.

A Beautiful Match

The speaker recounts being matched with a birth mother who was unable to provide the life they could offer for her child.

Despite some initial complications in their relationship, they ultimately formed an open adoption arrangement.

Roller Coaster of Emotions

The speaker highlights the stressful nature of the adoption journey, including encountering scams and birth mothers who were not actually pregnant.

Even with a positive match, there was still anxiety about whether they would ultimately bring home a baby.

Second Adoption Experience

The speaker reflects on their second adoption experience, which involved a baby born addicted to methamphetamines and THC.

Despite the challenges, they felt uniquely equipped to provide the care and support needed for this special needs child.

Feeling Out of Control: Pressure and Uncertainty

In this section, the speaker discusses the pressure and uncertainty they faced throughout their journey towards parenthood. They reflect on feeling out of control in both their ability to conceive and in securing an adopted child.

Struggling with Expectations

The speaker shares their initial belief that being a mother was their purpose in life.

Frustration grew as they realized they couldn't conceive naturally, leading to feelings of inadequacy.

Lack of Control in Adoption

Adopting brought its own set of challenges, including uncertainties around whether birth parents would follow through or change their minds.

This lack of control added immense pressure and further compounded feelings of helplessness.

Finding Strength in Difficulties

Despite the difficulties faced along the way, the speaker emphasizes their determination to provide love and support to any child who came into their lives.

They express gratitude for being able to navigate these challenges together as a couple.

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New Section

The speaker discusses their past behavior of drinking alcohol while working as a massage therapist and hiding it in the treatment rooms. They also mention lying to their spouse about their tips and feeling remorseful about their actions.

Drinking at Work

The speaker admits to drinking alcohol while working as a massage therapist.

They would hide their drink in the treatment rooms and turn the lights down low.

During lunch breaks, they would take their tips and go to a nearby bar to drink more.

They would then return to work and continue massaging clients before going back to the bar again.

The speaker acknowledges that this behavior was not something they were proud of.

New Section

The speaker reflects on a moment when their wife brought their five-month-old baby to visit them in treatment, which made them realize the impact of their actions on their family. They also discuss how this experience humbled them and made them determined to change.

Family Support

While the speaker was in treatment, their wife worked at a hospital on a different floor.

Their wife would come down during her break and wave at them over the fence.

One day, she brought their five-month-old baby with her, which reminded the speaker of what they had lost due to addiction.

This experience humbled them and made them realize that they needed to make changes for themselves and for their family.

New Section

The speaker talks about how infertility issues brought them to rock bottom emotionally. They initially felt that sharing their story didn't matter because it wasn't as impactful as others', but later realized that people could relate to different aspects of it.

Infertility Struggles

The speaker reveals that infertility was another major challenge they faced.

They initially didn't share their story because they believed it wasn't as impactful as others'.

However, they later discovered that people could relate to different aspects of their story, such as being gay in a small town or facing infertility.

Sharing their experiences allowed others to connect and find support.

New Section

The speaker discusses how sharing their story openly has been powerful and helped break the stigma around addiction. They emphasize the importance of showing what recovery looks like and not just focusing on the struggles.

Recover Out Loud

The speaker believes in the power of sharing one's recovery journey openly.

They mention that Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) used to be a significant part of their life, but they found a different way to live through various types of service.

They are now passionate about the "recover out loud" movement, which aims to show what recovery looks like and break the stigma surrounding addiction.

By speaking up about their own experiences, they hope to inspire others and demonstrate that recovery is possible.

New Section

The speaker emphasizes the importance of recovering out loud and dispelling misconceptions about addiction. They highlight that even if someone falls back into addiction, it doesn't mean that recovery doesn't work.

Breaking Misconceptions

The speaker mentions that Alcoholics Anonymous wanted to maintain anonymity to protect its reputation from public failures.

However, they believe in recovering out loud because it helps challenge misconceptions about addiction.

They use Robert Downey Jr. as an example, stating that despite his relapses, he still attends AA meetings.

By openly discussing addiction and recovery, people can see that there is hope for change and understand what recovery truly entails.

New Section

The speaker discusses the importance of raising awareness about addiction and recovery, especially in light of the fentanyl crisis. They emphasize that people need to know what recovery looks like and how it can manifest in different ways.

Raising Awareness

The speaker highlights the urgency of raising awareness about addiction and recovery, particularly due to the fentanyl crisis.

