The Female Hero Myth

In this section, the speaker discusses a book called "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" written by Google engineers who analyzed billions of Google searches. They found that pornography was one of the driving forces behind the development of the internet and technology. The speaker then goes on to discuss how women search for literary representations of pornography while men search for images.

Women's Pornographic Literary Product

• The Google Engineers segregated male searches from female searches and found that women searched out literary representations of pornography.

• The basic plot of the female pornographic literary product is that an innocent, well-meaning, and attractive young woman encounters a male who's a bit of a monster.

• There are five types of classic male monsters in these stories - vampire, werewolf, billionaire, pirate, and surgeon.

• The archetypal female in these pornographic romances seduces and contains the aggressive male. This is her encounter with chaos.

Female Fantasies

• Females have fantasies about bad boys because there's no fun in taming someone who's already tame.

• Aggression is absolutely vital but because it's incredibly dangerous it has to be civilized.

Incorporating Sexual Fantasies into Your Sex Life

In this section, Dr. Peterson discusses the importance of incorporating sexual fantasies into your sex life and how it can help maintain satisfaction with a monogamous partner.

Importance of Incorporating Sexual Fantasies

• Raymond Chandler talked about the beauty industry in the fashion industry and how people spend billions of dollars on enhancing sexual interest.

• Incorporating sexual fantasies into your sex life is important because it's difficult to attain attractiveness to other people and maintain being attracted under many circumstances.

• Talking about your fantasies with your partner may free them up to talk about their own fantasies, which could lead to greater mutual interest in each other's desires.

Don't Throw Out the Baby with the Bathwater

• It's important not to throw out all aspects of immaturity when it comes to sexual fantasies. Instead, take cues from your fantasies in an intelligent way that doesn't hurt you or others.

• If you have unfulfilled sexual needs or desires, you're more likely to be tempted by affairs or betrayals. Incorporating those desires into a broader conception of what your sex life might be can help prevent this.

Final Thoughts

• Eric Neumann said "don't pretend to be better than you are." Don't lie about what you want or who you are sexually.

• If basic moral preconditions are met, think about incorporating sexual fantasies as an elaborated sexual game.