How To Stay Mysterious (Make Her CHASE You)

The Importance of Mystery in Attraction

In this section, Jeffrey goes on a date with Jessica and tells her everything about his life. He follows the normal advice of opening up and talking about his interests and hobbies, but Jessica becomes less attracted to him as the day goes on. Adonis advises Jeffrey that attraction can only be intense when mystery is involved.

The Mistake Jeffrey Made

• Jeffrey tells Jessica everything about his life.

• Jessica becomes less attracted to him as the day goes on.

The Importance of Mystery in Attraction

• Attraction can only be intense when mystery is involved.

• Younger me would have continued to keep texting her, but that's not going to increase her attraction towards you.

• Girls are taking an interest in guys who aren't answering their questions directly.

Tip for Maintaining Mystery

• Never answer a question that will kill the conversation or lead it down a boring path.

• If she leads the conversation down a path that destroys your mysteriousness, don't reply immediately.

The Importance of Being Mysterious

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of being mysterious to attract women. He explains that women have primal desires for a strong and masculine man who can provide and protect for her. To demonstrate this, he uses examples from caveman days and how women would fantasize about men who could survive in dangerous situations.

Women's Primal Desires

• Women have primal desires for a strong and masculine man who can provide and protect for her.

• If a woman likes you, she will fantasize about you throughout the day, wondering what you're doing.

• Women will think positively about you if they don't know what you're currently doing.

The Importance of Mystery

• It is important to remain mysterious to keep a woman's fantasies alive.

• Revealing too much information destroys the mystery and ruins the fantasy.

Practical Tips

• Provide practical tips on how to remain mysterious by giving examples of sentences that he personally uses when talking to women.

How to be Mysterious

In this section, the speaker talks about how being mysterious can make you more attractive and interesting. He gives examples of how to answer questions about your day in a way that creates intrigue.

Being Mysterious

• The speaker advises not to give a detailed account of your day when asked by someone you're interested in. Instead, give a short answer that creates mystery.

• When asked what you did today, respond with "yes" or "bits" and maintain eye contact. This will create intrigue and make the other person curious about you.

• Being mysterious is not just for casual relationships but also important in serious relationships like marriage.

Importance of Being Mysterious

• The speaker emphasizes that being mysterious is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. It keeps things interesting and prevents boredom from setting in.

• According to research, the biggest killer of relationships is not financial issues or stress but rather lack of mystery and excitement.

Overall, the speaker stresses the importance of being mysterious in romantic relationships and provides tips on how to do so effectively.

Depolarization in Relationships

In this section, the speaker discusses depolarization in relationships and how it can lead to couples becoming more like friends than lovers.

The Importance of Staying Polarized

• Depolarization is when a masculine man and a feminine woman become too close to each other, causing them to lose their polarity.

• Staying polarized is important because it allows the man to remain masculine and mysterious while the woman remains feminine.

• In the past, men used to spend hours or even days away from their women, which helped maintain polarity in their relationships.

Why Depolarization Happens

• Familiarity and spending too much time together can lead to depolarization in modern-day relationships.

• In contrast, in the past, men would leave for extended periods for hunting or other activities, which helped maintain polarity.

The Benefits of Maintaining Polarity

• Maintaining polarity can lead to increased energy and passion between partners.

• Doing exciting things separately can help destroy familiarity and increase mysteriousness between partners.

Depolarization Stems from Familiarity

In this section, the speaker talks about how depolarization stems from familiarity and how it can be detrimental to a relationship.

The Problem with Being Too Familiar

• Being too familiar with your partner can lead to depolarization in the relationship.

• Spending too much time together, talking every day, and having sex every day may seem like normal things in a relationship but they can deteriorate the long-term survivorship of the relationship.

• The speaker shares his personal experience of becoming too close to his girlfriend and how it was costly for him.

The Importance of Mystery in Relationships

• The speaker asks the audience to imagine themselves as a woman dating a normal man and questions whether they would find that man mysterious or not.

• The speaker shares two pictures that moved him and talks about the importance of limited time together in relationships.

Going to War for Your Relationship

In this section, the speaker talks about the concept of going to war for your relationship and how it is important for healthy long-term relationships.

Going to War for Your Relationship

• The speaker talks about how going to war is an important concept for healthy long-term relationships between a masculine man and a feminine woman.

• He compares two couples - one where the man is going off to war and another where he finds a way out - highlighting the difference in their passion towards each other.

The Value of Being Mysterious

In this section, the speaker talks about how being mysterious can add value to a relationship and how abandoning one's duty to go to war can lead to the destruction of mysteriousness in a relationship.

Abandoning Duty for Comfort

• Overweight men who refuse to go to war are likely to be comfortable with staying at home.

• Such men may lose respect from their wives and experience a decline in sexual intimacy.

• Familiarity breeds contempt, leading to the loss of mysteriousness in relationships.

• Abandoning one's duty leads to resentment and further destruction of mysteriousness.

Most Men Live Like This

• Most men today are like the overweight man who refuses to go to war.

• They spend most of their time at home, becoming depolarized and familiar with their partners.

• The mystery goes away, leading to boredom and lack of passion.

The Value of Being Mysterious

• Being away from one's partner for an extended period adds value by creating polarity and passion.

• Couples who have been apart for some time tend to be more passionate when they reunite than those who have not been apart.

Sacrificing for One's Country

In this section, the speaker clarifies that he is not advocating for people sacrificing their lives for their country but rather highlighting the value of sacrifice in general.

Sacrifice Adds Value

• The speaker is not advocating for people to sacrifice their lives for their country.

• Sacrifice adds value to relationships and life in general.

• People who have sacrificed tend to appreciate life more and have a greater sense of purpose.

Conclusion

• Sacrifice adds value to life, but it does not necessarily mean sacrificing one's life for one's country.

• Sacrificing can add value to relationships by creating polarity and passion.

The Importance of Disappearing in a Relationship

In this section, the speaker talks about his experience as "the other guy" who avoided doing hard things and how it led to the destruction of relationships. He emphasizes the importance of disappearing and having a mission to pursue something difficult.

The Dangers of Being Too Familiar

• Being too familiar with your partner can lead to destruction of love.

• Men need to disappear and have a mission that requires everything from them, including time away from their partner.

• Pursuing something incredibly difficult is attractive to women once they are in love with you.

Personal Experience

• The speaker has been "the other guy" who avoided doing hard things.

• He had a girlfriend who he played video games with, but it became his hellhole when she became less sexually interested in him.

• When a woman becomes less submissive and supportive, especially sexually, it makes men insecure.

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