They mention that while people may have an idea of what addiction looks like, not everyone knows what recovery looks like.

Recovery can manifest in various ways, and it is crucial to speak up and share personal stories to educate others.

By shedding light on different paths to recovery, individuals struggling with addiction can find hope and support.

New Section

This section discusses the importance of anonymity in recovery programs and the availability of different approaches to healing.

Anonymous Programs and Unity

It is okay to be in an anonymous program, but it is not okay to tell others that they will not succeed if they are not in one.

Unity is important, and it feels good to have a sense of unity within recovery communities.

The program offers the 12 Steps as well as Christian and non-traditional tracks for healing.

Providing different approaches allows individuals to find what works best for them.

New Section

This section highlights the challenges posed by insurance companies and emphasizes the need for individualized treatment options.

Challenges with Insurance Companies

Insurance companies often ask about an individual's progress in the 12 Steps or if they have a sponsor before approving coverage.

However, billing for insurance may not be possible if someone is not attending 12-step meetings.

The movement goes beyond just addressing fentanyl addiction; it also aims to address issues with insurance companies and government policies regarding addiction and mental health treatment.

New Section

This section discusses how various entities contribute to addiction issues and emphasizes the need for unity in addressing these problems.

Political Factors and Unity

Politicians tend to politicize everything, including addiction issues.

The movement is not political but rather focuses on unity and bringing people together to help those struggling with addiction.

Big Pharma, big alcohol, and the government should be held accountable for their roles in contributing to addiction problems.

New Section

This section explores societal shifts towards sobriety and recovering out loud.

Changing Attitudes Towards Sobriety

There is a shift in societal attitudes towards sobriety, with drinking sales declining.

The younger generation is reevaluating the need for substances and exploring alternative ways of socializing.

The movement aims to challenge societal norms and promote a sober lifestyle.

New Section

This section highlights the importance of sharing experiences and providing support to those seeking help.

Recovering Out Loud

Sharing personal stories and offering support can make a significant impact on individuals seeking help.

Wearing a hat with recovery-related symbols can serve as a conversation starter and provide an opportunity to offer guidance and resources.

By being open about one's own journey, it becomes easier to connect with others who may be struggling.

New Section

This section discusses the positive impact of sharing personal stories and providing hope to others.

Giving Hope through Personal Stories

Sharing personal stories can give hope to others who are going through similar struggles.

Wearing recovery-related symbols can attract people who need help or want to share their own experiences.

The act of sharing stories creates a sense of unity and allows for mutual support.

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The Impact of Apparel on Recovery

In this section, the speaker discusses the impact of apparel on individuals in recovery and how it can serve as a conversation starter and a way to express one's mission.

The Power of Apparel

Wearing apparel related to recovery can attract like-minded individuals who are passionate about their own recovery journey.

It serves as an icebreaker and allows individuals to be of service without explicitly offering help.

Bold statements on apparel can initiate conversations with people looking for someone to talk to.

Personal Mission and Purpose

Living a life dedicated to recovery gives individuals a sense of purpose and allows them to approach helping others in a different way.

The speaker views their work as a movement rather than just a means of survival, emphasizing the importance of passion in making a difference.

Ethical Treatment Centers and Giving Back

The creation of ethical treatment centers was driven by the desire to provide help even if it meant serving free clients.

The speaker believes in reinvesting money back into the community, particularly for those who cannot afford treatment due to lack of health insurance.

Support for Veterans' Mental Health Care

The speaker expresses gratitude towards veterans who sacrifice their lives but often receive inadequate healthcare upon returning home.

Accessible and top-notch mental health care is crucial for veterans, especially considering the high suicide rates among this population.

Challenges in Mental Health Care System

Government-run facilities like the VA face limitations in providing immediate access and quality care due to funding constraints.

Lack of insurance coverage and long waiting periods for treatment can be detrimental, particularly when time is critical in addressing mental health and addiction issues.

Prioritizing Mental Health Care

The speaker emphasizes the need to prioritize mental health and addiction as a crisis that requires attention and funding, comparing it to the importance given to other global issues.

Allocating resources wisely can ensure that everyone has access to quality care, regardless of their insurance status or financial situation.

New Section

The speaker expresses their interest in making a difference as a community and addressing big problems. They emphasize the need for a movement to grow and force change through legislation that ensures everyone gets treatment.

