10 Mistakes ALL Men Make on Dates

The Top 10 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Dating

In this video, the speaker shares his experience of teaching guys and doing dates himself for 23 years. He lists the top 10 biggest mistakes that guys make in dating.

Mistake #1: Planning a Date Far Away

• Most guys put a lot of time and effort into planning a date far away.

• Doing the date half an hour away or an hour away from your place lowers the odds of ending up back at your place.

• Do the date near your place or her place to increase the chances of hooking up on the first date.

• The ideal location is within walking distance of where you live.

Mistake #2: Setting Up Dates at the Wrong Time

• Going on a date at the right time of day is crucial.

• Evening is culturally more viable as it's when fun things happen and sex happens.

• Venues open at night are more conducive to a date than those open in the morning.

• Setting up dates with not enough time can ruin them. Always have enough time for something to happen between you two.

Mistake #3: Not Being Confident Enough

• Confidence is key when it comes to dating.

• Women want men who are confident, assertive, and know what they want.

• Don't be afraid to take charge and lead during a date.

Mistake #4: Talking Too Much About Yourself

• Talking too much about yourself can be offputting for women.

• Instead, focus on getting to know her by asking questions and actively listening to her answers.

Mistake #5: Being Too Negative

• Negativity can be draining and unattractive.

• Avoid complaining or talking negatively about anything during a date.

Mistake #6: Not Dressing Appropriately

• Dressing appropriately shows that you care about the date and respect her.

• Dress for the occasion and make sure your clothes are clean and well-fitted.

Mistake #7: Not Being Present

• Being present during a date means being fully engaged in the moment.

• Avoid checking your phone or getting distracted by other things.

Mistake #8: Not Making Physical Contact

• Physical contact is important to build attraction and intimacy.

• Start with small touches like hand-holding or touching her arm, then gradually escalate as the date progresses.

Mistake #9: Trying Too Hard to Impress

• Trying too hard to impress can come across as insincere or desperate.

• Be yourself and focus on having fun rather than trying to impress her.

Mistake #10: Not Following Up After the Date

• Following up after a date shows that you're interested in seeing her again.

• Send a text or call within 24 hours of the date to express your interest in seeing her again.

Setting Up Dates for Success

In this section, the speaker discusses how to set up dates for success by choosing the right location and time window.

Choosing the Right Time

• Dates that end in sex are easier when you have more time and are at the right time of day.

• Set up your dates at the right time and with the right time window to make them memorable.

Choosing the Right Location

• Choose a location that is memorable to the girl.

• Consider what she likes and what would be a great date for her.

Flirting Mistakes to Avoid

In this section, the speaker talks about common flirting mistakes that men make on dates.

Not Flirting

• The biggest mistake guys make with women is not flirting.

• Having boring platonic conversation will lead to boredom and frustration.

• Make it man-to-woman on a date by teasing, showing interest, and getting physical.

Making It Man-to-Woman

• If you don't flirt or show any interest, she will think you are a little wussy pathetic man who does not have the balls to do it.

• The very fact that you're on a date with her says to her this guy's gonna make it man-to-woman.

• Watch videos on flirting or teasing if you don't know how to do it.

Going for Physical Escalation

In this section, the speaker discusses why going for physical escalation is important and how it can lead to success on dates.

Not Going for Physical Escalation

• The biggest sticking point personally when I learned dating was not going for physical escalation.

• Learn how to talk to girls, get phone numbers, get dates, and flirt.

• But don't forget to get physical and go for the kiss.

Making the Move

• If you don't make the move, it's very rare that the girl will make it for you.

• She will be judged much more than you will if she makes the move.

• Click on the link below this video to see an example of me on a date escalating and kissing exactly.

How to Relax and Enjoy a Date

In this section, the speaker discusses how to relax and enjoy a date without appearing too nervous or trying too hard.

Assume Attraction

• The girl came on a date with you because she likes you. Assume attraction and act accordingly.

• You don't have to do incredible things or perform feats of magic. Most of what you're doing is assuming attraction and not messing it up.

Don't Over-Escalate

• Flirting and escalating are important, but there is such a thing as over-escalating.

• Kissing a little bit on the date is great, but kissing over and over again for hours can get stale.

• If you kiss too much before taking her back to your place, she may feel like going back to your place is specifically for sex.

