A kinder, gentler philosophy of success | Alain de Botton
The Reality of Career Crises
In this section, the speaker discusses how career crises often occur on Sunday evenings when there is a painful divergence between one's hopes and the reality of their life.
Career Crises and the Gap Between Hopes and Reality
- Career crises often happen on Sunday evenings as the sun sets.
- There is a painful gap between one's hopes for themselves and the reality of their life.
- This personal problem is not unique but rather a common experience in today's age.
Living in an Age of Career Crises
The speaker highlights that we live in an age where our lives are regularly punctuated by career crises due to the clash between our expectations and the reality of our careers.
Reasons for Career Anxiety
- Our lives are frequently interrupted by career crises.
- Moments arise when what we thought we knew about our lives and careers clashes with a threatening reality.
- It has become easier than ever to make a good living but harder to stay calm and free from career anxiety.
Snobbery and Job Snobbery
The speaker explores snobbery as a global phenomenon, particularly job snobbery, which contributes to career anxiety.
The Problem with Snobbery
- Snobbery is not limited to any specific country; it is a global phenomenon.
- A snob takes a small part of someone and forms a complete judgment about their entire identity based on it.
- Job snobbery, valuing individuals based on their occupation, is prevalent in society today.
Envy and Equality
The speaker discusses envy as a dominant emotion in modern society linked to the spirit of equality, which can contribute to career anxiety.
Envy in Modern Society
- Envy is a taboo emotion but prevalent in modern society.
- Envy is closely tied to the spirit of equality, where people compare themselves to others who are similar to them.
- The closer two individuals are in terms of age and background, the greater the potential for envy.
High Expectations and Stress
The speaker explores how high expectations for our careers combined with deep inequality can lead to stress and anxiety.
High Expectations and Inequality
- Expectations for what individuals can achieve in their careers have never been higher.
- Society promotes the idea that anyone can achieve anything, leading to high hopes.
- However, this spirit of equality coexists with deep inequality, creating a stressful environment.
Material Rewards and Emotional Needs
The speaker discusses how society has linked emotional rewards to the acquisition of material goods, leading to career anxiety.
Materialism and Emotional Rewards
- Society has associated emotional rewards with acquiring material goods.
- People desire these emotional rewards rather than the material goods themselves.
- Understanding this perspective allows us to feel sympathy rather than contempt towards those seeking luxury goods.
Summary: Career Crises and Modern Society
The speaker summarizes that career crises are common in modern society due to factors such as snobbery, envy, high expectations, inequality, and the association of emotional rewards with material goods.
New Section
In this section, the speaker discusses the fascination with tragic art and its importance in society. They also highlight the lack of worship for something non-human in modern society.
Tragic Art and Tabloid Newspapers
- Tragic art, such as Shakespeare's plays, offers a different perspective on success and failure compared to tabloid newspapers.
- The speaker argues that we should learn from tragic art and its portrayal of characters who have lost but are not losers.
- Modern society lacks a central focus on something non-human, unlike other societies that worship gods or natural forces.
Nature as an Escape
- People are drawn to nature because it provides an escape from human competition and dramas.
- Looking at glaciers, oceans, and contemplating the Earth from outside its perimeters allows us to feel connected to something non-human.
New Section
In this section, the speaker explores the concept of success and how our ideas of success are influenced by external factors.
Society's Influence on Success
- Our ideas of success are often shaped by external influences such as parents, media, advertising, and marketing.
- We tend to adopt societal definitions of success without questioning if they align with our own desires.
- It is important to ensure that our ideas of success are truly our own and not simply imposed upon us by others.
Nuanced Definition of Success
- The speaker suggests that success cannot be achieved in every aspect of life; there will always be areas where we fall short.
- A successful life acknowledges the element of loss or areas where we may not succeed.
- It is crucial to reflect on our notions of success and make sure they align with our personal ambitions.
New Section
In this section, the speaker addresses a question about reconciling the idea of winners and losers with the concept of success.
Randomness of Winning and Losing
- The speaker emphasizes that it is the randomness of the winning and losing process that should be acknowledged.
- While society often focuses on justice, achieving true justice in all aspects of life is impossible.
- It is important to pursue justice but also recognize the limitations and uncertainties inherent in the concept.
Conclusion
The speaker encourages a deeper exploration of our ideas of success, acknowledging their strangeness and ensuring they are truly our own. They emphasize the importance of questioning societal definitions and embracing personal ambitions.
New Section
The speaker discusses the importance of not putting too much emphasis on a certain matter.
Importance of Not Overemphasizing
- It is mentioned that it doesn't matter much if there is an excessive focus on a particular issue.