Making a Difference as a Community

The speaker is interested in making a difference as a whole community.

They believe that addressing big problems requires collective action.

A movement needs to grow and become large enough to bring about change.

Forcing Change through Legislation

The speaker mentions the importance of standing together as a community.

They highlight the need to force legislators to write effective legislation that addresses the crisis.

Treatment plans should be comprehensive and not written with loopholes by employers or other parties.

The government plays a significant role in creating effective legislation.

New Section

The speaker discusses the importance of having a well-written plan for treatment and emphasizes the need for trusted individuals who can speak from both sides of the political spectrum.

Importance of Well-Written Treatment Plans

Treatment plans should have clear, comprehensive, and well-thought-out strategies.

Plans should consider both the needs of individuals seeking treatment and those providing it.

Employers' plans with loopholes are ineffective in addressing the crisis.

Trusted Individuals Speaking Bipartisanly

It is crucial to have trusted individuals who can communicate effectively from both sides of the political spectrum.

Bipartisan communication helps ensure that solutions are inclusive and effective.

Failure to engage in bipartisan dialogue may result in losing support from certain groups.

New Section

The speaker expresses their readiness to take action but acknowledges uncertainty about what steps to take next. They discuss bringing people together, forming plans, and receiving inspiration from unexpected sources.

Ready for Action but Uncertain

The speaker is always ready to take action but lacks clarity on the next steps.

Many people share the desire to help and be involved in addressing the crisis.

Bringing People Together and Forming Plans

The speaker believes in bringing like-minded individuals together to form plans.

Collaboration and brainstorming with others lead to effective strategies.

Inspiration from Unexpected Sources

The speaker mentions having a unique relationship with God, where inspiration strikes at unexpected moments.

They feel a sense of purpose and direction when they receive these inspirations.

New Section

The speaker emphasizes the need for swag that represents their movement. They discuss the importance of bipartisan communication and avoiding actions that may alienate certain groups.

Swag Representing the Movement

The speaker believes it is essential to have swag that represents their movement effectively.

This representation helps create a strong identity and attracts support.

Importance of Bipartisan Communication

Bipartisan communication is crucial for inclusivity and effectiveness.

Failing to engage in bipartisan dialogue may result in losing support from certain groups.

Avoiding Alienation through Actions

The speaker acknowledges that certain actions, such as wearing a Maga hat, may alienate some people.

It is important to consider how actions can impact relationships and support.

New Section

The speaker discusses their potential interest in running for president but acknowledges the need for legislative changes before pursuing such ambitions. They mention Governor Gavin as a potential ally.

Potential Interest in Running for President

The speaker entertains the idea of running for president but recognizes current eligibility limitations.

Legislative Changes Needed

Before considering a presidential run, legislative changes are necessary.

Specific requirements or restrictions prevent them from currently being eligible.

Mention of Governor Gavin

Governor Gavin is mentioned as a potential ally or someone who could support their ambitions.

New Section

The speaker jokes about catching a moment on camera and engages in light-hearted banter with the host.

Catching Moments on Camera

The speaker jokingly asks if a particular moment was captured on camera.

They engage in playful banter with the host.

New Section

The speaker discusses the importance of honest feedback and discourages parents from falsely praising their children's abilities. They mention American Idol as an example.

Importance of Honest Feedback

The speaker emphasizes the need for honest feedback, especially when it comes to assessing talent or skills.

Parents should avoid falsely praising their children's abilities.

American Idol Example

The speaker mentions how false praise can lead to embarrassing situations, using American Idol as an example.

They discourage parents from pushing their children onto stages without proper talent evaluation.

New Section

The speaker reflects on talking to the camera and shares a humorous exchange with the host about being aware of its presence.

Talking to the Camera

The speaker reflects on talking directly to the camera during recordings.

They mention forgetting who taught them this approach but acknowledge its importance.

Humorous Exchange with Host

The host and speaker engage in a lighthearted conversation about being aware of the camera's presence.

They joke about not looking at the camera despite it being right there.

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The Flaw in Character

The speaker discusses a major flaw in character and the pressure that comes with it. They mention how people often have hidden agendas and talk negatively about others when they want something from them.

Pressure of Having a Flawed Character

Having a flawed character is seen as a major flaw.

People talk negatively about others when they want something from them.

Hidden agendas are common, and everyone has one.

