7 Things Men Do To Ruin Their Lives | The Bedros Keuilian Show E023

Introduction

In this episode of the Bedrose Coolian Show, the host talks about seven things that men do to ruin their lives. Before diving into the topic, he shares a story of his involvement in a police helicopter chase and how it was a turning point in his life.

Storytime: Police Helicopter Chase

• The host shares another story of his involvement in a police helicopter chase.

• He explains how he and his friends used to break into empty houses and pawn valuable items for money.

• During one such break-in, they were chased by the police in a helicopter.

• The host tried to escape but was eventually caught by the police.

• He shares how this incident was a turning point in his life.

Fork in the Road

The host talks about how this incident was a fork in the road for him and led him to make some important decisions.

Consequences of Actions

• The host explains that this incident led to his friends going to jail while he went free.

• He shares how an innocent old lady got involved because of their actions.

• The old lady identified three of his friends as culprits but did not recognize him, which saved him from getting arrested.

Importance of Core Values

• The host reflects on how his parents did not instill any core values in him while growing up.

• He mentions that he had no interest in sports or academics and ended up hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Seven Things Men Do to Ruin Their Lives

The host talks about seven things that men do to ruin their lives and how to avoid them.

Lack of Purpose

• Men who settle into a profession instead of pursuing their life's work are slowly committing suicide.

Addiction

• Addiction to drugs, alcohol, or pornography can ruin a man's life.

Lack of Discipline

• A lack of discipline in areas such as finances, health, and relationships can lead to disastrous consequences.

Negative Influences

• Surrounding oneself with negative influences can lead to bad decisions and poor outcomes.

Lack of Self-Awareness

• Not being aware of one's strengths and weaknesses can lead to poor decision-making and missed opportunities.

Fear of Failure

• Allowing fear of failure to hold oneself back from taking risks and pursuing goals can lead to a life filled with regret.

Lack of Integrity

• Compromising on one's values and integrity for short-term gains can have long-term consequences.

Seven Things Men Do to Ruin Their Lives

In this video, the speaker talks about seven things that men do to ruin their lives. He shares his insights from coaching entrepreneurs and men from different walks of life.

Choosing the Wrong Spouse

• The number one determining factor of a man's success is who he chooses as a wife.

• Choosing someone who is not supportive, chaotic, emotionally reckless can ruin a man's life.

• Women also make the mistake of marrying broken men they want to fix.

Vice Dependency

• Vices like drinking, smoking weed, watching TV shows all weekend long can be harmful if used as an escape or coping mechanism for reality.

• Addiction to pornography can lead to isolation and lack of intimacy in relationships.

Lack of Purpose

• Not having a clear purpose in life can lead to depression and anxiety.

• Having a purpose gives meaning and direction in life.

Financial Mismanagement

• Living beyond one's means, not saving money, and accumulating debt can lead to financial stress and ruin.

• Investing in oneself through education or personal development is crucial for financial success.

Poor Health Habits

• Neglecting health by eating poorly, not exercising regularly, or abusing substances can lead to physical and mental health problems.

• Prioritizing health through good habits leads to better quality of life.

Lack of Accountability

• Blaming others for one's mistakes instead of taking responsibility leads to stagnation and lack of growth.

• Being accountable for one's actions leads to personal and professional growth.

Lack of Integrity

• Lying, cheating, or stealing can ruin a man's reputation and relationships.

• Having integrity builds trust and respect in personal and professional relationships.

Quitting Vices

In this section, the speaker talks about his decision to quit all vices, including alcohol and weed. He explains that even mild dependencies can be incongruent with the life you want to lead.

Quitting Alcohol and Weed

• The speaker decided to quit all vices after realizing that even mild dependencies can be incongruent with the life he wants to lead.

• He specifically mentions quitting alcohol and weed as two vices he used to indulge in occasionally.

• The speaker explains that a vape pen is also a vice, despite some people thinking it's not. He believes anything that creates dependency or incongruence with your desired life should be avoided.

Understanding Vices

• The speaker discusses how vices like gambling create dopamine hits through variable response, which can be addictive.

