How To Talk To Anyone | small talk, social anxiety, conversation tips!
Taming Social Anxiety
In this video, the speaker shares her experience with social anxiety and provides tips on how to overcome it. She discusses the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem, the benefits of therapy, and strategies for engaging in small talk.
Self-Confidence vs. Self-Esteem
- Self-confidence is a skill that can be developed through practice.
- Self-esteem is how you view and perceive yourself.
- Low self-esteem can lead to overthinking social interactions.
Benefits of Therapy
- Therapy can help build self-esteem.
- BetterHelp is a service that matches individuals with licensed therapists.
- Over 20,000 therapists are available through BetterHelp.
- Therapy sessions are confidential.
Strategies for Engaging in Small Talk
- Small talk is important for building connections with others.
- Small talk questions should aim to find common ground with the other person.
- Asking about their neighborhood or city can be a good starting point for small talk.
- The goal of small talk is to find something in common with the other person.
Overall, this video provides helpful insights into overcoming social anxiety by building self-confidence and self-esteem through therapy and engaging in small talk.
Tips for Making Small Talk
In this section, the speaker shares tips on how to make small talk and gauge if you vibe with someone.
Starting Small Talk
- Start by talking about anything that comes to mind or any information you know about what they say.
- Keep things light and find a topic that sparks enthusiasm in both of you.
- Have a rolodex of hot topics that you like to talk about, such as feelings, hobbies during lockdown, or revelations about lockdown.
Being an Active Listener
- Make them feel comfortable by actively listening.
- Engage with what they're saying and avoid playing in your head of what response to give.
- Learn how to be an active listener as it is a tool that extroverts and introverts should absolutely do.
Keeping the Conversation Going
- Ask questions that pry deeper into what they just said.
- If you have no questions to ask, summarize what they said in a sentence.
- Don't trip out when there's a little beat in the conversation. Use something in front of you as a shared experience.
How to Be Interesting by Being Interested
In this section, the speaker shares tips on how to be interesting by being interested and making others feel comfortable.
Being Interested Makes You Interesting
- The best way to be interesting is to be interested. People enjoy talking even the biggest introverts.
- Every introvert's nightmare is like the dreaded pause or like the awkward silence. These pauses feel longer in your head than what's actually happening in reality.
Making Others Feel Comfortable
- If you're having a really wobbly day, just be honest and sincere about how you're feeling.
- Being honest and sincere can disarm that other person and make them feel more comfortable knowing that you guys are both feeling nervous.
Conclusion
In this section, the speaker concludes by summarizing the tips shared on how to make small talk, be an active listener, keep the conversation going, and be interesting by being interested.
Summary
- Small talk is a way of gauging if you vibe with someone.
- Find a topic that sparks enthusiasm in both of you.
- Learn how to be an active listener as it is a tool that extroverts and introverts should absolutely do.
- Use something in front of you as a shared experience to keep the conversation going.
- The best way to be interesting is to be interested.
Remembering How They Feel
In this section, the speaker talks about how people remember interactions based on how they feel rather than specific details.
The Importance of Comfort
- People remember the energy, vibe, and tone of an interaction more than specific details.
- Making someone feel comfortable is what really matters in social situations.
- Even if a bad impression is made, seeing someone again provides a new opportunity to try again.
Connection and Socializing
This section discusses the importance of connection and socializing for both introverted and extroverted individuals.
Finding Ways to Connect
- Even introverted individuals need connection while extroverted individuals can find ways to connect deeper.
- The speaker encourages viewers to go out and socialize.
Overall, the video touches on conversation, socializing, and connection. The speaker emphasizes that making others feel comfortable is key in social situations and that everyone needs connection regardless of their personality type.