Changing Agendas

The speaker reflects on how people's agendas change day to day and moment to moment. They discuss the importance of not giving away things for free and highlight the need to take care of certain groups while also teaching disabled individuals new skills for better job opportunities.

Ever-changing Agendas

People's agendas change frequently.

It is important not to give away things for free.

Certain groups, like old people and severely disabled individuals, need to be taken care of.

Disabled individuals who can work should be taught new skills for better job opportunities.

Taking Care of Different Groups

The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking care of different groups based on their abilities. They suggest teaching disabled individuals new skills for better job prospects rather than just providing financial assistance.

Taking Care of Different Abilities

Some disabled individuals can work but need training for better job prospects.

Teaching new skills can help disabled individuals have a better job.

Hiring Slightly Handicapped Individuals

The speaker shares an example of hiring slightly handicapped individuals back in Canada. They discuss exploring successful practices from around the world, such as helping people coming out of incarceration and recovery by providing forklift certification and job placement opportunities.

Hiring Slightly Handicapped Individuals

The speaker hired slightly handicapped individuals in Canada.

Exploring successful practices from around the world can be beneficial.

Helping people coming out of incarceration and recovery by providing forklift certification and job placement opportunities.

Supporting Rehabilitation

The speaker talks about supporting rehabilitation efforts through partnerships. They mention a scholarship program that evolved into funding for forklift certification, which helps individuals acquire skills and find work, ultimately aiding in their recovery process.

Supporting Rehabilitation Efforts

A scholarship program evolved into funding for forklift certification.

Forklift certification helps individuals acquire skills and find work.

Job placement in the production industry can aid in staying on track during recovery.

Importance of Life Skills Education

The speaker discusses the importance of life skills education, highlighting how schools have removed subjects like home economics that taught essential skills such as cleaning, folding clothes, and personal hygiene. They express concern about the lack of practical knowledge among younger generations.

Lack of Life Skills Education

Schools have removed subjects like home economics that taught essential life skills.

Practical knowledge such as cleaning, folding clothes, and personal hygiene is lacking among younger generations.

Providing Skills for Income Generation

The speaker shares an example of partnering with an organization to provide forklift certification to individuals coming out of incarceration and recovery. This enables them to acquire a skill that can generate income and find work in the production industry.

Providing Skills for Income Generation

Partnering with an organization to provide forklift certification.

Forklift certification enables individuals to acquire a skill for income generation.

Job placement in the production industry can help individuals stay on track during recovery.

Rehabilitation and Society

The speaker emphasizes the need for better rehabilitation efforts and acknowledges that society as a whole is a mess. They express the belief that there is room for improvement and mention the removal of life skills education from schools.

Need for Better Rehabilitation Efforts

Society as a whole needs better rehabilitation efforts.

There is room for improvement in society.

Life skills education has been removed from schools, which is concerning.

Importance of Life Skills Education (Continued)

The speaker continues discussing the importance of life skills education and shares personal experiences with subjects like woodwork and home economics being gender-specific in the past. They highlight how they were fortunate to have taken both subjects.

Gender-Specific Subjects in the Past

In the past, subjects like woodwork and home economics were gender-specific.

The speaker was fortunate to have taken both subjects.

Personal Experiences with Home Economics

The speaker shares personal experiences with taking home economics classes, including making wooden clocks and baking cookies. They discuss how these classes provided valuable life skills.

Personal Experiences with Home Economics

Personal experiences include making wooden clocks and baking cookies in home economics class.

Home economics provided valuable life skills.

Preference for Hanging Out with Girls

The speaker expresses their preference for hanging out with girls rather than boys. They clarify that it doesn't mean they dislike all men but believe there are good men out there who need to be found.

Preference for Hanging Out with Girls

The speaker prefers hanging out with girls.

It doesn't mean they dislike all men.

There are good men out there who need to be found.

Being a Parent

The speaker discusses the experience of being a parent and mentions that both they and the other person in the conversation are fathers. They briefly touch on having teenagers and preparing for college.

Experience of Being a Parent

Both speakers are fathers.

One speaker has teenagers, while the other's child will soon be 11 years old.

Being a parent is a rewarding experience.

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Life-changing Moment

The speaker describes how a life-changing moment transformed their perspective on life and sobriety.

Life Transformation

Holding her child for the first time changed the speaker's life.

The experience gave them a reason to live and be sober.

They realized they didn't want to continue down a destructive path.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of their child in giving them purpose.

