How to use your mind to boost your self-esteem and manifest your goals |@MarisaPeer

Understanding Your Mind

In this section, the speaker explains how the mind works and how it affects our lives.

The Mind's Job

• Our mind does what it thinks we want it to do.

• It bases its actions on what we tell ourselves.

• The mind loves familiarity and hates unfamiliarity.

Changing Your Life

• To change your life, make self-praise familiar and criticism unfamiliar.

Building Self-Esteem

In this section, the speaker talks about building self-esteem and understanding the role of parents in raising children.

Dialogue with Your Mind

• Learn to dialogue with your mind for maximum success.

• Understand the job of parents is to raise their kids with high self-esteem.

Three Things to Learn

• Learn three things to massively raise your own self-esteem.

• Become the CEO of your own brain by learning how to dialogue with your own mind.

How to Raise Self-Esteem

In this section, the speaker explains how to raise self-esteem and become a powerful manifester.

Finding High Self-Esteem

• You cannot find high self-esteem outside of yourself.

• To raise your self-esteem, you need to look inside yourself.

Understanding Your Mind

• The workings of the mind are not complicated.

• Your mind's job is to make your thoughts real.

Think Better Thoughts

• Your job is to think better thoughts.

• Every day, your mind makes your thoughts real.

Understanding Your Mind

In this section, the speaker explains how our mind works and how we can use it to our advantage.

The Genie in Your Mind

• Our mind is like a genie that grants our wishes, so we need to be careful what we wish for.

• If we focus on negative thoughts, such as chronic diarrhea or explosive gas, the genie will give us what we asked for.

• We need to tell our mind what we want in a positive way, such as wanting attention for being smart or kind.

How You Feel About Everything

• The way you feel about everything comes down to the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

• To change how you feel about something, you need to make better pictures and say better words.

• For example, instead of saying "I don't want to get on that plane," say "I love getting on a plane."

Familiarity vs. Unfamiliarity

• Our mind loves what is familiar and hates what is unfamiliar.

• To make positive changes in our life, we need to make good things familiar.

• One way to do this is by making self-praise familiar. Saying things like "I'm good" or "I'm smart" will help us feel more confident and positive.

Changing Negative Thoughts

In this section, the speaker explains how negative thoughts can hold us back and provides strategies for changing them.

Negative Self-Talk

• Negative self-talk can hold us back from achieving our goals.

• Examples of negative self-talk include saying "I can't do it" or "I'm not good enough."

• We need to replace these negative thoughts with positive ones by using affirmations.

Affirmations

• Affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves.

• They can help us change our beliefs and behaviors.

• Examples of affirmations include "I am confident" or "I am successful."

Visualization

• Visualization is a powerful tool for changing negative thoughts.

• By visualizing ourselves achieving our goals, we can create a positive mindset and increase our chances of success.

• We should visualize ourselves in detail, using all of our senses.

Overcoming Fear

In this section, the speaker explains how fear can hold us back and provides strategies for overcoming it.

The Root of Fear

• Fear is often rooted in past experiences or beliefs.

• To overcome fear, we need to identify the root cause and challenge those beliefs.

Challenging Beliefs

• We can challenge our beliefs by asking ourselves questions such as "Is this belief true?" or "What evidence do I have to support this belief?"

• By challenging our beliefs, we can change them and overcome fear.

Taking Action

• Taking action is key to overcoming fear.

• We should start with small steps and gradually work up to bigger ones.

• By taking action, we build confidence and reduce fear.

Boosting Self-Esteem

In this section, the speaker talks about how to boost self-esteem by making praise familiar and criticism unfamiliar. She also explains how our mind cannot hold conflicting beliefs and how we need to choose which lane we want to drive in.

Making Praise Familiar

• The way to massively boost your self-esteem is to make praise familiar.

• You can make things familiar by doing them repeatedly until they become simple.

• Self-esteem means what you think of yourself, not what others think of you.

• When you have self-esteem, you're not arrogant but also not insecure because you understand that it comes from within.