Let It Breathe

• Girls typically need time and comfort before having sex. Pushing things too fast or appearing to have an outcome in mind can be off-putting.

• Women love sex, but they want it for the experience rather than just being another notch on someone's bedpost.

• As long as things are getting better and better, it doesn't matter how fast or slow it's going.

Making Dates Perfect

In this section, the speaker discusses how trying too hard to make everything perfect can actually ruin a date.

Don't Try Too Hard

• Trying too hard to make everything perfect can make the guy look extremely nervous and try-hard.

• Overwhelming oneself with trying to make everything perfect can make the girl think he has an agenda or wants something from her.

• The girl came on a date with you because she likes you. Relax and assume attraction.

Avoid Being Too Obvious

• Flirting and escalating are important, but there is such a thing as over-escalating.

• Kissing too much before taking her back to your place can make her feel like going back to your place is specifically for sex.

• Leaving a little more to the imagination can make her more comfortable going back to your place.

Enjoy the Experience

• Women love sex, but they want it for the experience rather than just being another notch on someone's bedpost.

• As long as things are getting better and better, it doesn't matter how fast or slow it's going.

Assume Attraction, but Connect and Get to Know Her

In this section, the speaker discusses how to approach a date by assuming attraction but also focusing on connecting with and getting to know the girl.

Flirting vs. Getting to Know Her

• Assume attraction on the date because she showed up she already likes you.

• Be fun and lighthearted and flirty at the start of the date, but primarily focus on getting to know her throughout the majority of the date.

• Don't make flirting the only thing you're doing on the date; there has to be some depth, content, and genuineness.

Connecting with Her Effectively

• The major thing you're doing on a date is connecting with a girl and getting to know her.

• Facts do matter, but what really matters is that she gets to know your vibe and what it's like to interact with you.

• Going into the date, have an idea of what you're actually looking for in a girl so that you can qualify her during the date.

Qualifying Her: Flip The Script

In this section, the speaker discusses how flipping the script during a date can help create a situation where she wants to connect with you.

Selling Yourself as High Value

• During a job interview or a date, one person is usually selling themselves more than it's going back in another direction.

• Most guys when they go on dates are interviewing for the position of her boyfriend; flip it around and have her interviewing for the position of your girlfriend.

• Going into the date, have an idea of what you're actually looking for in a girl so that you can qualify her during the date.

Qualifying a Girl

In this section, the speaker discusses the importance of qualifying a girl on a date and provides an example of how to do it.

The Biggest Objective on a Date

• Qualifying the girl is the biggest objective on any date.

• The conversation should be focused on determining if she meets your standards.

Common Dating Mistakes

In this section, the speaker discusses common dating mistakes that men make and why they should be avoided.

Places to Avoid Taking a Girl on Dates

• Dinner is not ideal because it's a long event that you don't have control over.

• It can be awkward if sexual tension is high but you still have more food coming.

• Physical contact and escalation are difficult when sitting across from each other at dinner.

• Comedy clubs or movies are not good for first dates because they don't allow for interaction between you and the girl.

• Starbucks or similar venues are not special and not conducive to physical contact.

Worst Date Experience

• The speaker had a bad experience at a high-end steakhouse where the waiter kept interrupting every time he started getting intimate with his date.

Planning the Perfect Date

In this section, the speaker discusses common mistakes that men make when planning a date and provides tips on how to avoid them.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• Choosing a bad location: Avoid dinner and movie dates. Instead, choose a coffee shop with good ambiance or a tea house with an elegant corner for privacy.

• Failing to control logistics: Control the mood of your date by controlling its logistics. Make sure you and your date are interacting with each other throughout the date.

• Not taking her home: If you want a relationship to develop, you will eventually have to take her home. This move is unavoidable, so muster up the courage to do it.

• Waiting too long to take her home: Don't wait too long before taking her home. Even if you don't end up having sex, taking her home will make her feel more comfortable and increase the likelihood of seeing each other again.

Taking Her Home

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of taking initiative in relationships and provides tips on how to take a girl home.

Tips for Taking Her Home

• Take initiative: As the man in the relationship, it's your job to lead. The girl is unlikely to take initiative in this area.

• Learn techniques: There are techniques for taking girls home that can be learned through videos or other resources.

• Get over fear: Overcoming fear is a big part of mustering up the courage to take her home.

• Don't wait too long: Waiting too long to take her home will result in missed opportunities.