Coping with Loss

The speaker discusses the loss of their son-in-law and basketball teammate, highlighting the impact it has had on their lives.

Tragic Losses

The speaker's daughter found her fiancé dead on 9/11, causing immense pain.

It hasn't even been a year since the loss, and the pain is still raw.

They express determination to keep pushing forward despite these tragedies.

Finding Purpose

The speaker reflects on finding purpose beyond their personal achievements and shares about their involvement in various ventures.

Beyond Personal Success

The speaker acknowledges having set up successful companies that run themselves.

Despite this, they feel compelled to take action due to personal losses caused by drug-related incidents.

Their motivation comes from seeking justice for those who have been affected by drugs.

Remembering Loved Ones

The speaker talks about honoring loved ones who have passed away through meaningful gestures.

Honoring Lost Loved Ones

They mention losing a basketball teammate recently and displaying his jersey as a tribute.

Reflecting on personal losses fuels their determination to speak out against drug-related issues.

West Coast Symposium

The speaker shares their positive experience at the West Coast Symposium and highlights its purpose.

West Coast Symposium Experience

The speaker attended the West Coast Symposium, a gathering of treatment centers and therapists.

They express gratitude towards the organizers for allowing them to bring their podcast to the event.

The symposium aims to foster community, provide education credits, and showcase innovative approaches in the treatment world.

Looking Ahead

The speaker discusses future plans and expresses excitement about upcoming events.

Future Plans

The speaker mentions having already started planning for next year's symposium.

They express enthusiasm about attending and encourage others to join as well.

There is anticipation for new merchandise, including swag related to their movement.

Recover Out Loud Movement

The speaker explains how the "Recover Out Loud" movement began and its impact on sharing personal stories of recovery.

Origin of the Movement

The "Recover Out Loud" movement provided a platform for the speaker to share their story and help others.

It started during a time when they felt detached from their program due to COVID restrictions.

Through an audio app called Clubhouse, they connected with like-minded individuals and shared their experiences.

Lessons Learned

The speaker reflects on lessons learned while trying to help someone specific through fundraising efforts.

Lessons in Helping Others

The speaker embarked on a mission to raise funds for someone in need of treatment but faced disappointment when that person didn't follow through.

This experience taught them about putting their heart on the line while helping others.

Despite setbacks, they remain committed to making a difference in the lives of those struggling with addiction.

Stories of Support and Donations

The speaker discusses how stories started spreading about the project, with people sharing their experiences and supporting it through donations and purchases of hats.

Sharing Stories and Support

People shared their stories or bought hats for loved ones to show support.

The project received donations and gained momentum.

It now operates solely on donations and hat purchases.

The funds generated are reinvested back into the community.

Website and Instagram Presence

The speaker provides information about where to find the project online, specifically mentioning the website and Instagram page.

Online Presence

To get a hat or learn more about the project, visit helpfulhatsproject.com or check out their Instagram page.

The Instagram page has helped create a recovering-out-loud community.

While not having many followers, they aim to connect everyone who wants to share their story.

Purpose of the Project

The speaker reflects on the purpose of the project, emphasizing the importance of helping others without expecting anything in return.

Helping Others

The goal is to provide genuine help without any ulterior motives.

They want to offer resources, support, and connections to those in need.

It feels rewarding to give back to the community after struggling with accepting help in the past.

Finding Helpful Hats Online

The speaker shares how easy it is to find helpful hats online through a simple search.

Finding Helpful Hats

To find helpful hats online, simply search for "helpful hats" on websites like openhats.com.

Despite minimal advertising efforts, people have been able to find the project easily.

Organic Growth and Connections

The speaker discusses the organic growth of the project and how they believe in connecting with the right people at the right time.

Organic Growth

The project has grown organically through Instagram without extensive advertising.

The speaker believes in genuine connections and meeting like-minded individuals.

They feel that being in the right place at the right time is a result of divine intervention.

Grassroots Effort and Purposeful Actions

The speaker emphasizes that even small actions can make a difference, highlighting the grassroots nature of their project.

Grassroots Approach

The project operates on a grassroots level, relying on individual contributions.

Even small amounts of money raised are more than what they could donate alone.

People who support the project may not necessarily want a hat but still contribute because it feels good to help others.

Becoming a "Hopeaholic"

The speaker playfully discusses becoming a "hopeaholic" by participating in podcasts and supporting projects like helpful hats.

