How to be a Real Man
http://www.BedrosKeuilian.com presents: How to be a Real Man How do you show up as a man? Do you suffer in silence, always walking on eggshells, act passive-aggressive, and eventually become hostile towards those around you? Instead of dealing with your issues head-on, do you suppress those feelings and bury them deep down inside, hoping they'll go away? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that this is unhealthy and not a real man's behavior. The truth is, your current status is no way to live life and will eventually collapse around you. In today's Empire episode, Bedros Keuilian explains the characteristics of a real man, what you can do to gain confidence in your own skin, why looking for validation from others detrimental, ways to address the trauma in your past, how to destroy a negative belief system, and so much more. "Go and do the deep work. Go figure out what your limiting factors are. Fix them. You're not broken. You're just not completely healed yet." -Bedros Keuilian Here’s what you don’t want to miss: 6:45 Why most men lead lives of quiet desperation 7:39 How men can heal the trauma in their lives 8:49 Why men self-sabotaging and never deal with their issues 11:26 How to hunt and destroy negative belief systems 12:10 How medicating will destroy your drive and creativity 13:11 Why you might need to suck it up and get therapy 14:30 How being broken will impact your entire life 17:26 How your sense of self-worth developed as a child 18:50 Why real men are savage but also servants 21:05 The types of men with emotional scars 21:50 The kinds of conversations that cause a ripple-effect Connect with Bedros Keuilian: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bedroskeuilian/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/bedroskeuilian/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/user/KeuilianInc Twitter https://twitter.com/bedroskeuilian LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bedroskeuilian/ Buy Man Up and get Bedros' High-Performance Leadership Course for FREE: https://manup.com/ Subscribe to My Channel for weekly videos: http://www.youtube.com/bedroskeuilian/?sub_confirmati
How to be a Real Man
How to be a Real Man
In this video, the speaker talks about how to be a real man and what it means to be comfortable in your own skin. He shares his personal experience of gaining confidence and peace of mind as he got older.
Comfortable in Your Own Skin
- As you get into your 40s, there's a level of evolution that takes place where you become comfortable in your own skin.
- When you are comfortable in your own skin, you gain a sense of confidence that comes from within.
- People want to be comfortable in their own skin because it looks like you're happy, have peace of mind, and doing well in life.
Identity
- Your identity is not tied to material possessions or accomplishments but rather the person you are and the way you show up for others.
- Losing everything would have been devastating when he was younger but now he has peace knowing that nothing he loses is a byproduct of who he is.
Dealing with Uncertainty
- Even though 2020 was not a season of winning for his business, he still had happiness and peace of mind because his identity wasn't tied to it.
- Being okay with losing everything if necessary allowed him to deal with uncertainty without fear or anxiety.
Overall, being a real man means being comfortable in your own skin and having confidence that comes from within. Your identity should not be tied to external factors such as material possessions or accomplishments. Dealing with uncertainty requires having peace knowing that nothing you lose is a byproduct of who you are.
How Not to Be a Real Man
In this section, the speaker talks about how most men lead lives of quiet desperation by suppressing their feelings and avoiding confrontation. He emphasizes the importance of doing deep work to heal oneself.
Characteristics of a "Real Man"
- Stuffing feelings deep down inside
- Walking on eggshells around everyone
- Avoiding confrontation
- Being passive-aggressive until exploding in anger
- Never doing the deep work that's going to heal you
- Ignoring and distracting yourself from your problems
- Pretending everything is okay when it's not
The Problem with These Characteristics
- Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.
- Men suffer in silence and avoid dealing with their issues.
- Traumatic events can leave scars that are never dealt with.
- Unresolved issues tend to resurface at inconvenient times.
What if Real Men Were Vulnerable?
In this section, the speaker discusses what it would look like if real men were vulnerable and did the deep work necessary to heal themselves.
Benefits of Vulnerability
- Open conversation becomes possible.
- Deep self-work can be done.
- Traumatic experiences can be processed through.
Negative Belief Systems
- Negative belief systems about oneself can cause self-sabotage.
The Project: Healing Men
In this section, the speaker talks about a program called "The Project" that helps men heal by doing deep emotional work.
The Purpose of The Project
- To help men become more vulnerable.
- To help men become servants of humanity.
- To help men heal emotionally.
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