Choosing Your Lane

• You can't be in both lanes of confidence and insecurity at the same time.

• Our mind cannot hold conflict and beliefs, so we need to decide which lane we want to drive in and stay in it.

• To avoid confusion, we need to make good stuff familiar and criticism unfamiliar.

Dialoguing with Yourself

• We need to learn how to dialogue with ourselves and be the CEO of our own mind.

• The most important word you will ever hear in your whole life should come from yourself because if you're mean or critical towards yourself, it's true.

The Power of Imagination

In this section, the speaker talks about how imagination can be used to trick the mind into producing physical responses.

Using Imagination to Produce Physical Responses

• The speaker asks the audience to imagine squeezing a lemon and licking off the drops.

• The audience is asked to eat an imaginary half of a lemon with their eyes closed and notice their taste buds reacting.

• The speaker explains that even though there was no actual lemon, the mind produced saliva in response to the imagined experience.

• A question is posed asking if there was a lemon or not. The answer is that both answers are correct because it was an imagined experience.

How the Mind Works

In this section, the speaker discusses how the mind works and its ability to remember information.

Memory and Learning

• The speaker explains that 500 years ago, people needed their teeth for survival as there were no pureed foods or shakes. Eating acidic foods like lemons eroded tooth enamel which was problematic.

• When anything acidic is eaten, saliva is produced by the mind to protect teeth from erosion.

• The speaker shares that they have a phenomenal memory and can recall information easily. They attribute this ability to their brilliant mind being like Google.

• An example is given where one of the speaker's children struggled with Spanish but after listening to one of their audios on passing exams within three days, they were able to ace their Spanish exam.

The Power of Suggestion

In this section, the speaker talks about the power of suggestion and how it can be used to influence physical responses.

Using Suggestion to Influence Physical Responses

• The speaker asks the audience to stand up and point their left arm towards them.

• The audience is asked to swing their left arm as far behind them as possible and mark where it reaches.

• The speaker encourages the audience to talk to their arm and tell it that it is super flexible and can go a third further than before.

• The audience is then asked to swing their right arm behind them, knowing that it will go further because they have suggested it.

The Power of Visualization

In this section, the speaker discusses the power of visualization and how it can help individuals achieve their goals.

Visualization Techniques

• Athletes who can visualize themselves succeeding have an advantage over those who cannot.

• Bodybuilders and yoga practitioners use visualization to improve their performance.

• Visualization is safe and neutral but can be a powerful tool for changing one's life.

Magnetic Imagery Exercise

• Imagine a magnet implanted in your chin that pulls you forward.

• As the magnet moves to the back of your head, imagine being pulled backward.

• With the magnet in your left ear, imagine being pulled to the left.

• With the magnet in your right ear, imagine being pulled to the right.

The Power of Your Mind

In this section, the speaker emphasizes that our minds do not differentiate between good or bad thoughts. Our thoughts become real because our mind makes them so.

The Power of Your Mind

• Our minds do not know or care if what we tell it is good or bad, useful or pointless, beneficial or not.

• Thoughts become real because our mind makes them so.

Eminem's Success Story

In this section, Eminem talks about his difficult childhood and how he channeled his anger into rap. He also discusses the importance of believing in oneself and having the drive to succeed.

Overcoming Adversity

• Eminem had a difficult childhood where he was bullied in school and struggled with his mother's addiction.

• He turned to rap as a way to channel his anger and prove people wrong who said he couldn't be successful because of his appearance.

• Despite not winning a rap competition, Jay-Z saw potential in him and helped make him famous.

Believing in Oneself

• Eminem emphasizes the importance of having the belief that you can achieve greatness.

• He encourages others to get angry and use that energy to fuel their success, citing Ed Sheeran as an example of someone who did just that.

The Power of Beliefs

• Eminem discusses how our beliefs shape our reality and influence our actions.

• He introduces the concept of looping thoughts, where negative beliefs lead to negative feelings, behaviors, and actions.