Becoming a "Hopeaholic"

To become a "hopeaholic," one can participate in podcasts or support projects like helpful hats.

Wearing merchandise from such projects helps spread awareness and support their cause.

While wearing hats may not be suitable for everyone, other options like t-shirts or beanies are available.

Positive Feedback and Support

The speaker expresses appreciation for positive feedback received and acknowledges the impact their project is making.

Positive Feedback

The speaker appreciates positive feedback about their work.

They acknowledge the impact their project is having and express gratitude for the support received.

The speaker commends the dedication of others in promoting and supporting helpful hats.

The Importance of Notoriety and Unity

In this section, the speaker emphasizes that their focus is not on personal fame but on creating a movement called "hopeaholics." They express the intention to pass on the leadership of this movement to younger individuals in the future. The speaker also mentions the possibility of facing risks, including assassination, but believes that their pure intentions will make the movement successful.

Creating a Movement for Unity

The speaker states that their goal is to create a movement called "hopeaholics" and emphasizes that it is not about them or Shane (presumably another person involved).

They express their desire to not be the face of this movement forever and eventually pass it on to younger people.

Despite potential risks, such as assassination, they believe in the power of pure intentions behind the movement.

Sincerity and Unity

The speaker highlights how sincerity is becoming rare in today's world and how people are drawn towards authenticity.

They mention that people understand their message more than mainstream media gives them credit for.

Unity is emphasized as being crucial regardless of political views, race, or sexuality.

Overcoming Pain and Helping Others

The speaker shares personal experiences of pain and overcoming it.

They express a desire to help others walk through their own pain.

Hatred towards others diminishes when one has walked through their own pain.

Division and Acceptance

The speaker criticizes attempts by certain groups to divide based on race or LGBTQ+ issues.

They mention that even within LGBTQ+ communities, there can be divisions between different identities.

Personal experience with a transgender family member is shared, highlighting understanding and support for diverse identities.

Finding Love and Authenticity

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of love and authenticity in overcoming pain and finding unity. They discuss their own journey towards self-acceptance and how it has influenced their perspective on others.

Love and Unity

The speaker emphasizes the need to come together with love, regardless of differences.

They express a personal transformation from being in pain to wanting to help others through their pain.

Hatred towards others diminishes when one has walked through their own pain.

Criticism of Divisive Tactics

The speaker criticizes attempts by certain groups to divide based on race or LGBTQ+ issues.

They mention that even within LGBTQ+ communities, there can be divisions between different identities.

Personal experience with a transgender family member is shared, highlighting understanding and support for diverse identities.

Overcoming Pain and Helping Others

The speaker shares personal experiences of pain and overcoming it.

They express a desire to help others walk through their own pain.

Hatred towards others diminishes when one has walked through their own pain.

Trauma, Authenticity, and Freshman Year

In this section, the speaker discusses traumatic experiences during freshman year of college that led them to understand what it feels like to lack security. They also touch upon topics such as coming out, substance abuse, and parental divorce.

Freshman Year Challenges

Freshman year of college was described as eye-opening due to various challenges faced by the speaker.

Traumatic events such as witnessing the September 11th attacks had a significant impact on them.

Exploring sexuality and dealing with parental divorce added further complexity during this period.

Lack of Security

The speaker reflects on feeling insecure during freshman year due to traumatic experiences.

They highlight that such trauma leaves a lasting impact on an individual's anxiety levels.

Authenticity and Substance Abuse

The speaker mentions that coming out as their authentic self was not as difficult due to prior experiences of hiding their true identity.

Growing up in a small town, they felt limited options for self-expression.

Substance abuse became a coping mechanism during this period.

Understanding Others' Struggles

The speaker expresses empathy towards individuals who struggle with their gender identity.

They acknowledge the challenges faced by transgender individuals and the importance of supporting them.

Personal experience with a transgender family member is shared, highlighting understanding and support for diverse identities.

The Importance of Trauma and Resilience

In this section, the speaker discusses the role of trauma in shaping one's life and the importance of resilience in overcoming challenges.

The Impact of Trauma

The speaker reflects on how trauma has influenced their life and grades.

They express gratitude for having something to hold onto during difficult times, such as athletics.

The speaker believes that everyone experiences pain and trauma, although it may manifest differently for each person.

They question whether those who judge others have never experienced or understood the pain themselves.