• He warns against conditioning yourself to get dopamine hits from things that are not related to achievement or hard work.

• However, if you are straight up addicted to a vice like pornography or drugs, then it becomes a bigger issue of being incongruent with the person you want to be.

Settling in Your Profession

In this section, the speaker talks about how settling in a profession you're not excited about can ruin your life by preventing you from pursuing your life's work.

Settling for Stability

• The speaker warns against settling in a profession just because it provides stability and benefits like health insurance and vacation pay.

• He encourages people not to settle for jobs they're not excited about and instead pursue their life's work.

Ruining Your Life

In this section, the speaker talks about how settling in a profession and indulging in vices can ruin your life over time.

Micro Decisions with Macro Consequences

• The speaker explains that all of these micro decisions to settle for a job or indulge in vices may seem like a non-issue at the time, but they can add up over years and decades to ruin your life.

• Settling for a profession you're not excited about prevents you from pursuing your life's work, which can lead to regret later on.

• Indulging in vices creates dependencies that are incongruent with the person you want to be and prevent you from achieving your goals.

Pursuing Your Life's Work

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of pursuing one's life work and purpose. He encourages individuals to use their weekends and nights to figure out what they want to do in life, either by working for an organization aligned with their values or creating their own business.

Pursuing Purpose-Driven Work

• Pursue your life's work and purpose.

• Settling into a profession that is not your passion or purpose is like committing suicide slowly.

• Use weekends and nights to figure out what you want to do in life.

• Consider working for an organization aligned with your values or creating your own business.

Complaining and Victim Mindset

In this section, the speaker talks about how complaining without taking action is counterproductive. He encourages individuals to avoid adopting a victim mindset and instead take responsibility for their lives.

The Danger of Complaining

• Complaining without taking action is counterproductive.

• Adopting a victim mindset without doing anything about it leads to suffering.

• People distance themselves from those who complain all the time.

• Life should be experienced, enjoyed, challenged, and have adversity.

Not Finishing What You Start

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of sticking with what you say you're going to do. He encourages individuals not to give up on their ideas before they start making progress.

Sticking With Your Goals

• Stick with what you say you're going to do.

• Don't give up on your ideas before they start making progress.

The Importance of Finishing What You Start

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of finishing what you start and not giving up when things get tough.

Starting and Finishing

• It's important to finish what you start.

• If trusted advisors say it's a bad idea, then stop it.

• Don't give up just because something is hard or difficult.

Life Tests You

• Life tests you to see if you are worthy of happiness, success, financial freedom, abundance, and love.

• Adversities and setbacks are part of life.

Core Values

• Men ruin their lives when they don't have core values or non-negotiables.

• Having core values helps you stand your ground and avoid becoming a pushover.

• Compromise is possible but having a set of core values is important.

Stupid Time

• After 11 pm is stupid time.

• Avoid hanging out with stupid people doing stupid things at stupid hours.

The Importance of Finding Your Band of Brothers

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of finding like-minded individuals who share your core values and forming a tribe or brotherhood.

Living Like an Island

• Men often live like islands, acting as lone wolves.

• This can ruin their lives because humans are meant to be tribal and find like-minded individuals who share their core values.

• Having a set of core values and non-negotiables is important in finding a tribe or brotherhood.

Find Your Band of Brothers

• To find your band of brothers, you must put yourself out there and test other men against your core values.

• If they have your core values, get in that group.

• Don't suffer in silence or white-knuckle through life; hope is not a game plan.

Conclusion and Call to Action

In this section, the speaker thanks his audience for listening and encourages them to take action towards success.

Thank You

• The speaker thanks his audience for listening and subscribing to his podcast.

• He expresses gratitude for sharing his message and taking action towards success.

Success is Your Responsibility

• Averages are the enemy; success is your responsibility.

• Everything in your life can change for the better when you decide to flip the switch.

Call to Action

• The speaker encourages his audience to leave reviews and comments on all platforms where his content is available.

• He thanks them again for helping him grow his podcast.