Changing Negative Thoughts

• Eminem provides an example of a ladder of looping thoughts, starting with the thought "I'm not enough" leading to negative feelings such as sadness or anger.

• He emphasizes that changing negative thoughts is key to changing one's reality and behavior.

The Importance of Believing in Yourself

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of believing in oneself and how it affects our behavior and actions.

The Impact of Not Believing in Yourself

• When we don't believe in ourselves, we feel empty and not enough.

• This feeling leads to behaviors such as overeating, seeking praise or validation from others, or even turning to alcohol.

• By changing our mindset and telling ourselves that we are enough every day, we can start to feel happy, confident, and powerful.

The Power of Positive Self-Talk

• Using positive self-talk can have a significant impact on our emotions and behaviors.

• By starting each day with affirmations like "I am enough," we can feel happy, energized, accepted, powerful, and loved.

• These positive feelings can lead us to take actions towards achieving our goals.

Behaving Like You Believe You Are Enough

In this section, the speaker discusses how behaving like you believe you are enough can lead to success.

Actions That Come From Positive Self-Belief

• When you believe that you are enough and feel good about yourself, you will work towards your goals with confidence.

• You will be more willing to take risks because rejection won't affect your self-worth.

• You will behave kindly towards others because you know that nobody can reject you except yourself.

Manifesting Your Goals Through Self-Belief

In this section, the speaker explains how to manifest your goals through self-belief.

The Three Steps to Manifesting Your Goals

• Step 1: Believe that you are worth it. Without believing in yourself, you won't be good at manifesting.

• Step 2: Know what your goal looks like. Visualize and understand what achieving your goal will look like.

• Step 3: Put it into practice. Take action towards achieving your goal, even if it means doing things you don't want to do.

The Importance of a Success Mindset

In this section, the speaker emphasizes the importance of having a success mindset and how it can lead to success even without talent.

Having a Success Mindset

• 80% of your success is down to having a success mindset.

• Belief without Talent takes you further than Talent without belief.

• People with belief and no Talent can do better than those with huge Talent and no belief.

• If you have both, you can go anywhere.

Steps to Achieving What You Want

In this section, the speaker outlines three steps to achieving what you want: impressing upon yourself what you want, coding it in by thinking about what it looks like and what you're prepared to do to get it, and erasing limiting beliefs through movement.

Impressing Upon Yourself What You Want

• Impress upon yourself what you really want by touching the area between your eyebrows with two fingers.

• Say in a powerful voice "I require this. I insist on it. I'm giving this to myself."

Coding It In

• Code it in by thinking about what it looks like, feels like, sounds like.

• Repeat after me: "What I require for myself is confidence. What I insist on for myself is knowing I'm enough."

Erasing Limiting Beliefs Through Movement

• Move from side to side while focusing on erasing limiting beliefs and blocking thoughts.

• Be in an open, receiving position with hands and feet apart.

Building Unshakable Confidence

In this section, the speaker guides the audience to feel and visualize what it's like to wake up full of confidence. They encourage the audience to notice how they would move, talk, and sound if they had unshakable confidence.

Feeling Confident

• Imagine having unshakable confidence and enoughness.

• Notice how you would move, talk, and sound with confidence.

• Observe how you dialogue with yourself in a powerful way.

• Feel the I am worth it mindset in your body.

Upgrading Your Mindset

• Upgrade your own software by getting rid of limiting beliefs and blocking thoughts.

• Eradicate that critical voice by moving from side to side.

• Use powerful language and positive images to install into your mind how you want to be.

Taking Action

• Impress upon yourself before lessons that you have a phenomenal memory.

• Use powerful words and languages to make your mind your best friend.

• Grow your self-esteem because no one can do that better than you.

Conclusion

The speaker concludes by thanking the audience for their time and encouraging them not just to hear but also do what they learned from the talk.

Final Thoughts

• Thank the audience for their time.

• Encourage them not just to hear but also do what they learned from the talk.