Finding Strength through Trauma

The speaker feels blessed to have gone through challenging experiences as it opened their mind to a broader world.

Some people may not have experienced significant trauma, which can be detrimental when they encounter difficult situations.

Having faced death and survived, the speaker no longer fears walking through any challenge.

They acknowledge that their strength comes from having overcome past pain.

Sharing Personal Stories

The speaker mentions their wife, who did not experience the same level of childhood trauma. This lack of understanding can make it challenging for her to relate to certain situations.

By sharing personal stories, the speaker hopes to help others understand what individuals with traumatic backgrounds go through.

Despite being afraid of being in the public eye again, the speaker decided to share their story after experiencing a personal loss. Their pain pushed them towards healing and helping others.

Authenticity and Self-Acceptance

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of authenticity and self-acceptance in finding freedom from judgment and embracing personal growth.

Embracing Vulnerability

The speaker shares that they are no longer afraid of exposing every detail of their life because they have found freedom in being authentic.

They believe that sharing their story now is different from 20 years ago, as they have grown and transformed through their pain.

Authenticity allows the speaker to be true to themselves and not be affected by others' opinions or judgments.

Overcoming Hurt

The speaker acknowledges that while others may try to hurt them, they cannot be truly hurt because they have already faced immense pain.

They draw a parallel with their experience in Muay Thai, where they feel invincible due to the self-destructive mindset they had before.

The Power of True Heart

The speaker emphasizes that what truly matters is who a person is at their core.

They suggest that those who engage in negative behavior towards others may have unresolved issues and pain within themselves.

By causing individuals to look inward, the speaker believes that their words may lead to personal growth and self-reflection.

Final Thoughts on Personal Growth

In this section, the speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of personal growth and self-awareness in overcoming challenges and finding fulfillment.

Embracing Change

The speaker encourages embracing personal growth and change rather than fearing it.

They highlight how going through difficult experiences has transformed them into a different person today.

Unmasking True Self

The speaker expresses the freedom found in removing masks and being true to oneself.

They assert that no one can harm them when they are authentic and vulnerable.

Encouraging Self-reflection

The speaker suggests that engaging in negative behavior towards others indicates a need for self-reflection and addressing personal pain.

Their hope is that by sharing their story, it will inspire others to reflect on their own lives and work towards healing.

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The Transformation of Hurting People

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of supporting and helping people who are going through difficult times and seeking personal growth.

Witnessing Transformation

It is a blessing to be able to witness someone's transformation during their journey of personal growth.

Walking through pain and actively working towards healing is more beneficial than holding onto pain.

Staying in a state of pain is a terrible way to live.

Personal Experience with Pain

The speaker shares their own experience of holding onto pain for a long time, leading to anger and delusions.

They mention talking to Jesus, the devil, and being involved in secret missions for the CIA.

Reflecting on this experience, they acknowledge that it was not productive or helpful.

PTSD from Bad Drug Trip?

In this section, the speaker explores the possibility of experiencing PTSD as a result of a traumatic drug trip.

PTSD from Drug Trips

The speaker confirms that it is possible to develop PTSD from a bad drug trip.

They emphasize that if an intense experience feels real in your brain, it can have lasting effects.

The speaker shares their own experience of feeling like they were snapping people's necks during such a trip.

Violence and Gentleness

This section delves into the relationship between violence and gentleness, as well as the need for protection against predators.

Violence and Control

The speaker mentions two individuals who discuss the connection between violence and becoming gentle.

They highlight the idea that being capable of violence but learning how to control it can be virtuous.

Without control over one's violent tendencies, weakness may prevail.

Protecting the Weak

The speaker expresses their role as a protector and warrior against predators.

They believe in standing up for those who cannot fight for themselves.

Sharing an incident from a basketball game, they recount intervening to protect someone from an aggressive attacker.

Being a Protector

In this section, the speaker emphasizes their role as a protector and their willingness to stand up for others.

Warrior Mentality

The speaker identifies themselves as a protector rather than a victim or perpetrator.

They describe themselves as a gatekeeper and express their commitment to ensuring the safety of others, especially the weak.

Personal Experience of Protection

The speaker shares an incident from a recent basketball game where they intervened to protect someone from an aggressive individual.

Despite being outnumbered, they were ready to defend and support those in need.

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The Importance of Not Giving Up

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of not giving up and seeking help when facing challenges related to mental health and addiction.

Words of Encouragement

It is important to never give up, as there is always hope for improvement.

There are people and communities available to offer support and assistance.

The speaker's wife played a crucial role in their recovery journey, serving as a source of support and motivation.

Reaching Out for Help

The speaker mentions that individuals can reach out to them through Instagram or text messages for support.

They highlight the significance of online communities in providing resources and guidance.

A professional fighter named Jared Gordon is mentioned as someone who actively responds to direct messages on social media.

Seeking Assistance

The speaker plans to invite Jared Gordon onto their podcast, either by flying him down or conducting a Zoom interview.

They mention having a work phone number available on their Instagram page, which allows direct communication with those seeking help.

It is emphasized that they are committed to answering calls personally.

Creating a Helpline for Mental Health and Addiction Support

This section focuses on the importance of creating accessible helplines for individuals struggling with mental health issues and addiction.

Providing Answers and Support

The speaker expresses the desire to create the largest helpline ever, offering assistance with mental health, addiction, and other related concerns.

They acknowledge that sometimes all someone needs is someone to talk to without necessarily requiring professional therapy.

Taking Action When Needed

It is suggested that individuals should reach out for help when the pain of remaining stagnant outweighs the fear of change.

Willingness to accept suggestions from others is crucial during recovery processes.

The speaker advises being open to temporary sacrifices, such as giving up cell phones or accepting smaller living arrangements.

Overcoming Obstacles and Navigating the Legal System

This section discusses personal experiences with overcoming obstacles during recovery and navigating the legal system.

Financial Challenges in Recovery

The speaker shares their experience of going to a rehab facility despite being financially well-off.

They mention attending a rehab center that was considered "ghetto" due to financial constraints.

Legal System Disparities

The speaker highlights the disparity within the legal system, where having financial resources can lead to more favorable outcomes.

They compare their own situation, receiving a year in rehab instead of eight years in prison due to bail money, with previous experiences of being unable to afford bail and facing harsher consequences.

Understanding Frustrations and Empathy for Others

This section delves into understanding frustrations related to disparities within the legal system and empathizing with others who face similar challenges.

Empathy for Different Perspectives

The speaker acknowledges that they have experienced both sides of the spectrum, having been broke and unable to afford bail earlier in life.

They express frustration with public defenders, referring to them as "public pretenders."

Acknowledging Inequality

Despite understanding frustrations, the speaker recognizes that disparities exist within the legal system based on financial resources.

They conclude by stating that while it may not make sense, they can understand people's frustrations regarding these inequalities.

[t=1:44:12s] The Truth about the System

In this section, the speaker discusses their perspective on the flaws of the justice system and how it relates to drug addiction.

The Broken System

The speaker expresses their dissatisfaction with the current justice system, stating that they do not want people to go to jail or prison for drug addiction.

They believe that drugs being illegal may be a mistake, as it led them to face severe consequences for possessing even small amounts of drugs.

Despite going through detox multiple times in private centers, they feel that the system did not provide effective help or support.

Harm Reduction and Controversial Approaches

The speaker acknowledges the importance of harm reduction strategies like Narcan to prevent overdose deaths.

However, they express skepticism about long-term effectiveness and are not a fan of methods like Suboxone for addiction treatment.

They emphasize that individuals with addiction need more than just harm reduction measures; they require a spiritual connection and complete abstinence from substances.

[t=1:46:15s] Different Paths to Recovery

In this section, the speaker reflects on different approaches to recovery and emphasizes individual differences in finding what works best for each person.

Individual Paths

The speaker mentions an artist named Jelly Roll who still uses some substances but has managed to avoid heroin addiction.

They acknowledge that everyone's journey is unique and should not be judged. What works for one person may not work for another.

While some individuals find medical marijuana helpful in balancing their mental health, others like themselves require complete abstinence.

Knowing Boundaries and Self-reflection

Understanding personal boundaries is crucial in recovery. It is essential to recognize why certain substances were initially used and address underlying issues.

Self-reflection plays a significant role in figuring out what approach works best for each individual.

[t=1:48:07s] Appreciation and Conclusion

In this section, the speaker expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share their story and appreciates the work being done by the interviewer.

The speaker thanks the interviewer for having them on the show and expresses appreciation for their work.

They enjoyed the conversation, found it fun, and appreciated how it made them laugh.

The speaker concludes by stating that they love what the interviewer is doing and thanks them again.

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